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How To Handle Someone Who Upsets You

Learning how to deal with someone who upsets you is an important skill. One that can lead to a more fulfilling life, and one that often leads to less conflict in your relationships. In this article, we will explore three strategies for handling those situations where someone upsets you: displacement, repression, and self-assertion. We'll also cover the pros and cons of each strategy.

By WarishaPublished 4 years ago 3 min read
How To Handle Someone Who Upsets You
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When someone upsets you, what do you do?

There are a few different ways that you can handle someone who upsets you. You can either confront the person who upset you, or you can try to ignore the situation and move on.

If you decide to confront the person who upset you, it is important to do so in a calm and collected manner. This will allow you to express your feelings without getting too emotional. It is also important to remember that the other person may not have intended to upset you, so try to give them the benefit of the doubt.

If you would rather ignore the situation, that is also an option. Sometimes it is best to just move on and forget about what happened. This is especially true if the person who upset you is not someone who is important to you.

How do you change the situation?

If you're upset with someone, it's important to take a step back and figure out how to change the situation. Whether that means communicating your feelings to the other person or taking some time for yourself, it's important to find a way to cope that works for you.

What are some helpful phrases to say to the person who's making you upset?

"I'm sorry, I didn't mean to hurt your feelings."

"Thank you for trying to help me, but I'm not ready to talk about this right now."

"I know you're only trying to help, but I need some time to figure this out on my own."

"Can we please talk about this later?

What can you do to avoid being hurt by people who are upsetting?

There are a few things you can do to avoid being hurt by people who are upsetting:

1. Don't take everything they say personally. Sometimes people are just having a bad day and they take it out on those around them. They may not even be aware that they're doing it. If you can brush off their comments and not let them get to you, you'll be better off.

2. Try to see things from their perspective. It's easy to get wrapped up in our own lives and forget that other people have their own problems and stresses. If you can try to see where they're coming from, it may help you to understand why they're behaving the way they are.

3. Talk to them about it. If someone is consistently saying or doing things that upset you, it's important to communicate with them about it. Let them know how their words or actions make you feel, and see if there's a way to resolve the issue.

4. distance yourself from them if necessary. Sometimes, no matter what you do, someone will continue to upset you. In cases like this, it may be best to distance yourself from the person, either physically or emotionally.

Being Respectful

Respect is a two-way street. In order to be respected, we must first respect others. This includes those who may upset us or with whom we disagree. It can be difficult to do, but it's important to remember that everyone has a different perspective and should be treated with kindness and understanding - even if they don't return the favor.

When someone upsets us, it's easy to lash out in anger or frustration. But this will only make the situation worse. Instead, try to stay calm and respectful. This doesn't mean you have to agree with the person or like what they're doing, but it does mean treating them with basic human dignity.

If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all. This old adage still holds true today. If you can't find anything positive to say to the person who upset you, it's better to remain silent than to say something hurtful in return.

We all make mistakes and sometimes we upset others without meaning to. If this happens, the best thing you can do is apologize and try to make things right. Everyone deserves a second chance - even those who may have wrong

Conclusion

It can be tough to deal with someone who upsets you, but there are a few things you can do to make the situation better. First, try to understand why the person is upsetting you. Second, communicate calmly and directly with the person to resolve the issue. Finally, if necessary, take a break from the person or situation until you're able to calm down. By following these steps, you'll be better equipped to handle someone who upsets you in a constructive way.

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