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Advice that will put you on the path to success; tips, tricks and nuggets of wisdom from trusted experts and motivational mentors.
My Vocal Experience...
I started writing on Vocal in late November of 2020. It was just something to do for fun and maybe an extra income. Since then I've written more consistently and have felt more creative. It's also gotten me thinking about writing, something that I've thought about doing over the years. I'm sure, especially after feeling like I needed to write something on more than one occasion, that I've posted some stinkers. After three months, I've learned a few things as I approach the one thousand reads mark.
By Jason Ray Morton 5 years ago in Motivation
Controlling Your Triggers
We all have things and people that agitate us. They say whatever causes you to act out in frustration in any situation controls you. For example if you're in a good mood and someone says something offensive to you and you get upset. That person has power over you. They become your master. You've given them authority over your actions. I know it might feel good momentarily to curse someone out or even beating the breaks off someone and afterwards you might not want to admit it, but inside you don't feel right about how you handled the situation. You might not feel bad about cursing the individual out, because truth be told. It's a good chance they deserved it. You feel bad because you let yourself get to that point where you stooped down to their level. You know you're better than that, but that's the way emotions work though, it's so impulsive and can happen in the blink of an eye without an thought. Now medically speaking, they say an individual with damage to the pre-fontal cortex(region of the brain that moderates behavior)have a hard time controlling anger. Which maybe true, but I'm no doctor. I honestly think smoking marijuana can solve that problem. That's another story though. There's other ways you can control your triggers. The best superpower you can possess is the power to remain calm in any situation. You know it's actually people in the world that feed off their ability to make other people feel upset, because they're unhappy about their own life? A persons' perception of you is a reflection of how they feel about themselves. If you the type of person who see good in others despite what others may say. You're a person who feels good about oneself, because your perception of people is a mirror of how you feel about yourself. Do you know you can learn a lot about yourself through other people? Just think about it for a second. One can never see his/her faults, mishaps or wrongdoing, but we definitely can spot faults, mishaps and wrongdoing in other people. The only reason we can spot it in other people so easily is because how you feel about people is a mirror of how you feel about yourself. Example: You ever notice how you can so easily judge a person without ever having one conversation with them? Like you can say " Oh Stacey has a attitude problem". How you know Stacey has an attitude problem if you never spoke or had a conversation with Stacey? Your perception of Stacey is a reflection of you. You got a attitude problem(lol) In order for you to overcome your triggers the first step is to say" I Am the creator and fixer of my problems and also realise people that trigger you is only a reflection of something in you that you need to fix. We are responsible for how we react to situations in our lives. Nobody can decide how we deal with something, no matter what the situation is. The only thing that dictates our reaction to certain situations is fear. You have to walk in an understanding that fear is a choice like anything else in life. Decide not to fear the unexpected, meditate, speak daily affirmations, pray and let the universe work out the details. A lot of our problems are created in our own minds, based through media, television, politicians etc. If one was to un-attach themselves from negative manipulation and replace it positive persuasion. Your whole outlook on life would change. So whenever you're an a situation that triggers you or a person that triggers you. Say something that you're grateful for. I know it might seem odd if a person gets "slick" with you and instead of a "clapback" You say something like " I have two intelligent children". They gone look at you like you crazy, but what you just did was take positive control over the situation. Plus you just spoke blessings on your two children. You just knocked out two birds with one stone.
By Matthew Haywood5 years ago in Motivation
The Asshole and the High Ground
You know those people who take up two parking spaces in a lot by parking just over the white line, leaving no room for any reasonable vehicle? I know you know what I'm talking about. I sat next to that guy on the bus tonight.
By Maria Shimizu Christensen5 years ago in Motivation
Quitters Never Win
For most people worldwide, when the going gets tough, they get going. Sadly, I'm not talking in the sense they get going in a progressive way though, as they instead get going to the nearest exit. That's right, unfortunately most people take the option to quit, and they take the easy way out. When it comes to striving for goals, or some form of personal accomplishment, or a change in habit, whatever it may be that is of great benefit to our life, most people do not have the perseverance and patience to just keep going on that journey to achieve it. I think we all have the expectation that the journey is going to be tough, and we know that it will require a lot of hard work and dedication, but undoubtedly, we underestimate the level of intensity. As a result, when we face adversity along that journey, we are mentally underprepared, and our mind becomes filled with doubt that the success we envisioned may not be possible after all. The journey towards achieving goals, personal success, wealth, happiness, and fulfillment, is brutal, there's no shying away from that fact. The greater the reward, the more brutal the journey is. There are so many traits and characteristics that we need to both possess and maintain, in order to see that journey through. It's about having the patience to keep going for as long as it takes to reach that success, which often takes years. It's about having the will to continually work hard, constantly directing our focus on the actions required to reach the goal, despite the intensity, pain, and mundane nature of these actions. It's about having the courage to take risks in order to achieve what we desire. It's about making sacrifices, giving up some things we enjoy that provide us that short boost of satisfaction and enjoyment, rather than long term. It's about having the resistance to repel the judgement, doubt, and criticism from others, about our decisions, actions, and the journey itself. It's about having the drive and motivation to fulfill our goals, using it to spur us on, no matter the circumstances. It's about having the determination to succeed. It's about having the adaptability to change actions, and embrace new concepts. Above all, it's about having the resilience to overcome all adversities, challenges, and failures, then to have the perseverance to keep on going, no matter how tough things get.
By David Stidston5 years ago in Motivation
Cups and Jars
Bruce Lee once said “Be like water making its way through cracks. Do not be assertive, but adjust to the object, and you shall find a way around or through it. If nothing within you stays rigid, outward things will disclose themselves. Empty your mind, be formless. Shapeless, like water. If you put water into a cup, it becomes the cup. You put water into a bottle and it becomes the bottle. You put it in a teapot, it becomes the teapot. Now, water can flow or it can crash. Be water, my friend.”
By Benjamin Alexander House5 years ago in Motivation
Great Expectations
Like most of us, when I was growing up, my parents had certain high expectations for me. I had to do well in sports, academics, work, you name it. I had to be good at it. The truth of the matter is, I didn’t like any of those things, so I may not have tried as hard as I could to be good at them. In fact, I became something of a class clown, always getting my friends to cause disturbances in the classroom. This got me in trouble more times than I can count, and I began to develop a reputation as a troublemaker. The thing is, I knew what I was doing was wrong because it was disrespectful; however, it was my way of rebelling against my parents’ expectations of me. I figured I couldn’t meet those expectations, so I shouldn’t even try. Eventually, I quit sports (I wasn’t good at baseball anyway) and dropped out of high school to work full time.
By Mike Johnson5 years ago in Motivation
