Piece by Piece

We all go through phases in life, one of which is love. As children, we have that “puppy love” phase where we think we know what love is all about. But, when we become adults, we think about love in a different way. We have different feelings and bonds with others. Let’s get started.

Sometimes, with love, there is the “I don’t know” stage. The "I don't know" stage is when you are stuck between staying with a person, even though you know you should leave but you stay because you don't want to be alone. Sometimes, you may stay because you can't bear the thought of that person being with someone else.

Once you've cleared your "I don't know" stage, if you moved on, you better hope its not a phase. Because if you burned a bridge with somebody that loved you and cared for you, the bridge is gone. It doesn't matter how you dress it up, try to re-build (attempt to come back), its gone.

Moving right along, unless it was a domestic situation or violence, saying you hate your ex IS A LIE! Hate is a strong emotion but it’s still an emotion. It’s a feeling. At some point, there was an attraction to this person that you couldn’t deny so hatred is there but you still care. Don’t lie to yourself.

If you hate them so much, then why do you even mention their name? Why are they thoughts in your mind? Why does their name even come from your mouth? You know why? Because although you said you don't give a d***, you do. If you didn't, you wouldn't be talking about them. This is the case when it comes to baby moma/baby daddy drama. I once said I wouldnt speak on it but it's about time I did.

When 2 people have children together, that's a permanent bond. Saying ya'll hate each other is a joke to me. I laugh because I know its a lie. If you hate each other so much, why take time to yell and scream at each other? Why have long drawn out conversations? If you have truly moved on, there is no need for that. But for those that do it, you dont know what move on means.

Move on means I dont care what you do. Some of you dont know the true meaning of that. You have to be in each other's business. You dress the hatred up by dating other people. Tell that lie to somebody that will believe it.

When that other person leaves you, don't act surprised. It's not like you didnt know this day would come. People get tired of feeling second best. If you dont plan to be with someone, don't play mind games. A lot of people are experiencing that at this very moment or have experienced it in the past.

Here is a poem I wrote called Maturity.

Tricks are for kids, life is no magic show

There are no buttons to push, life is not a remote control

You cant go back in time, although people wish they could

You only can live in the present moment and do the things that you should

You should be a better version of yourself than you were yesterday

Its true that you learn something new every day

Act your age, not your shoe size

If you are mature, you will display positive behavior on the outside (people's perspective of you)

To end my story I say this: People go by what you say and not what you do. If you lose a good thing, the blame is on you.