Un-more

**Un-More**

I want to share a concept that has genuinely changed my life: the Un More Theory. It’s not a professional method or a clinical model — just something I’ve developed through real experience as a 40 year old mum of a two year old, living with medicated anxiety and learning how to rebuild my energy, confidence, and balance.

For most of my life, I gave more of myself than I actually had. I wanted to be the reliable one, the helpful one, the one who always showed up. The Un More Theory grew out of years of therapy, self reflection, and trial and error. It’s about gently reversing that habit of over giving so you can finally support yourself with the same dedication you give to everyone else.

**Un-More Your Time**

Time is the one thing we can’t make more of, and for years I treated mine like it was limitless. I worked five days a week — sometimes more — juggling multiple jobs and regularly clocking 13–14 hour days. My “days off” weren’t really days off at all. I was proofreading, helping people move, attending birthdays, showing up at fundraisers, and squeezing myself into every gap I could find.

I wasn’t lazy. I wasn’t unmotivated. I was simply exhausted from giving away every spare minute.

Un more your time by choosing where your energy goes. You don’t have to stop helping people — you just don’t need to give away the hours you need to rest, recover, and actually live. When I started doing this, I didn’t become less generous. I became more grounded, more present, and far more capable of showing up in ways that actually mattered.

**Un-More Your Money**

I’ve always been generous with money, even when I didn’t have much. I donated to every fundraiser, bought thoughtful gifts for every occasion, and contributed to every collection tin. Meanwhile, I was ending pay cycles wondering how I’d afford fuel for my car.

When I started un moreing my finances, everything shifted. I still give — but not at the expense of my own stability. Because I prioritised myself, I reached the end of pay cycles with a full tank of petrol. I paid off my car. I’m now in the process of buying a home instead of renting.

These aren’t small wins. They’re proof that when you stop draining yourself dry, you create space for real progress.

**Un-More Your Belongings**

This is the one area where un more means letting go. You don’t need to live in a minimalist home, but you also don’t need to carry the weight of excess stuff. Decluttering gave me more time, more clarity, and more breathing room. Fewer things to clean, organise, or replace meant more energy for the things that actually matter.

**Un-More Your Expectations**

This step is about compassion — for yourself and for others. I used to set goals so big they felt impossible, then beat myself up for not reaching them fast enough. Now, I still dream big, but I break those dreams into steps I can take. It’s not about shrinking your ambition. It’s about building momentum instead of burnout.

Join me as we explore how to un more your time, money, belongings, and expectations. I can’t promise you endless hours, overflowing savings, or a perfectly curated home — but I can share the steps that helped me build a life that feels lighter, calmer, and far more rewarding.

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