Keep yourself, keep your principles, life is very different

Sudden accidents may destroy the existing happiness, once mishandled, will certainly become a regret, hindering the way forward.

We can't predict the future, what we can do is to keep ourselves, and live well in the present, with adequate preparation, to deal with the unknown.

Unfortunately, too many people choose to give up in front of trials and tribulations in life. Thinking that the missed opportunity is only one, but not think that there will be a second time, once people get used to giving up, they will slowly lose themselves.

The "roadblock" on the road of life is not the trials and tribulations that follow, but the self that gives up lightly.

No one can save a person who has no will to fight.

Only by keeping yourself can you take every step of your life.

1. Hold on to your principles

Haruki Murakami wrote in "What I talk about when I talk about running": "If you violate the principles you have set for yourself, even once, you will violate more principles later."

If a person cannot hold on to his principles, he will be pressed by others.

Instead of letting others trample on you, you should reject them from the source.

In the TV series "Female Psychologist" Xiao Mo's "good guy" originated from the shadows of his childhood, because he refused to help his classmates clean up and was isolated, seeking help from teachers and parents, and received either the reassurance that things would be fine or "if people don't like you, find more reasons from yourself The questioning of "if people don't like you, find more reasons from yourself" makes him think that he can only get "love" by constantly pleasing others.

So, habitually condescend to themselves, to please others, thinking that compromise concessions can be exchanged for "genuine", not knowing that their behavior feeds the other side of the inch.

The other party will be embarrassed at first, and then it becomes a matter of course, thinking your help is due, not to help is deliberately looking for trouble, properly "a sincere feed the dog".

It is better to refuse to help those who should not help at the beginning, not to let out the "bad guys" oppress themselves.

Sometimes, rejecting people is simpler than you think, as long as the first step is taken bravely, the road behind will not be so difficult to walk.

Compared to "The Life of the Disliked Matsuko", in which Matsuko spent her life trying to please others, Mo was lucky to meet a female psychologist, Horton, and after receiving professional psychotherapy, she came out of the shadow of "not being loved" and found her true self.

The most important thing in life is yourself, too many worries, it is difficult for you, not to mention breaking your principles for others, and that will only result in a life of "pressure everywhere".

Only by holding fast to your principles and taking one step at a time, can you embrace your happiness.

2. Build up strength

There are no smooth sailing life, more ups, and downs.

Sometimes the front foot just solves a problem, and the back foot will encounter new problems, sometimes after a long time without problems If there is no half-strength, I'm afraid it is difficult to go farther.

Rather than passively in the problem of being "forced" to grow, rather than trying to improve themselves and build up strength to deal with the unknown everything.

To know that some problems are urgently needed to solve, for you to think about the time is not much, until the problem and then to learn is too late, it is better to spend more time to build up enough strength.

The more strength a person has, the more courageous he can be, not to panic because of unexpected situations.

Han Xin, after enduring the "crotch humiliation", spent a long time improving his knowledge, until he had accumulated enough strength, then he came out to find a bright master, to assist the bright master to create hegemony.

A person's empty dream, but no half-strength, not only can not support themselves to go farther, but also let themselves fall more miserable.

Only accumulate enough strength to have the courage to do what they want to do, to live the life they want, otherwise say more future is just daydreaming.

Many times, the strength is strong enough to allow themselves not to fear any unknown, not to give up lightly in front of the unknown accident, and finally lose themselves, living as their most hated people.

A person can only keep accumulating strength to hold on to themselves, out of their life road, to live the happy life they want.