You’ll never be happy

If you’re like me, you’re probably constantly looking for happiness. But what none of us realize is that happiness will not come when we get something or when we achieve a goal. Of course, we can't deny the joy we feel in these moments, but in this way we internalize the belief that "if this thing isn't mine/ if I don't achieve the given goal, I can't be happy," which is wrong.

In these years, in the life we live, we are constantly looking for something to achieve or obtain in order to experience fulfillment. But how often do we actually slow down for a moment, look back and say to ourselves "I really did it, I achieved my goal, even tho it was hard"? We are so caught up in this never-ending cycle and we don't realize that in order to be happy we must be grateful for what we already have.

We are taught that as soon as we get something we want so much, we pass on to the next and so on to the next…

In a flash of insight a few hours ago, I looked at my father and realized how much he had been drinking until recently and how after dozens of prayers, dozens of conversations and attempts, a few months ago he decided to stop. If anyone from you, reading this, grew up with an alcoholic father, you know what I'm talking about. I stopped for a moment and thought: how could I forget so quickly the suffering, the pain and the disappointment I have been feeling for years? For years I thought that once my father stopped drinking I would be happy. But I wasn't.

It made me realize how complicated we really are. We think that once we do that thing we'll feel happy all the time, but we don't realize that our brain will immediately find the next problem to tackle.

I sat for a moment and thought: am I happy right now? My answer was: I'll be happy when I get braces, when I finish school, when I'm rich, when I have right posture, when I stop using my phone so much, when…. When?

When what? When I die? Will I be happy then? Why do I need a condition in order to feel complete? If no matter how many things I get, I'm still not going to be happy, what's the point of talking to myself like that?

The truth is, no matter how many things you get, no matter how much money you make, no matter how much you think happiness will magically come, it will only come if you live in the moment, if you are grateful for what you have, and if you have the right mindset.

For years, people have been constantly looking for ways to be happy, but they didn't realize that happiness isn't really something we look for outside ourselves, it's something that we would only find in its purest form within ourselves - in the way we feel, in the way we think.

We look for it in the big occasions - birthdays, graduations... But it's so simple - every day in which we have the opportunity to take a breath, we can look deeply into ourselves, say to ourselves "Congratulations, I'm proud of you " and admit to ourselves how strong we really are.

Of course, I can't help but mention that what you have right now is someone else's dream, you dream of driving a Porsche instead of a Ford, but someone with a Polo dreams of driving a Ford, and some pedestrian dreams of having a car to go everywhere, some paralyzed man dreams of being able to walk, use his legs, run and play sports.

There is always someone who has more than us. But there are those who have less than us. That is why we should be grateful for what we have, be grateful and pursue our goals with the self-awareness that even on the way there, even if we don't achieve them, we will still be happy. Because we have the ability to live, make decisions and think. While some don't even have that.