How to Take the Wheel to Create the Life of Your Dreams

We live in a society where everyone knows what's right for you more than you do. Everyone has an opinion of who you are and know what's best for you.

You drag your life around trying to please everyone except yourself. If you have a dream, you need approval in order to pursue it. If you want to marry, your parents or friends will select the candidate for you. And when you want kids, your closest friends take it upon themselves to advise you if you will be a good parent or not.

We are put in a box to play the joker and entertain everyone who shows interest in us. There is a constant dialogue in our head that tells us that doing anything we love is the wrong path.

But at some point, you have to stop giving people the power to control you. You have to learn to choose your path and establish boundaries to protect your dreams.

And your dreams should make you feel good emotionally, both in and out. If you don't enjoy what you do, you'll end up missing out on your life.

How to get off the train and start living your own life

Our family and culture's expectations can sometimes hold us back from our dreams.

Society tells us what success looks like, and we somehow play into that grind. We feel guilty when we don't follow the path to success led out for us.

In order to move forward away from the guilt and do what gives us joy, we have to understand where those expectations are coming from.

For example, your parents want you to get an education, marry and have kids. They have had a tough life growing up with limited resources to support themselves and raise their children. They don't want you to go through that pain, and having an education means you get to earn an income to escape poverty, and having a husband and children will be the happiness you need.

You have to understand that your parent's expectations are coming from a place of love. So you can pursue your dreams, if it's music or art or whatever, and still find happiness and financial freedom doing that. Your path may be different from that of your parents, but the destination is just the same.

When you fiercely pursue your dream, spending all your time working and growing on that which will fulfill you, the quilt drops off because you are living in line with your being.

Share your progress in journey

When someone says you can't do something, you are like to doing anyway but hide it from them. However, what you should do is let them in on your journey.

You need to share your failures and accomplishment for them to understand why you love the path you've chosen for yourself. By sharing your progress, you become more confident, and it will make them feel like a part of your journey.

Tone other people's voices out

One of the biggest steps to following your path in life is to shut out those voices in your head criticizing your decision, so you can begin to listen to your own voices.

Learn to set boundaries about the expectations that you cannot tolerate that could mess up your dreams.

If your parents think getting married is what you need to be happy, they are likely to stir up conversations about who you are dating and when you intend to settle down. Having these conversations can put you in a spot. It can affect how you choose your dates. You may date people who match your parent's standards for you rather than for love.

But by learning to cut these sorts of conversations off, you will feel less pressured to be in a relationship if you aren't ready.

You have to remember that everything people say to us gets into our minds. It can change our energy and the outcome of our life.

So stop allowing people to design the flow in your life. Set boundaries on who you accept into your circle. People who will help you fulfill your mission.

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Jessey Anthony is a motivational speaker, fitness coach and relationship expert who helps people become confident in themselves in any challenges they face in life. Sign up to my newsletter & more cool stuff.

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