Be kind.

Why must I be kind?

In a society where I feel we are more connected than ever we seem to be ignoring each other more and more. People don't seem to talk to one another whether this is down to the fact that they see themselves as too bust I don't know. From my experience paying a stranger a passing compliment will evoke one of two things, a smile as they look down at the item of clothing you complimented or a look of confusion as if to say "why?". From my experience after receiving a compliment it is something I feel good about for a long time and is a massive confidence boost if I'm feeling down. Being kind is so simple and can make a person feel so much better about themselves for a long time. Offer to help someone it doesn't take too much time out of your day and will save someone else some time in theirs which they will appreciate.

If you do not have the courage to pay a passing person a compliment pay one to someone close to you. I'm sure a friend will appreciate it if you complement their, clothes, hair or notice something they have been working on. I appreciate this may be strange in a male friendship group but a simple "you been going to the gym recently mate" can be a big confidence booster. Help a friend with something spend some extra time with them ask if they're doing anything this weekend, find a sport they're interested in and offer to go with them. Check on your friends ask them how they are and how their weekend has been knowing someone cares about you is a big booster.

Men Vs Women

I feel like women are very good at complementing each other while men are very good at ridiculing each other. This is out of love I know and is very much the way of the male friendship group, however I feel like when 1 on 1 with a friend this is when you can ask them how they are doing and what they have been up to. The male friendship is a strange thing where fall outs are often but minor there have been many occasions where all male friendship groups have come to a head but it doesn't take much time at all for it to be sorted out.

This is where I feel the women could learn something from the men as when women fall out it is always disastrous. We have all seen it women friendships coming to an end because of something so small then both sides being too proud to apologise which leads to the issue never being solved. From boys they like to sly words said behind the back women are fantastic at falling out when I talk to my female friends and they casually drop in the fact they don't talk to their childhood best friend anymore because of some small reason blows my mind. I feel when friends fall out it has a very bad impact on mental health for both sides which is why it is so important to be kind to the people you are close to.

Being a good person

For me you don't have to be a great person or even a good one just a person who is willing to do better. It is natural to make mistakes in life and in friendships this is why I think it is equally important to be forgiving. I feel like a big part of being kind is being willing to accept the fact that not everyone is and that's OK. People are not perfect and they will show these imperfections in different ways and you must accept these imperfections. This works both ways you are not perfect and this does not make anyone a bad person. Bad people aren't concerned if they are good or bad they are just bad. As this is the first time we are alive we will do strange things and we will be wrong and do wrong.

The art of being a good person is not only in your actions but in your thoughts sometimes we will do things which makes us a bad friend, a bad sport or a bad loser this does not make us bad people however. We must embrace and learn from our mistakes and embrace and be patient towards other peoples. Be empathetic towards someone's situation this might bring you closer to a person and allow you to learn more about them it is human nature to judge however try not to do it openly.

Flaws in film

I recently watched inside out 2 and for me this is the perfect representation of someone doing bad things and being a bad friend however the look inside explains the reason behind her actions. While she made the wrong decisions which hurt and pushed away her friends we were able to see why this happened which made us side with Riley. We saw that a persons internal flaws can make them display external flaws which may make them seem like a bad person however her friends remained supportive and this allowed them to continue the friendship. We see the things loss and anger can do in Vinland saga where Thorfinn becomes angry and in his anger he does many bad things. When his anger passes however we see the man Thorfinn truly is a kind and caring man. We must stay by the side of our friends and loved ones showing them kindness even if they do not show us the same as we do not know what they are going through.

Thank You for reading :)