Loving the Infinite You

Love is an infinite thing no matter where it’s coming from. It shifts and changes over time, but gives each person who feels it a certain glow. When you love the people around you it shows you how much you are willing to do for them just because you care. Caring for someone means you will do something for someone without expecting anything in return. Selfless love means you don’t care what happens to you as long as the other person is safe.

All our lives we search for love outside ourselves, when in fact it’s been inside us all along. When you start with loving yourself you start to radiate love to others sharing it with them. There are so many ways to love and be loved. Sometimes there are milestones someone has to hit before they truly love who they are. Even I struggle with loving myself sometimes. The thing is you don’t have to love yourself all at once. Pick little things you like about yourself and keep telling yourself that. Everyday add something to that list. Eventually it will become a habit for you to love yourself.

Living life is a series of trial and errors. Nobody is perfect, so be patient with yourself. Take the time to love yourself no matter the flaws you think you have. Chances are someone one day may love the flaws you have because they make you unique to them. Don’t ever suppress your own glow to make someone else happy. Someone will love all sides of you no matter the flaws you have. Love means overlooking your flaws to see the true beauty underneath.

For the longest time I struggled with loving who I am just to please others. The thing that I realized is I have to live with myself everyday not the people who are bringing me down. I gave them the power to do that because I didn’t love myself enough to tell them to stop. Everyday I would think positive thoughts about myself, and it became a habit to love myself.

You must make it a habit to love yourself no matter who is in your life. Whether they are there for a season or for a longer amount of time. At the end of the day you are the one that has to look in the mirror. You decide on who and what you allow into your life. I did and it made my life so much better. Now I love myself regardless of who is in my life.

Seeking love outside of yourself is great, but not when it comes at the cost of you losing who you are as a person. If someone truly loves you for you, they will never make you feel insecure about who you are. They will love and care about you because you have those flaws. I have watched so many people in relationships give up who they are for the other person. It causes them to lose pieces of who they are.

Sometimes to grow we have to change and move, but not when it takes away your happiness. If someone truly loves you they will always try to make you happy because they like to see you smile. But at the end of the day you have to make yourself happy no matter what. Your happiness comes from within also. That’s why self love is so important. It allows you to know what you do and don’t deserve.

I finally realized what truly makes me happy is to remain single until I can love myself more and more each day. Some part of me stopped searching for love and just surrendered to the universe. I stopped chasing people who didn’t have my best interest at heart. At the end of the day I had to learn from my past mistakes with men. I had to learn that if I didn’t value myself then I would let other people walk all over me.

If you don’t know your value then why would they. I didn’t understand that concept because I was too busy hating who I was. I am a bigger lady and have been for most of my life. I didn’t value my body cause I was too busy hating it. The thing is you have to love your body at all sizes. Society makes us believe we have to be one way when in fact we are all different. I stopped paying attention to social media because it gave me body dysmorphia. It made me hate hate the body I was in for the longest time. Now I love my body no matter the size. I also love me because I know I am worth more than what other people think about me. It’s a matter of self talking yourself every day. I tell myself I am beautiful everyday so it becomes a habit.

We are all living an experience and one that we control. Allow yourself to live and love even if it is yourself that you love. It all starts with you and from there you will attract what is meant for you in the long run. I stopped searching but I can’t wait to see what comes my way next. I can’t wait to be surprised by the outcome. That’s how life is so beautiful, we make the choice to just surrender to the universe and it just happens and changes around us.

Embrace those changes, who knows what they will bring. Who knows how it will come to you. But if it does come you you will know because it will bring you happiness but also so much love. All I have to say is allow it to happen naturally with no expectations or control. Open heart and open mind.