The Secret to Being Happy

We all want to be happy. We are constantly bombarded with images on Instagram and countless television ads telling us what happiness is....a handsome or beautiful lover or spouse, a great car, looking great, being the picture of fitness and having the elusive 7% body fat and perfect ABS.

But what exactly is the key to happiness and how can you make a powerful shift by the end of reading this article?

THE PROBLEM

We all grow up with parents and family who, though they mean well, love us CONDITIONALLY. We get the message that we need to constantly seek love from an outside source, our parents, siblings, teachers, friends and lovers/spouses. And even if we do get love it's never enough.

Why? Because of the underlying drive of our EGO which is a drive based on fear, lack and limitation, and the belief that we are not enough and that we never will be. So, we spend our whole lives trying to get others to give us love so we can feel like we are enough.

The secret to being happy is to switch from being a love seeker to a LOVE GENERATOR. So what is a love generator? Someone who chooses to generate love for him/herself. We're told by all of the gurus of every spiritual movement that true happiness only comes from within. The problem is that it's easy to say that happiness comes from within, but the challenge is HOW to generate love for yourself, so that you don't need it from others. Of course it's great to get love from others, but imagine how empowering it is to not NEED it to feel love at any one moment in time.

So how you become a love generator?

By realizing that in every moment, you always have two choices, to choose love or to choose fear.

One of the most powerful ways I've developed for myself and my energy healing/spiritual life coaching clients is to ask yourself the following question.

THE SOLUTIONS

LOVE GENERATING QUESTION

Ask yourself, "What are 25 things I LOVE about MYSELF?"

Make sure to answer using the following phrasing with each answer. "I love my sense of humor." I love my "intelligence". "I love my (fill in the quality). But answering this question and making it a habit for the next 10 days, you will begin to feel how easy it can be to GENERATE feelings of love by asking and answering this question for yourself OUT LOUD as often as you can.

For example, "I love my intelligence. I love that I'm a good listener. I love my kindness. I love my generosity. I love my warmth. I love my big heart. I love my intelligence, I love my intellect. I love my talents for _______________. I love my love of nature. I love my love of animals. I love my creativity. I love my courage. I love my strength. I love my emotional sensitivity. I love my emotional sensitivity to others. I love my sense of humor, I love my playfulness. I love my silliness. I love my goofiness. I love that I'm a survivor. I love my passion. I love my drive. I love my ability to be a good, husband, wife, friend, parent, son, daughter, etc. I love my willingness to grow. I love my curiosity. I love my love of travel. I love my compassion. I love my ability to focus. I love my ability to see the big picture. I love my ability to think big. I love that I care about the world. i love that I'm caring. I love that I try to be understanding. etc."

Don't worry if it seems difficult at first. The majority of people can't come up with more than a handful. But use the list above as a template and then add more as you get more and more comfortable.

You can ask "what are 10 things I love about my car, my apartment, my office, my job, etc?" Eventually after you can get good at joyously listing and SAYING OUT LOUD the things you love about yourself, you can ask the question about others, 'what do I love about my girlfriend/boyfriend, spouse, kids, friends, etc.?'

By asking the question, "what you love about yourself," you are in fact GENERATING LOVE. You don't need anyone else. You can shift your mood in a matter of seconds by using this powerful, love-generating question.

LOVE GENERATING STATEMENT

You can also use the powerful statement:

"I choose to love myself unconditionally." Regardless of what you're feeling in any given moment, CHOOSING to love yourself will begin to re-focus your thoughts and feeling to generating love.

For example, if you're feeling tired, scared, angry, etc. You can say to yourself and OUT LOUD. "I'm feeling scared AND I choose to love myself unconditionally." "I'm feeling unappreciated AND I choose to love myself unconditionally."

Happiness is in fact a choice. Choose to become a love generator by asking what are 25 things you love about yourself and answering out loud. Choose to be a love generator by committing everyday to loving yourself, by stating, "I choose to love myself unconditionally."

May you be blessed to love, value, honor, respect and celebrate yourself and the world. May you be blessed to recognize how amazing and worthy you truly are. May you be blessed to choose to love yourself unconditionally.