Know how to enjoy solitude to embrace the life you want

Nietzsche once said, "Loneliness is a disease of the heart, alone is a treatment."

The more you are afraid of being alone, the more likely you are to feel lonely.

To get rid of the loneliness inside, you should learn to enjoy being alone, discover a different self from it, and then explore the meaning of living.

1、In solitude, accumulate strength

A person living, will experience countless moments of loneliness, if only to make themselves not lonely, and disregard their own will to mix the circle, this kind of reluctant to get the "lively", it is difficult to let themselves get real happiness.

Many times, the time spent on mixing circles, and so on is not mixed out of humankind, but to mix themselves out.

To say that what is the gain of mixing circles, said it is a network of people but is only a nodding acquaintance, said it is lively but it is just a mirror, said it is to enhance but it is just a mouth ...... detailed investigation found that after a lively, the rest is full of emptiness.

Sometimes, by forcing oneself to fit in, not only will you not get what you want, but you will also lose your true self.

There is time to be lively, why not spend more time alone, using a person's alone time, calm and quiet deep plowing themselves?

Feng Gicai once said, "Mediocre people fill the emptiness with lively, excellent people who can be alone to achieve their own."

The more lonely you feel, the more time you have to take to make yourself better, work silently behind the scenes, be well prepared, and wait for the day when everyone will be amazed by it.

Zeng Guofan was once a "dumb kid" who couldn't memorize an article overnight. Even the thief was smarter than him, but later, through years and years of hard work, he slowly found the trick of reading and moved towards "better" step by step.

The thief has long since become a "thing of the past", but a character incidental to the story of Zeng Guofan's childhood.

There are times when a stupid child, seemingly stupid, but not stupid, know that hard work can make up for the clumsy, in other people's playtime to enjoy alone, with the time to improve themselves, is not the best way to change fate.

Some things can not be done once, then done a second time, persistent efforts will eventually forge a better self.

Smart people, willing to make stupid efforts, know how to accumulate strength when alone, to slowly open up the gap between their peers.

2、In solitude, correct yourself

People are not saints, who can be without fault.

No one is perfect, there are more or fewer shortcomings.

But some people dare to face their shortcomings, while some people choose to escape, thinking that out of sight is out of mind, not knowing that avoiding the problem will only let the problem always exist.

Instead of letting your shortcomings, you should try to correct them.

It may not work well at first, but as long as you are willing to work hard and take one step at a time, even the biggest shortcomings will improve with perseverance and effort.

Use the time alone to grow.

Reflect on their shortcomings at the same time, correct them, do "my daily introspection", and close the distance between themselves and "perfect", to achieve a better version of themselves.

Never confidently think that they have no shortcomings, that is really in the "self-righteousness", can fool themselves, can not fool others, "lies" will eventually be punctured.

Immersed in false perfection, only to let themselves live in fantasy, can not see the reality, rather than their initiative to burst the fantasy, brave to face reality, to allow themselves to change.

Only by constantly correcting oneself can one become better and better and move forward to a better self.

Being alone is a new beginning of life, you will find yourself with more freedom, no longer need to bother about unnecessary socializing, but can do what you want to do at your own pace.

When you start to enjoy being alone, everything will slowly become better.