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A New Year Is Not What Changes the Calendar — A New Year Is What Changes You
The clock struck midnight, fireworks cracked the sky, and everyone around me cheered. I didn’t. I sat on the edge of my bed, phone glowing in my hand, watching people post “New year, new me!” like it was a magic spell. My chest felt heavy. Not because the year was ending—but because I was scared nothing inside me was changing.
By Fazal Hadi19 days ago in Motivation
Why We Love People Who Hurt Us
Maya's phone lit up at 2:47 a.m. with a text from Daniel: "I miss you. I'm sorry. Can we talk?" She should have deleted it. Should have blocked his number months ago. Should have learned after the third time he'd disappeared without explanation, only to return with apologies and promises. Instead, her heart leaped. Relief flooded through her. He came back. He still wants me. By 3:15 a.m., she'd responded. By morning, they'd be back together. Again. And Maya would tell herself this time would be different, even though some part of her—some quiet, exhausted part she kept trying to silence—knew it wouldn't be. Daniel would be loving for a week, maybe two. Attentive, affectionate, everything Maya had been craving. Then slowly, he'd start pulling away. Texts would go unanswered. Plans would be canceled. He'd become cold, distant, critical of small things. Maya would panic. Try harder. Become smaller, more agreeable, desperate to bring back the version of Daniel who'd made her feel so wanted. She'd apologize for things that weren't her fault. Change herself to accommodate his shifting moods. Walk on eggshells trying not to trigger his withdrawal. And eventually, he'd leave again. Ghost her for weeks. Then return with another 2 a.m. text. And the cycle would repeat. Maya's friends couldn't understand it. "Why do you keep going back to him? He treats you terribly. You deserve better." Maya knew they were right. She knew Daniel was hurting her. Knew the relationship was toxic. Knew she should walk away and never look back. But she couldn't. Because as much as Daniel hurt her, she loved him. Desperately, painfully, irrationally loved him. And she had no idea why she couldn't stop.
By Ameer Moavia19 days ago in Motivation
For 2026 — Pay Balance!
Happy New Year, everyone. Her heart racing, Una banged on Lista’s apartment door loud enough to wake Satan. She didn’t show up for work last night and wasn’t answering her phone. When no response came, she used her spare key to let herself in. Shock set in when she entered the apartment and saw Lista sitting on the living room floor in a yoga pose, her back against the wall, crying. She was still wearing her work uniform the day before.
By Annelise Lords 19 days ago in Motivation
I Had to Lose Myself Completely to Finally Meet Who I Really Am
There was a time when I thought losing myself was the worst thing that could happen to me. I believed that if I could just hold on tightly enough, to my roles, my routines, my identity, my plans, I would be safe. I didn’t realize that what I was holding onto wasn’t really me at all. It was a version of myself shaped by survival, expectation, and fear.
By Stacy Faulk20 days ago in Motivation
A Journey That Was Never Easy
I used to believe that if life was meant to work out, it would feel smoother than this. That belief shattered one cold evening when I sat alone on my bed, staring at a ceiling I didn’t recognize as home anymore. My phone was silent. My bank balance was low. My confidence was lower. I remember thinking, If this is the journey, maybe I’m not cut out for it.
By Fazal Hadi20 days ago in Motivation
From Dreaming to Achieving
For years, my life existed almost entirely in my head. On the outside, I looked fine. I showed up to work, smiled at people, paid my bills, and followed the routine everyone said was “normal.” But inside, I was constantly dreaming. Dreaming of a different life. A braver version of myself. A future where I felt proud instead of stuck.
By Fazal Hadi20 days ago in Motivation
