There are two things that heal you when you're down

Someone once asked, "What's the worst thing about this year?"

"The bad things you can say to others are nothing to worry about. The real bad things you don't say to others are things you only say to the tree, to the people closest to you.

It is only when the darkest hour comes that you will feel small and helpless. You will really feel the difficulty of life. You will feel that every day seems like a year, but you still hope to have the strength to move on.

Read. Read to pass this special time."

Everyone's life, are inevitable failures and blows.

Even if we don't always face major setbacks such as lost relationships, layoffs, and mounting debt, we can't avoid the small things that can make us feel up and down.

Sadness, anger, depression, fear, complaining... Bad mood is everywhere.

However, we believe that you are not the first person to encounter any problem in history or in China.

When you are in a bad mood, you might as well read these four books. You will find that reading can cure all unhappiness.

A study by Nandi Nathan, a psychologist at the University of Michigan in the US, found that the average person spends three-tenths of their life in a bad mood, and these negative emotions can be transmitted to others.

I have seen a girl crying, her father is bad-tempered, every time something bad happens, the whole family will become his punching bag: father roar at the whole family, mother roar at children, brother roar at sister......

She was the last link on the venting food chain.

Most of life's emotional problems come from carrying around emotions that belong to someone else. The anger of the father turned to the fear of his wife and children.

Why My Emotions Are Influenced by Others is a book by Albert Ellis, founder of Rational Emotional Therapy, who believes that emotions follow an ABC formula of triggers.

A is for someone or something that happened to you, like losing your keys, being criticized by your boss, etc.

B is for your opinion on the matter;

C is for how you feel and behave.

As A matter of fact, A itself will not directly lead to the result of C. The most important link is your opinion on the matter, which determines your feelings and emotions.

If you can see the beliefs behind your emotions and rewrite your beliefs, you can become the master of your emotions and not be controlled by the emotions of others.

Faced with the same setbacks and blows, some people angry, depressed, unable to get up after a setback; Some people fall down, pat the dirt, find a new way out.

Resilience is a person's ability to face and overcome various pressures and changes, and to recover from adversity and setbacks.

"Lean In" author and Facebook COO Sheryl Sandberg had an enviable career and family. Unfortunately, in 2015, her husband died suddenly, plunging the family into unprecedented pain.

"I fell into a void," Cheryl writes in The Alternative. The great emptiness took over my heart, my lungs, my ability to think, even to breathe."

Her friend Adam Grant, a renowned Wharton psychologist, tells Cheryl, "There are steps we can take to recover from the pieces of grief and disaster. "We're not born with resilience. Resilience needs to be developed."

In 2020, Cheryl announced her engagement and embarked on her next journey after losing her husband.

The Alternative combines Cheryl's personal experience with Adam's research on building resilience to provide an in-depth analysis and exposition of resilience.

"I now know that a person will grow after a trauma," Cheryl says. I also believe in pre-traumatic growth, where one doesn't have to experience tragedy to build resilience and prepare for the obstacles that lie ahead in life."

Are you Fully Charged?

Do you often have those days when you have a lot of work to do and no motivation?

Even if you take a vacation and do nothing, you still feel exhausted?

Do you want to make a change, only to wake up the next day feeling like an electrical appliance is running out of juice?

Our mental energy, like our physical energy, can be overspent and overdrawn, when we need it most: to recharge ourselves.

More than 70 percent of white-collar workers are stuck in their daily routine and unable to improve their productivity, according to a survey published by Are you Fully charged? It's a book to change your malaise.

The author puts forward 3 key, 21 details, let you every day full state, full efficiency point. For example, focus for 45 minutes and rest for 15 minutes; Use positive words as the glue; Start small and stay awake; Experience first, buy happiness; Make your health a priority; Make every bite count; Sleep better grades and so on...

The Way to Happiness

What do you think is happiness?

The present desire is satisfied, want to eat a bowl of hand-rolled noodles, just eat; Want to catch up with the fastest bus, just catch up, is happiness.

But these happy moments are fleeting, and you soon have the next wish, the next unfulfilled.

According to The Method for Happiness, a common misconception about happiness is that some one thing will ultimately change their happiness, such as a book or a teacher, a dream partner, success, an award or a great discovery.

Believing these myths can only lead to disappointment.

A happy life is not the result of one single event. It is the result of a series of unforgettable experiences and small moments.

The Way to Happiness is the work of Harvard University's most popular "life coach", Dr. Tyler Ben-Shahar, who divides our lives into four types based on our definition of happiness: the busy-goer, the hedonist, the nihilist, and the happiness-aware.

Philosopher Bertrand Russell said, "Happy people are truly living. They have free affections and wide interests, by which they control their own happiness, and this makes them the objects of interest and love of many others."

Rather than asking ourselves whether we are happy, we should seek a more useful question: "How can we be happier?"

In other words, happiness is a long, continuous process, not an ending point.

For example, I am happier now than I was five years ago. I also hope that, five years from now, I will be happier than I am now.

There is a line in Into the Wild: It is not necessary to be strong, but to be mentally strong.

When we have a strong heart, we will not go with the flow, will not give up easily, will not find the direction.

Strength is built, whether it's muscle or mind.

Reading is the best way to exercise your mental muscle, and the more books you read, the more firmly you will feel inside and in the direction of your life.