You are a passer-by in my life

You are a passer-by in my life, in the man's 40th year; You are a ray of sunshine in my life, and you are also in a man's 40th year. The year of no doubt is a mature beginning for men, because after ten years of standing up, there has been a great improvement in both their speech and their career.

However, the daily necessities of life completely drowned the feelings of most men. The past flowers and moons, the past love and affection, are just the memories of other years. The girl once held in her arms is now a middle-aged wife. But the vows of eternal love have become so pale after years of immersion. The family affection accumulated in the years has become all that sustains this stormy home.

In ordinary life, it is inevitable that there are some bumps, because no one can stay outside the life of five flavors. The nagging or lost taste from women's physiological period has become an insurmountable gap in their world. So they are in the embarrassment of neglect or inability to communicate, and win-win with this home of old and young.

The wife felt the sadness of this life, and the husband was tired of the misfortune of this life. A cold war without gunpowder smoke was thus kicked off. Women are making concessions for their children; Men can have a sound home for their children. The fatigue of both sides is under the cover of a marriage certificate.

Maybe it's no longer a woman's business that the red apricot comes out of the wall. They are fixed as a kind of complaining woman by the society, or a kind of yellow faced woman in the physiological period. Men are different, maybe their charm is at this time. Their success and maturity have become the dream of some young women who want to get something for nothing. They use their own feelings to shout to a kind of youth. As wives, these women either let themselves maintain their original status in name only, or dig out the charm of women at this stage to attract their men, or push men into the arms of others like a resentful woman. And men also have different choices because of the different wives around them. The result is nothing more than two, either which kind of red flag does not fall at home, the colored flag flutters outside, or choose a new combination of marriage.

The above feelings come from my speculation about life, but the TV series "people to 40" has explained another truth to me. First of all, let me introduce you to my husband Liang Guohui, the attending doctor of a psychiatric hospital, and then rise to the executive vice president of the hospital. His wife Zheng Jie is the director of the intensive care unit of different hospitals in the same city. ASUS, a student of Liang Guohui when he was the attending doctor.

For most middle-aged couples, there are no exceptions, just like the elderly. As Zheng Jie, who likes to pursue perfection and has some strength, she puts all her thoughts into her career and family. As Liang Jiahui, who focuses on his career, virtually puts the burden of life on his wife Zheng Jie As a result, the friction and contradictions they have been living for a long time appear, and the lack of communication or inability to communicate is even worse, but they have feelings

Liang Guohui is ill and has cancer. His life is only half a year He didn't want to tell his wife all this. He just wanted to spend the last moment of his life calmly Without knowing it, Zheng Jie still devoted herself to contributing everything to their family and dominating everything, including the dignity of a man

ASUS appeared, and a secret love for teachers burst out after several years of secrecy This was after she learned about Liang Guohui's illness ASUS is a very innocent girl. She loves Liang Guohui, a married man At first, I just wanted to use love to accompany the few teachers in the future, or use my own love to arouse the miracle of the teacher's rebirth It's just that Liang Guohui's growing illness has not improved because of her love

In order to love, she told Zheng Jie about her teacher's illness, so a touching scene appeared. Two women who were incompatible with water and fire, for the man they loved together, came hand in hand to rescue Liang Guohui Liang Jiahui survived, perhaps not because of love, but because the tumor was benign

Liang Guohui came back to life, but the two women who could work together for love in the past began their competition Although Liang Guohui did not agree to divorce, Zheng Jie chose to quit and they divorced There may be ASUS in it, but the main reason for divorce may be their lack of communication or inability to communicate

After the divorce, Zheng Jie soon found a new love in the liberation of rebirth, but she died before long Liang Jiahui chose his own student, a pure and infatuated girl, but did not give ASUS a deadline to marry her.

Asustek's eyes were blind because of Liang Guohui's brother-in-law (a abstainer). Perhaps out of guilt, Liang Guohui proposed marriage to ASUS, but ASUS opposed it. Because for true love, no one will choose a feeling out of charity, which is absolutely unacceptable for a person who pursues love.

Later, ASUS's eyes recovered because of Zheng Jie's patient's donation. After recovery, ASUS felt that there was an insurmountable gap between her and her teacher. Liang Guohui divorced Zheng Jie, but the concerns hidden in their bones are still there. This is something that has been imperceptibly influenced for more than ten years. It is naturally generated and cannot be broken.

ASUS chose to leave and wanted to return Liang Guohui to Zheng Jie. She left with a reluctant attachment, a wordless sadness and a pure tear. Her departure is an inexplicable loss for Liang Guohui. He knew that he couldn't find a reasonable reason to leave the student, not because she left, but because he couldn't give her the promise she expected. Even if it is against the promise, it is unfair for a person who regards love as the first.

Liang Guohui and Zheng Jie remarried because their hidden feelings need to be renewed. I know this ending is the tone of compound life. Their reunion seems to give people a happy ending. However, this sad and beautiful feeling may be more memorable. I think for Liang Guohui, he may never forget another woman in his life. She came to the world like an angel just to see him. She is a passer-by in his life, but she is also a ray of sunshine in his life. It was passers-by who made him understand life, and it was the ray of sunshine that made him feel warm.

I know that fulfilling such a relationship may turn it into a fairy tale drama. The value of art will be greatly reduced. However, in order to set off the heavy reality, is this the value we pursue in life? Such a martyrdom complex leaves us infinite sadness, leaving only two contradictory words in life: you are a passer-by in my life, and you are also a ray of sunshine in my life! This may be a man's forties, this may be a man's maturity!