PUSH YOUR SELF EVERY DAY!

PUSH YOUR SELF EVERYDAY!

We said to have an extraordinary life

you gotta have an extraordinary

psychology right

extraordinary psychology means you got

to live in an extraordinary state

to be an extraordinary state you got to

condition your nervous system your body

your physiology and focus

to be at their best then to do that

though you can do that

why doesn't everybody not because you

can't

we all have the ability it's because of

our standards

think about your own life i know there

have been areas in your life where

some point in time you just shifted and

you raise the standard in your life

change

because whatever people have their

identity attached to

they live we live who we believe we are

my journey from here to there

was lonely the reason i was willing to

be wrong

and admit wrong so that i could grow

and so that i could change you see

growth is a result of

bad habits dropped wrong priorities

changed

and new ways of thinking embraced

it happens only when we question

ourselves enough

to ask serious questions from others

the people who do not grow are unwilling

to ask themselves or others hard

questions

they are unwilling to leave what they

have known and practice

they are not willing to be wrong so they

can discover what is right

therefore they cling to right

and their lives turn out wrong how sad

we get what we're looking for we filter

out everything else in our life

going to get what you're looking for

even if it doesn't even exist even if

it's not even there

if you're looking for negatives if

you're looking for setbacks if you're

looking to be looked over

you will find it even though it's not

supposed to be there but if you're

looking for victory for winning for

recruits

for people to change your life for magic

moments you will find them if you're

looking for them i promise you that's

true in life

your brain when you condition it knows

exactly what to go for it'll find a way

to get there

when you decide what's most important to

you your brain goes after it

surrender of being right enables us to

ask questions

that others can answer and add value to

us

surrender of being right is the

prerequisite

to finding right

i believe that with all my heart

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and here's what i know i never want to

get to the place

where i've got it all figured out i

still want to keep learning i still want

to keep growing and i still want to be a

student

and i still want to be on a learning

curve and and i still want to value

people and i still want to walk into my

life and say

look you have something that that if i

could just ask the right question

you could impart to me that would help

me that would allow me to to become a

better person myself

ego is the anesthesia that deadens the

pain of stupidity pride is the burden of

a foolish person

if you're going to do a job do it right

i've always been told

how average i can be

always been criticized about being

average

but i want to tell you something i stand

here before you

before all of these people not listening

to those words

but telling myself every single day

to shoot for the stars to be the best

that i can be good enough isn't good

enough if it can be better

and better isn't good enough if it can

be best

wisdom will come to you in the

unlikeliest of sources

a lot of times through failure when you

hit rock bottom remember this

while you're struggling rock bottom can

also be a great foundation on which to

build

and on which to grow i'm not worried

that you'll be successful

i'm worried that you won't fail from

time to time

person that gets up off the canvas and

keeps growing

that's the person that will continue to

grow their influence

how many of you would love a

breakthrough

all right number one you gotta have a

permeating attitude

that you're gonna win you have a

positive outlook you gotta be optimistic

you gotta know you're gonna win you

gotta right now you gotta say i'm gonna

win

i don't mean just this contest i don't

mean the contest i mean

i'm going to win i'm going to win my

life is going to win there's going to be

a victorious life here

because listen to me the price you pay

for losing here is

too extreme you have to carry the burden

of failure the rest of your life

you carry that around with you if you

fail here

the biggest thing that breaks my heart

is you feel the spirit right now and

then when you get back

these dream stealers run into you and

they start to steal your dream

and you quit you give up you got to

decide i'm going to win you got to

decide that

the failure part of carrying failure

you've been exposed to what your life

could be

if you fail here the price is extreme

it's forever

you carry the failure forever i'm being

honest with you i meet people oftentimes

and say

i was in wfg he really changed my life

for this meeting

but but but and they put their heads

down they've been carrying it they carry

it they see these

facebooks and instagrams and what we're

doing you got to know you're going to

win

you got to sell out yeah i'm telling you

you got to become a sellout

you need to sell out you need to get

obsessed you got to get relentless you

got to be a road dog

you got to get intense that's what you

got to do there's some dream stealers

you need to look out for these four

i don't want them to happen to you ready

say yes

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dream stealer number one that'll take

you out of here lack of confidence or

faith

lack of belief it'll steal your dream

you got to know you're going to win

you've got to have some faith these

people sitting around you right now

they're whispering to you you could do

this i believe it just like when you

were a little boy

just like when you were a little girl

they've always believed in you they've

always known you're gonna do something

special

they always knew you were great you need

to know it you need to take that god

that's sitting there with you

and those precious souls that have

passed that have always believed in you

and you carry them with you everywhere

they're with you anyway

acknowledge them if you don't believe

that

honor them honor god honor these people

who believed in you

with your magnificent life honor them

don't give in to lack of belief lack of

confidence don't ever do that again

don't do it in wfg or out of wfg you

were made to do something great

you're special you were made in the

image of god something awesome supposed

to happen for you

and those of you that have made

something awesome happen something even

more awesome supposed to happen for you

i would say for the last 45 years we've

told

psychologists have been have been

certainly

to blame for this at least in part

you're okay the way you are

that's what we tell young people oh

you're okay the way you are it's like

and there's nothing worse than you can

tell that you can tell someone who's

young

than that especially if they're

miserable

you know and lots of them well if

they're miserable and aimless it's like

oh i'm miserable and aimless and

sometimes i'm suicidal and i'm

nihilistic and i don't have any

direction in your life it's

in my life it's like well you're okay

the way you are here

and it's like they don't want to hear

that they want to hear

look you know you're and you know this

you're useless you know

nothing you haven't got started you've

got

60 years to put yourself together and

god only knows what you could become

and that's so that message is so much

more

it's so funny because it's so it's such

an attack

but it's so positive because there's

faith there in the

in the potential that makes up the

person rather than the miserable

actuality that happens to be manifesting

itself at the moment and young people

respond extraordinarily well to that

because and you know that if you're a

parent and you love your

your child your son your daughter what

you're trying to

foster is the best in them

you want that to manifest itself across

the course of their life you want them

to become continually

more than they are to see what they

could be

and well and i think that's part of the

great message of the west is that that's

that's the

that's the ethical requirement of

individual

being in in the proper sense is to

constantly know that you're not what you

could be

to take responsibility for that and to

and to commit yourself like body and

soul

to the attainment of that ideal

so i have this thing that i've been

promoting called no whining wednesdays

wednesday you cannot whine complain

or criticize and people like well what

is whining

whatever you think it is don't do it

and every time you do it you have to put

a quarter in a jar

if you whine about anything i can't i'm

tired by the mean

one why don't you what happened

every one of them will cost you a

quarter or complaining why don't you

why do you always how come you i always

they never

cost you a quarter then last week i had

people send me

pictures of their jaws a quarters oh my

god

but what they said to me also was this

was wonderful

because i was never ever aware

of how much whining and complaining and

criticizing i do

now i've got mothers doing it with their

children

so wednesday is no whining wednesday

we need to practice that we need to stop

whining about what isn't happening what

we don't have what we can't do

what somebody didn't do we got to get it

clean

in 2014 no whining

no complaining no criticizing

i struggled off this school the last

time i took english class i got a fail

and my english teacher said i was the

weakest writer she ever met in her

entire life

the last time i took a speech class same

year i got a d-minus in speech

and my speech you should say at least a

quote-unquote i recommend you never

speak in public that you get a desk job

so that was the beginning of my life

that was the

that was my 19 year old experience and

then i go on and i'm trying to figure it

out trying to figure it out

i was obedient i went and got a job in

accounting

i was in the collection department for

seven years y'all don't know i'm

dangerous to accounting

i'm just dangerous and i'm in

collections and you know you should

never put a broke person

in collection never because everybody's

reasons sound good to me

i'm funny but it was real not only did i

say girl don't you worry about paying

that i'm gonna take your name off the

list

somebody went to jail because i was incl

i got fired from five different jobs

and then i got pregnant with my son

unexpectedly and then at eight months my

son's father

went to prison i had to get on

government's assistance to have my baby

i was on wic women infant and children

to feed my child

and when my son was eight months old i

went to the atm

to get twenty dollars out the bank

because i didn't have any pampers for

him

and in order to get twenty dollars out

she got that twenty dollars in

i had eleven dollars and 42 cents

and i still can't tell the story without

getting emotional because of my story

for two days i had to wrap my son and a

towel

but something happened steve in those

two days i was at rock bottom

i was broke and i was broken

inglewood california my son laying on

his back at eight months

i have a towel over him and i have my

hand on his stomach saying

don't you worry jaylani mommy will never

be this broke again

and i made a decision i was bankrupt

and every stinking thinking i had i was

bankrupt and trying to protect my pride

i was bankrupt and trying to be all that

in a bag of chips and ebola grits

falsified i was bankrupt and trying to

not ask anyone for help i was bankrupt

in everything

that was holding me and keeping me where

i was i've always talked a good game

but i wasn't doing anything with my gift

and all that thing about potential

i was tired of having potential i wanted

to have my now

and i looked at that baby at eight

months and i said i want to transform

your life because you didn't ask to come

into this chaos

as an african-american male child in

south central los

angeles with a single mother whose

father's in prison

he had a 66 chance of going to prison

himself

not on my watch not on

my watch so if i have to be willing to

drastically transform myself

so that i can become the woman that i

know i can be

right and that's what i began to do i

was radical

what did you do lisa what what did you

do to change your life

first um i realized i couldn't grow

with people who were struggling like me

that whole i don't want to leave nobody

behind no i don't want to stay with

y'all

right you only you don't even want to be

here

i don't want to be the queen of this

block yeah and i became

okay with the fact that it doesn't make

me any less committed to my community

committed to my culture committed to my

family the best thing i can do for you

is not stay here with you that's right

when i've got that

i went to places i'd never seen before i

went to conferences where people were

talking about money

talking about prosperity yeah talking

about it was like no habla espanol what

are y'all talking about

rois and ppms and term agreements and

capital fundraising and bottom lines and

what is it

i'm gonna stay until i learn what you're

talking about i went to the same

conference 42 times and there i raised

532 thousand dollars

in capital for my company start my dream

and my dream was to transform teen lives

i want to teach teens how to fall madly

in love with themselves and how to make

integrity-based decisions

and i got it funded and i started

working and that was the beginning

of me rescuing myself i realize that i

am my rescue no one else is my rescuer.