self help
Self help, because you are your greatest asset.
Stop Settling for a Mediocre Life
I lived a mediocre life for many years. Mediocre was my mindset. It drove me to hide in my bedroom with the blinds down and sit in darkness. My life was dark. It felt cold. I watched everybody else in my life succeed at a business or a career or starting a family. Not me though, I was a joke.
By Tim Denning5 years ago in Motivation
Every Difficulty Has An Opportunity
Life can bring us so many happy moments and wonderful memories, but on the flip side, many times we also find ourselves facing extreme hardship, sorrow, hurt, pain, difficulty, and adversity. We can be dragged to the absolute lowest depths of despair, facing circumstances and situations which are emotionally destructive and utterly soul destroying. They often take us to the point we feel the whole world is falling apart around us, and we fail to see any light at the end of what seems like a very long and dark tunnel. Whether it's suffering the tragic loss of a loved one, battling a personal debilitating health issue, facing the prospect of bankruptcy, being laid off from our job, dealing with a relationship/marital split, overcoming the complete loss of our house and possessions due to a fire, or whatever it may be, it's these sort of events that leave us feeling devastated and crushed. It leaves us in complete anxiety and fear about what the immediate future holds for us, and how we are going to handle and overcome these circumstances and emotions. Like I suffered through, many individuals also battle with depression and mental health issues, such is the extremity of the adversity in their life. It's quite upsetting that so many people take their own lives, just to escape the hurt, pain, sorrow, unhappiness, and misery, they are forced to deal with. There's no sugar coating over these times, they are horrible to deal with.
By David Stidston5 years ago in Motivation
Introduction to a Journey
The Past few years have been one Hell of a joyride. There's been so many twists and turns that knowing where I came from, where I'm headed, or how far I've come has been damn near impossible to figure out. Every time I've created even the slightest semblance of a plan, Life throws that map out the window. But the future isn't a destination anyway, and as for the past?.... Maybe we cant really develop hindsight without enough Life Experience. Maybe hindsight IS Experience AND the Lesson all wrapped within a Beautifully Paradoxical Gift- The Present!
By Jerome Henderson5 years ago in Motivation
My Season of Courage
Shame. Just typing the word makes me feel it. Feel it at the very core of my being. I carry it as if my life depended on it. It’s debilitating and terrifying and comfortable. It keeps me from fully participating in my life and stuck within a cozy nightmare.
By Andrea Jardine5 years ago in Motivation
When?
Procrastination is undoubtedly one of the biggest success killers in life. You'd be in an extreme minority of people worldwide if you haven't delayed making an important decision, or put off certain tasks for the next day, or for a later time, at various times in your life. Whether it be a case of setting back a task, because it's mundane, boring, complicated, or energy sapping, or be it a decision that we are afraid to proceed with, because we fear the worst result and we want more convincing, the vast majority of us believe delaying such tasks and decisions is what's best for us. How wrong we are! So firstly, there are decisions. Now, for starters, we actually use procrastination as a form of tactic, when it comes to people's invitations or offers. Inside ourselves, we know full well that we aren't really interested in certain invitations and offers, or perhaps it's something that we couldn't be bothered engaging in, but rather than flat out saying no, we are guilty of leaving that invitee with an inconclusive response. It's the good old "I'll think about it", or "I'll let you know", or "Not now, but maybe in the future", sort of responses. We do it because we feel rude in saying no, when the reality is, we are actually being rude by not being truthful in the first place. It's disrespectful to the other party, and not a response we should be proud of. There's nothing wrong with being honest and forthright.
By David Stidston5 years ago in Motivation
I am in control of my self-control.
People hear self-control and assume not having it is a problem. But when you are self aware of yourself, are you really out of control? If you know why you do the things that you do, and you can recognize the signs of you starting to get out of control, isn't that a sign that you are learning self-control? Is there something that you can do when you are feeling out of control, something you can do to transfer that lack of control, somewhere else?
By Katherine Estelle5 years ago in Motivation
How to be a winner!
Attitudes gets formed from experience. They are formed over the years either from observation or from experience. They can be learned in a variety of ways. Even a simple advertisement could influence you and may even have a change on your thoughts about a particular product. This kind of attitude formation is known as classical conditioning. Another kind of conditioning is the Operant Conditioning where the attitude develops from other people’s thinking. Sometimes people around us could make an impact on our behavior and change ourselves. And finally attitudes could be developed by observing people around us. A simple example of this kind of attitude development is, kids trying to be what their parents are. This is just observation and imitation, that develops into an attitude later.
By Author Grace Ruto5 years ago in Motivation
Don't Hesitate. Fumigate!
We know that toxicity is poison, however toxicity isn't just limited to some form of dangerous chemical, or the like. Many humans themselves are actually toxic, as they can be very unpleasant in a pervasive or insidious way, causing destruction and harm to the lives of others, including you and I. Now let's not be led to believe that we are talking about the murderers, rapists, pedophiles, thieves, and other criminals, here. We are actually talking about our workmates, our friends, our partner, our parents, and other loved ones. In fact, everywhere we go, we are constantly surrounded by these toxic people, and for most of us, we are either simply unaware of the harm these people are causing us, or we are aware of this harm, but are just too afraid to do anything about it. Even worse, we may actually be one of these toxic individuals ourselves. So what exactly constitutes someone to be toxic? Well, the greatest, although technically speaking, the worst, quality of a toxic person, is they breed negativity. These are the type of people whom rarely hold a conversation that doesn't include some form of whinging or complaining. They love to play the victim in life, constantly talking about how they believe nothing ever goes their way in life, how they are far from privileged, and how things always go wrong for them. They complain about everything from their job, to their partner. Nothing in life is ever satisfying enough for them, and they love to prey on others who can either relate, or show compassion, to share their tale of woe with. Most conversations with them are basically of this negative nature, and they very rarely have anything productive, inspiring, uplifting, and encouraging to share. So, what happens? The more we listen to these negative individuals, the more we are exposed to this negativity, and it's only natural that our mindset will follow suit to whichever environment it is exposed to. We too begin to feel negative about life, we begin to feel victimized, and we begin to heap our negativity upon others also.
By David Stidston5 years ago in Motivation
Hello Death, Goodbye Life
Death is not the end so we've been told, nobody truly knows what happens when we die. The only person who knows what happens is you, only you know how your story ends. Although the end is only the beginning, because death is life; a rebirth if you can understand. We are energy that cannot be destroyed but simply transferred like reincarnation. To start anew, to live again, to create memories and gain knowledge, to recognize our higher selves. Our past choices do not define us, they only shape the present but they have no real control unless you give it that power. Because everything starts in the mind, our bodies are a hub to feel, to connect with ourselves, and to love. We cannot experience life as a ball of energy, so we were given the power to reproduce bodies to hold ourselves in, to be able to feel pain. Our mind holds power to everything because it is how we receive thoughts to put it into action. Our mind gives us knowledge hidden within ourselves but the mind can also replay old thoughts again to make you feel as though you're living in a situation you are not hence why people such as myself overthink a lot. Everyone has their own reality, their own views and perspectives about life. Because everyone is on their own path but we're all connected, our souls are connected for we are all one. Outside perspectives shouldn't matter to you, especially if they won't affect you. People judge and are going to have their own outlook on you so why not live your life for you and have fun with it. You get one life, for you will not return back as your own self you have shaped your persona around. I say this to say, our time is precious because it is time we cannot get back or rewind. Time is constantly moving and it stops for no one. Take your time live your truth, write your story how you want. You are powerful and you hold the very pen to change your life, no matter where you are or who you want to be, you can change your reality. Your mind holds that key, to break through societal beliefs and live your own. I am proud of what I've become and who I am becoming to be. You are not without what you already have within. Be gentle to yourself and flow with the universe, you sweet soul. Life is all about trials and tribulations, it is okay to make mistakes but do not let them control you. Learn from them and grow from them, be the best version of "you", you can be. Trust yourself that you can make the right choices to guide you on your life journey. Be able to give your mind that healing to get it together. Our energy is meant to be preserved by us not to be drained or taken away by people who feed off of it. Disgusting beings that will drain you until you lose your way and become a zombie in your life. Protect your energy, take care of yourself because regardless of the fact, only you matter. People that you chose to welcome into your light are an added plus to your path but just like you, people come and go out of your life. I had to learn that the hard way, the world keeps moving as if nothing changed, only the people who live on it change. We lose friends, and we gain greater ones. If you find that special love one that holds you on a pedestal, hold on to them tight. Maybe you'll find someone else that fills your greater attraction. And I met that person but There's so many people out here but I settled for one. He's apart of my soul, because of him I elevated myself, I became more Intune with myself. I love myself unconditionally and love others the same thanks to him. He doesn't drain my energy, we're on the same wave length and we help each other grow, giving nutrients to our mental, physical, and emotionally state of being. I say this to say, watch who you call your friends, sometimes they may have served their purpose and you have to let them go especially if they are not elevating or helping you in any kind of way. Sometimes people aren't going to understand your views and aspects of life and you have to respect that because you cannot force them to see what they cannot see themselves. This goes for relationships too, infatuation and lust are a real thing and they will drain you and blind you. Real love is unconditionally, you'll truly know the love is real because it is a feeling, a strong energic pull but sometimes that love can blind you from seeing the real true intentions of someone. I'm a sweet soul and my pure intentions are just that, pure as they come. I hold no anger in my heart and I'm a very understanding and forgiving soul. I see all points of perspectives because I have that kind of mindset to understand all aspects of an individuals reality. Because I know we all go through our own things on our life journey. Kindness and being open hearted goes along way because most us weren't showed that kindness before. Some us were never properly loved or showed how so when someone comes into our life bearing those gifts we don't know how to accept them and receive in the truest form so we push them away rather than let them in to help heal our soul. We can all help and learn from each other, we may be on different paths but our world's are the same once they cross paths. So if we cross paths accept my love, I truly want to envelope those in a healing aura. We can grow from each other, knowledge is power and the power of knowledge is all in us. So much is stored and retained in our mind, hidden away until we unlock those part of ourselves we never really knew and embrace our individuality and become one within ourselves. You don't have the take on the load by yourself, it is okay to ask for help sometimes, you may get to a point where you need some helpful insight and that's fine. Don't become so dependent on people that you can't depend on yourself though. People come and go as quickly as they come and some people will try to control you based on what you asked for, which is messed up but not everybody's intentions is pure. I had to learn the hard way, I've been taken advantage, used, manipulated, and abused. I love hard and it was difficult to differentiate between bad and good love. This took some time and repeating lessons to finally say no, to finally put myself first and protect myself because takers are just going to keep on taking if you let them and I refuse to waste anymore energy and time on people like that. My circle has become so small, it is only my family and my lover that remains. My heart is open to meet and find new people but the old friends I had remained on a level that drained and served no purpose to me. There was no bad blood, I genuinely care and love them but they are not going to make me choose one person over the other when my love is the same, it is just expressed in different ways. They weren't seeing life the way I seen it and how could i make them see when they could not. I was carrying all their energy, forcing myself into a place i did not fit in anymore. We do not relate on the same things, i have a personally life outside of them and it was weighing so heavy on me. I was stressing so hard trying to be a good friend and I was but too them i was always ditching them to go be with my lover but that wasn't the case. We weren't doing anything and i felt drained being with them. It was literally the same thing for them, it was repeating and i am tired of feeling like I have to please them when they aren't even as half of worried about the friendship like i am so I am choosing to let it go. I wish the best for them but we are own entirely different planes and I just don't resonate on theirs. I am fine with being alone, the alone is okay, the silence is okay but they will not make feel bad about being with someone I love. I've been with my friends for years and yet when i am finally found someone to add to my soul and I am happy now its I'm a bad friend not doing enough. I'm tired of making excuses as to why I'm not seeing them, so I am simply cutting ties and if they cannot understand at least I will because I know it is nothing but pure on my end. I chose myself over anybody and I know I was a great friend, I did everything and beyond without expecting return, I can't expect to please everyone and I chose to stop trying to please them and be at peace at that. I didn't feel sad or angry, I felt at ease, it was simply ties I did not need to keep hanging on too, dragging dead weight around. To end this off, let go of the fear and worry and flow with the universe your divinity is secured. Trust the most high or the universe or however you chose to identify the higher power, has your best interest in mind. Live life to fullest, explore, go to a different place, try something new but most of all live for you.
By VeryGhostly5 years ago in Motivation
