Putting It Into Perspective

Today, relationships are complicated. Some people look for love in all the wrong places while others have pride. Life has many lessons. Ring the bell. Class is now in session.

It’s hard to let go of a person that you have much love for. Many people tell you to leave but you stay. Its because you have invested time with this person, and you don’t want to let go. It’s because you don’t want to be alone and that’s normal. Everyone is different.

It’s human nature to want love and affection. If you love the wrong person and it backfires, it’s okay. You were not the problem; you loved the wrong person too much and too long.

I don’t care about this “I’m independent, I don’t need a man to validate me” bs because, and I hate to say it, that’s stupid. Know why? It’s far from the truth.

Destiny’s Child came up with the song: Independent Women. “All the women that’s independent, throw your hands up at me.” The song had a stupid concept; it further encouraged women to believe that they didn't need a man in their life.

But what happens when being independent disappears? You lose your job? End up in the unemployment line? You have to eat so I guess you will be in the food stamp line. Still think you don’t need a man?

You have the Lord on your side. That’s a given. But you still need support. You may not admit it out loud, but you may as well come to terms with it. If people would be honest with themselves, the world would be a much better place.

Now, I’m going to put the shoe on the other foot. A man can say he doesn’t need a woman until he is blue in the face. Lies. You don’t have it all because you have a house, car and a job. You come home to an empty house, hang out with your boys. That’s fine. But you sleep alone at night. There is some woman on your mind. From the past or someone you may have gone on a date with. Lie to yourself all you want to. An empty bed gets old after a while.

Now. I’m going to hit another subject. Competition. The person you are committed to is your king or queen, in terms of love. Your king or queen should never feel that they are competing with someone. And remember, it's the little things that count.

Last situation. I'm going to reference a song for this one. New Edition said it best, "Can You Stand the Rain?" There are some "stand the rain" people in the world. They stay by their man/woman's side regardless. When times get rough, you find out exactly the type of person you have in your life.

Today, there are so many people that are quick to leave a relationship when a man/woman loses their job. You know why? It's called fear. Some people fear having to spend their own money because they are used to spending the other person's money, they feel that they shouldn't have to carry the relationship or simply because...they don't care.

The world is based on the concept of man being a provider. But, when he can't provide, all h*** breaks loose. That goes back to the independent woman concept. A woman feels that she can provide all her own needs so she doesn't need a man.

Excuse my French: A "toy" of any kind cannot help you produce a child. It's a temporary feeling, you turn over and go to sleep. Sorry for being blunt but it is what it is.

To end my story I say this: There is no need for you to have pride. Show your real emotions; the ones you keep bottled up inside.