Are Twin Flames Real Or Justified Obsession?

You’ve met someone, and it’s different. From the moment you laid eyes on this person, you felt a sense of familiarity and magnetic attraction. The more you get to know them, the more similarities you discover. It’s uncanny how they share your weaknesses, and it’s like you’ve met your mirror image.

Compelled by the uniqueness of this meeting, you search for answers. That’s how you find it — Twin Flame theory. It’s a concept you’ve never heard of, but it describes everything you are going through — like soulmates on steroids. You know it sounds ridiculous, but part of you wonders whether it could be true. After all, this is unlike anything you’ve experienced before.

The problem is Twin Flames is such a divisive topic, and it’s hard to get an unbias opinion. If you search online, you’ll find forum posts written by people who seem frankly obsessed, and websites claiming to be experts that conveniently sell readings and books on the topic. Conversely, you’ll see legions of critics who have no time for ideas of soulmates or spiritual development. To them, it’s nothing more than obsession and an excuse to ignore rejection.

So what should we think?

This post is written for anyone unsure where they stand and wants to hear both sides of the argument. As someone who understands the psychology of dating and has had been through this experience, I can bridge the gap for people who don’t know what to believe. I will cover the key perspectives and ideas for you to consider right now. By the end, you’ll have an in-depth understanding of what you’re going through, and you will feel much more comfortable deciding on what you believe.

Are you justifying your obsession, or is this your spiritual awakening? Let’s find out.

What Are Twin-Flames?

Before I get into my core arguments, it’s worth briefly revisiting the basic concepts of Twin Flames, so we are all on the same page.

I’d say with an obsession the one obsessed would be in control of the obsession, thinking and planning of where to go to be with them. They would in effect be physically obsessed. Displaying their actions to get a reaction from the one they are obsessed with.

With a twin soul they often try to shake off the feeling of wanting to be with them when it’s obvious (or seems so) that the other wants nothing to do with them. They try to free themselves from it but it’s a soul connection and those who would look like they are obsessed to outsiders are really tied into something that can’t be escaped from which makes them also the one feeling obsessed with because it’s the soul of the other which won’t let us go.

With twin souls there is the physical stuff on the surface that is what others see and judge them for, but for the twins most of what happens is going on under the surface. It’s for their ‘eyes’ only.

Trying to make this easier to understand…. imagine a picture of two people standing back to back trying to walk away and being connected by an invisible cord that won’t let them break free. They would be twin souls.

Imagine two people one facing the other and the other facing away. The one facing away may not even be aware of the other but the other deliberately pursues the other in any way they can think up. That would be an obsession.

feel like there's a fine line in which you'll sometimes wonder about yourself. I think the main thing for me being able to tell was that even when I would try to move on, the universe constantly threw me signals that reminded me of him. The universe forced me into a decision recently that probably will lead me directly to him. All of my other paths were sealed off and everytime I tried to tell myself I was crazy and forget about him, I'd become empty and lost inside.

Also, I want his happiness more than anything. Even if it meant him being with someone else. I just want to be near him and to make sure he's happy, whatever it takes, but I'll also accept his decision if he doesn't want to be near me. Friends is fine. Coworkers is fine. I just feel this need to help him grow and to grow as a person. I think that we're supposed to do something really amazing for the world with our individual talents, though I can never reveal this to the world because I get that I'll just look obsessed.

If you don't feel this kind of unconditional love underneath and at the core all your personal desires, it's probably not your twin. Ask yourself if you would like this person to be happy more than you want yourself to be happy.

There's also the fact that when I met him, he looked just as shaken as I was, as well as some other reactions that happened. So you have to take into account the other person's feelings towards you as well.