Life's First Key to Freedom

Frequently we presume to know the reasons behind others’ actions and behavior. In reality, we're constantly more in error than else. This is due in part to what social psychologists call fundamental attribution error (FAE).

“ Fundamental attribution error also known as correspondence bias or criterion effect is the tendency for people to under- emphasize situational and environmental explanations for an individuality observed characteristic while over-emphasizing dispositional and personality- placed explanations. This effect has been described as the tendency to believe that what people do reflects who they are” that is, to see a person’s given action to be reflective of their personality as a whole rather than being brought on by current and recent circumstances.”

A case in point was a story from my pastor. Physically challenged, one of our church members frequently finds it hard to relate with others. Why? Because he has difficulty hearing. Unless you catch him head-on, his response to your salutations will either be out of sync or none. After similar relations, some of those who don't know more, prejudged this sound Christian as going about with a “ holier-than-thou behavior”. And what do we do about people with similar chip in their shoulders behavior? We frequently slight them and learn to distance ourselves from them.

Unwittingly, we immortalize our negative expectancy — a breakdown in our connections

Indeed in our immediate cycles, we're frequently eyeless swiped and unknowing of what others are going through. At work, administrators may charge inferiors who are uncharacteristically sluggish with rebellion not knowing that those workers are battling the hangover of home or family issues.

Always remember that “ In this life, no one really owes you anything.” Yes, absolutely nothing. And that's the key to maintaining your reason in a world of ever- adding unanticipated disappointments.

• When mates are dissatisfied or leave you, remember, they do n’t owe you anything.
• Frequently, you only get to know your true or fake mates when adversities come knocking at your door. Still, no one owes you anything.
• They do n’t call or return your missed calls, textbook dispatches, or emails. You clearly know better than to keep running after people who want you out of their lives. Console yourself knowing that no one really owes you anything.
• When people can not, refuse, or forget to pay forward your kindness to them, you do n’t need to corrode your heart with bitterness and resentment. No matter how kind you might have been, remember, no one owes you anything.
• When people chose to not repay your kindness, civility, or courtesy, do n’t blow up or change trimmer-suchlike to pay them back in their own colors. It may be, they're passing through hard times themselves, or; they're just being their own characters. After all, no one owes you anything.

Living by the mantra of, “ No one owes me anything”, will help you concentrate your internal machines towards succeeding on your own works. With that awareness, you learn to noway give up. It helps you muster the courage to strive on for another hour, another day, or make another business call. Above all, it helps you to shoo off ulcers and heartburn's convinced by silent resentments and bitterness.

With that attitude of heart, you can reconnect with those who cut you off from their signals in history. Come to think of it, “ Are n’t we all fighting our own individual life’s battles?” Living with the knowledge of, “ No one really owes me anything” will help you know those whom you'll let in or out of your inner cycle.

Decision

• We all make wrong hypothetical about the intentions others have for their behavior. Certain outside factors may force people to act contrary to their true characters. Thus, you should be more willing to give people the benefit of the distrust. At least, until you can surely prove them to be something else.
• Living a life of “ no one owes me anything”, you take nothing individually. Living a life that's independent of other people’s price or approval of your actions, your life will be free of resentments and bitterness. You won’t ever feel let down by anybody since you weren't awaiting any price or retribution for your kind gestures.

Blessed are they who expect anything for they shall not be disappointed.

~Lucy Maud Montgomer

Friends, that's the supreme key to your independence and happiness.

Thank you !!!