"Every dish is your daughter's favorite, what about the 5 of us?" "Get out if you don't eat it"

Smart parents will neither rob the rich to help the poor nor force their well-off children to help the poor unconditionally, nor will they dislike the poor and love the rich and despise their poor children. In the eyes of parents who truly love their children, No matter how well their children live, they are their own flesh and blood, and they are their hearts and minds.

The parents who can't handle it are the other way around, either robbing the rich to help the poor, hurting the children who are living well, or looking down on the children who are living poorly.

Psychologist Shi Qijia once said: "The price of childhood trauma is the desire for love for a lifetime, and there is nothing else."

Among all the injuries, the injuries from relatives, especially parents, are definitely the most ruthless, which makes people feel the pain in their hearts. The injuries of the original family often take a lifetime to heal.

"It's normal and human nature to dislike the poor and love the rich. It's normal and human nature. If this happens to my relatives and friends, I can still accept it. However, the people who despise me are my parents, and the people who despise me are my close relatives. , I'm really in pain."

When it comes to his family of origin, Mr. He, a man who has always been strong, couldn't hold back his tears.

01. From childhood to adulthood, I was the most unloved child in the family, who was old and solid and had no promising younger brother;

Mr. He is 35 years old this year, married for 9 years and has a twin brother.

In a multi-child family, it is easy for parents to prefer a certain child, and the He family is no exception.

"From childhood to adulthood, whether it's my parents, grandparents, or other relatives, they all liked my younger brother and ignored me because I was old and hard-headed, and I wasn't smart. Ability."

Mr. He's younger brother is not only better at pleasing the elders, but also smart. He doesn't seem to study hard. Anyway, he can't compare with his brother who writes questions until two or three in the morning, but his grades are always better than his brother.

In the end, the younger brother was admitted to a key university and became the pride of his parents. The parents specially arranged a three-day running water table to celebrate the younger brother. After going to a second school, my parents were extremely disappointed, let alone a school banquet, and there was no one to accompany Mr. He even when he checked in.

After graduating, Mr. He stayed in his hometown just like his younger brother. The difference is that his younger brother joined a state-owned enterprise and got a good salary. After working for three years, he bought it in the provincial capital with his own savings and the help of his parents. The house, married his colleagues, career and family double harvest.

After graduation, Mr. He joined a studio with a low salary. Although he wanted to buy a house, but he couldn't afford it, his parents said that the money was given to his younger brother and could not do anything. In desperation, Mr. He had to choose to continue living at home and marry his college classmate.

02. My daughter was wronged because of my little nephew. I slapped myself. As a man, I can't protect my wife and daughter. How can I be a person?

After marriage, Mr. He had a daughter, and his younger brother had a son. In this way, Mr. He's parents liked the younger son's family more, and their dislike of the eldest son's family of three became more and more obvious.

"In the beginning, I was very grateful to my parents for letting our family of three live at home without having to endure the hardships of being displaced. I am an adult and still living at home, I am really embarrassed. However, I found that this way As a result, it's no one else who is wronged, it's my wife."

The reason why the wife is willing to marry Mr. He is for love, and for this reason she accepts the request to live with her in-laws. However, while Mr. He's parents were picky about the eldest son's family of three, they disliked them for being unsatisfactory, they didn't earn as much as the younger son, and the heir did not live up to their expectations.

"My daughter-in-law also has to go to work, just like me, she has to leave at eight in the morning, take the subway for half an hour, get off work at seven in the evening, and arrive at nearly eight. Once at home, my wife has to cook non-stop. , My parents screamed that they were starving to death, and that my wife was not quick enough to sit on the sofa without moving. Also, my brother and sister-in-law would come over at mealtime and follow me when they went out to socialize. My parents waited for my wife to make the meal. Not only that, after dinner, they either continued to watch TV, went out for a walk, or went back to their respective houses. We washed the dishes, the clothes, and the floor. ."

During the Chinese New Year, something happened that made Mr. He finally realize how incompetent he was, and made his wife and daughter suffer all the grievances.

"Dad, why does my brother have 15 red notes, and I only have 1?" The red notes in the daughter's mouth, that is, the lucky money, the little nephew got 1,500, of which Mr. He's parents gave 1,000, and Mr. He and his wife gave 500. , and the 100 yuan in the daughter's hand was given by Mr. He's wife. Whether it was Mr. He's parents or his younger brother's family, he did not give his daughter a cent of the New Year's money.

Although it was not a big deal, the daughter felt very aggrieved and cried in her mother's arms, which made Mr. He feel very uncomfortable. Seeing his wife who was constantly comforting his daughter, Mr. He felt more and more incompetent.

"I understand, as early as when I got married, this is not my home, but my parents' home. My wife and daughter are actually dependent on others."

03. We moved out and asked my wife to cook for them, which is beautiful;

So, after the Chinese New Year, Mr. He immediately looked for a house and moved out with his wife and daughter. Although he had to pay 2,000 yuan in rent every month, he still had to do housework when he got home, but Mr. He's wife was obviously much happier. , the daughter is very happy that she can have a bedroom.

When Mr. He's family moved out, Mr. He's parents didn't stop him, they just watched from the sidelines, but then, they still didn't want to cook and kept sending messages to the eldest daughter-in-law, asking her to go to their house after get off work. Cooking for their old couple and younger brother's family, and then going back to cook for their granddaughter, was categorically rejected by Mr. He.

As a result, Mr. He's parents and his younger brother's family of 3 came uninvited. Mr. He and his wife just got off work, and they came back chatting and laughing after buying vegetables.

Mr. He wanted to get angry, but he didn't know how to do it. He and his wife were full of resentment to prepare the meal and serve it to the table. Unexpectedly, before they got angry, the sister-in-law, who was waiting to eat, woke up first.

"When I cook with my wife, the first thing I consider is my daughter's preferences. What I cook is what my daughter likes to eat. The girl is growing, how can I eat more?"

"Every dish is your daughter's favorite. What about the 5 of us?" Hearing his sister-in-law's words, Mr. He was no longer as good-tempered as before, and pointed directly to the door: "If you don't eat it, get out. Come to my house for a meal, you don't have money or effort, and you pick and choose, what do you think of us? Are you your free babysitter?"

Hearing that the eldest son, who has always been weak and honest, actually said such a thing, Mr. He's father couldn't accept it. He beat the table. The insult to the eldest son's family made Mr. He's parents and younger brother's family walk away.

Now, neither the parents nor the younger brother's family come to disturb their husband and wife, and Mr. He's family has also lived a peaceful life.

04. As a man, it is your responsibility that your wife and children are not wronged.

Hugo once wrote this sentence: "The greatest happiness is to be sure that someone loves you, someone loves you because you are you, or more precisely, someone loves you even though you are you."

As a man, it is your responsibility that your wife and children are not wronged. Your wife does not despise you and entrusts you with her life. If you treat her kindly, even if you can't get rich in the end, having a happy family is another kind of lucky life.

As a father, you must give your children a sense of security, treat your children well, and don't become unqualified parents like your parents, and let the tragedy continue to repeat itself.

In the second half of a man's life, he is fighting for his wife and children. Having a warm family and someone who knows the cold and the heat by his side is your greatest happiness.