Love: Persistence Over Perfection

We're both good, but this relationship isn't simple.

Many people fall in love, assuming that once they meet the right person, all their problems will naturally disappear. But in reality, relationships aren't built on compatibility; they're built on persistence.

It took me many twists and turns to understand that the two people who truly last aren't those who are overly sweet every day, or who never argue or disagree. It's those who, even after arguments, silent treatments, and misunderstandings, are willing to sit down and talk things through, slowly mending what's broken.

Love isn't sustained by feelings alone. A flutter of emotion is fleeting, but being together is a lifelong journey. Whether you can keep your mouth shut during an argument and avoid hurtful reactions, and whether you can speak up and handle grievances without feeling cold, are the key factors that determine if a relationship can survive.

Practice telling the truth when you feel like crying. Learn not to yell or curse when you're angry, but to pause and ask yourself what you're not being understood about.

Many people want to fall in love but aren't prepared for how to do it. It's not that you're not good enough, nor that he's too difficult. It’s that we're all still learning. We're learning how to draw closer without losing ourselves, how to stand firm while remaining gentle. We're learning how to heal the wounds left by words with actions and how to avoid losing control when the other person loses control.

Soulmates aren't just about "just meeting;" they're about taking the time to understand the vulnerability behind each other's emotions. If you give in, I'll give in, too. It's about caring for each other and letting go of past grudges.

True maturity comes when, after an argument, you stop worrying about who won and who lost and instead focus on how to mend things. When you can quietly be there for someone during their low points, rather than rushing to lecture or fix things, that's when you truly "get" them.

What remains in a relationship is the tacit understanding cultivated through practice, the choice to remain together despite trials. When you become more and more like a stable, capable lover in a relationship, that's when the relationship truly begins to become valuable.

So, we're all good because we're all still learning how to love and be loved. Love is not about finding the perfect person, but about two imperfect people willing to walk together.

Thank you for reading!