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The Day I Moved to America: What I Expected vs What I Faced

A personal story of cultural shock, emotional moments, and what it's really like to start over in a new country.

By Abid Ali KhanPublished 7 months ago 3 min read
America

I Had a Dream

Moving to America was more than a journey for me—it was a dream stitched into my childhood. I used to imagine clean streets, organized systems, people smiling at strangers, and a sense of unlimited opportunity. Everything on the internet, from movies to motivational videos, had painted a perfect picture of what life in America looked like.

When I got my visa and packed my bags, I was filled with excitement, nervousness, and a head full of expectations. My parents hugged me tightly and told me I was going to build a better future—not just for myself, but for the whole family.

Landing in the Land of Hopes

The moment I stepped out of JFK Airport in New York, I felt like I was in a movie scene. Skyscrapers kissed the sky. People were rushing with coffee in hand and AirPods in their ears. I smiled and whispered to myself, “This is it.”

But within 24 hours, my expectations started to face reality.

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What I Expected vs What I Faced

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🏡 Expectation: I’ll easily find a nice, affordable place to live.

🏚️ Reality: Rent is sky-high—even for a shared room.

In my mind, I had pictured a cozy little apartment with a kitchen and space to study. Instead, I found myself in a cramped basement with two strangers. Rent took away more than half of my monthly income. Privacy? Forget it.

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👨‍🤝‍👨 Expectation: I’ll instantly make friends and feel at home.

🙍‍♂️ Reality: Loneliness hit harder than I ever imagined.

Americans are friendly, but everyone’s busy. No one has time to stop and talk. I missed the chai stalls, random street conversations, and sitting on the rooftop with friends. Here, life moves fast, and people don’t wait.

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💼 Expectation: I’ll get a part-time job quickly and start earning.

💔 Reality: I applied to 22 places and got rejected by 21.

I walked miles every day handing out resumes. Sometimes the managers smiled and said, “We’ll call you,” but the call never came. Finally, I got a dishwashing job in a diner—and even that felt like a big win.

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🧠 Expectation: I’ll grow intellectually in an advanced society.

🤯 Reality: I faced culture shock and communication issues.

From slang to sarcasm, everything was different. I often felt lost in conversations. The way people communicated here was so different that I often stayed quiet in social settings, fearing I'd say the wrong thing.

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Small Moments That Changed Me

Despite all the struggles, something inside me began to shift. I learned how to cook my own food, how to manage time between studies and work, and most importantly—how to survive alone.

One evening, after a long shift, I stood near Times Square and looked at the lights, the people, the chaos—and I smiled. Not because everything was easy, but because I was growing stronger.

I learned that America is not about fast success; it’s about hard work, adapting, and not giving up. The “American Dream” isn’t handed to you—it’s something you build, brick by brick, sometimes with bleeding hands.

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The Real America

Now, months later, I’ve adjusted. I still miss home, I still feel lonely sometimes, but I’ve also gained a new kind of strength.

I’ve met kind strangers, helpful mentors, and friends from unexpected places. I’ve seen homelessness next to wealth, kindness next to indifference. And I’ve realized that reality may not match our expectations—but it can still be beautiful in its own way.

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Final Thoughts

If you’re planning to move abroad, especially to America—be ready for the storm before the sunshine. Pack your bags, but also pack your patience, your courage, and your willingness to grow. That’s the real ticket to success.

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