Daily fear of parenthood: Having a pet makes you even less inclined to have children

When I was in primary school, my parents raised a puppy. At that time, I didn't think it was difficult to keep a pet, because it was always my parents who took care of me. I only needed to play with the dog, but I never thought it would take training to keep the dog from barking, urinating or tearing down the house. My parents often say that raising a dog is just like raising a child. I couldn't understand it at the time, but I deeply agree with it in retrospect. If raising a life is like beating a game, then raising a pet is the primary task and raising a child is the ultimate boss difficulty.

I thought all pets were as understanding as our dog, until I visited a few colleagues who had dogs and cats and realized it wasn't easy to raise a sensible pet. Some colleagues because of moving kitten stress, two or three days pee on the bed, do not play with it on the meow. Some colleagues raise the edge of the pastoral home, but also everywhere to pee, colleagues go home from work every day to wipe urine spray deodorant. So when I decided to keep a pet, I ruled out cats and dogs at the first time, and finally decided to keep a small rabbit in consideration of the trouble.

Although rabbits are a lot easier to raise than dogs and cats, let alone human pups, the feeding process has been a source of deep frustration for me. I can now understand why some pregnant women have postpartum depression after giving birth, because the emotional impact of caring for a child is naturally more severe than caring for a pet. If you're planning on having children, try getting a pet first and simulate the parenting process in advance, because the frustration of having a pet is a good analogy to having a child.

The first frustration comes from the lack of familiarity. Even if I paid a lot of effort to the rabbit, every day in the home to raise free, teach it to go to the toilet, delicious and good to wait on, but it still go its own way to poop everywhere. This is not a problem with the rabbit breed, as a visit to the dog and cat avoidance groups reveals that there are plenty of dogs and cats that are not familiar with them. Some cats and dogs keep scratching and biting their owners for several months, and there are many dogs that still tear their homes apart no matter how much education is given. So what's the problem? It's in the nature of some pets.

Like rabbits, cats and dogs, the nature of children is randomly assigned by God. Some are angel babies, others are potential little demons, and they are not familiar with how to raise them, which leads to the unpredictable character and personality of children when they grow up. If you read a lot of social news, you'll find that the criminal cases of patricide, and the especially unfilial children, are enough to dissuade you from taking without limit and without gratitude. It is hard to imagine what children's values will be like in the current social climate, when they take their parents for granted even though they are grateful for the help they receive from strangers.

There are some things in human nature that cannot be changed by parenting or schooling, and it is very likely that parents will go to great lengths to teach them the wrong way. People's personalities are partly determined by nature, so children who grow up in the same family environment will have great differences in their views and personalities. However, many twins who have been separated for many years will have many similarities in their personalities and behaviors even if they grow up in different family environments and have different educational backgrounds. Giving birth to a child is like a big gamble, you invest a lot of money, time and energy to raise a child is likely to be better than a piece of char siu.

The second frustration comes from the partner's level of engagement. My ex-boyfriend always thought rabbits were poultry, not pets, so he hardly fed them. All the time, to buy a rabbit cage, cushion, fence, rabbit food, snacks, kettle, grass is my own responsibility, to feed the rabbit, play with the rabbit, to wipe the urine shovel feces to clean the toilet is I do, he just want to masturbate the rabbit when the rabbit grabbed over, even the rabbit struggle and resistance are regardless. It makes me afraid to think that when I have a child, I will be the one to take care of the child, and he will only have to play with the child every day when he is in the mood.

The explanation of the ex-boyfriend is that he would certainly be willing to pay if he had a cat, and he felt that the rabbit was not human, so he did not pay. What is the standard of humanness? Rabbit will lick hands, will recognize people, but also know how to act spoiled, this is not? If the child only knows crying every day for the first three months, can it also be said that if the child is good, he will give, the child is not good, so he will not give? Now we can finally understand why many mothers bereaved parenting, because the pregnancy is enough to make the mother and child bond, while the man need to pay nothing, without experiencing pregnancy reaction and labor pain can be a child, how can there be a deep relationship? I wouldn't risk widowhood parenting anyway.

The third frustration is the return on investment ratio. Scientifically feeding rabbits costs half as much money as owning a cat, but it also brings half as much happiness, perhaps even less, because rabbits are timid and less willing to interact with people. But if I had to choose again, I would definitely keep rabbits, because rabbits don't tear down their homes, don't shed their fur, don't bark like dogs and cats, at least they have a good feeding experience. But what about kids? A few months ago, I got up in the middle of the night to feed, regardless of occasions and day and night crying, which requires much selfless maternal love to tolerate ah.

Hope a child becomes a dragon, hope a daughter becomes a phoenix. Children go to school to school district room, children get married before the preparation of pre-marital property, with the current housing prices in big cities, parents half their life efforts are in this. But how many children will feed back their parents? Social competition is so big, roll so serious, self-reliance don't ask parents to ask for money is really not easy, still expect the child pension? It's good if the kids can take care of their families. So the return on investment on money is very low. How many children grow up to be able to make money and spend it?

Say emotional interaction again, read social news much, really do not hold too big hope to the family. What's more, how many children and their parents stay in a city now, the heart is not enough to spare, 996 work may let the heart is not more than. Why so many empty nesters? Why are more and more people keeping pets? Because people can not give emotional sustenance and companionship, pets can give. And the pet nature is bad, will not harm the owner, harm the parents of the children can be a lot. Given all this, the overall experience of having children may actually be worse than owning a pet.