Giving up Does Not Mean You Are Weak and You Have Let Your Hands Down
It Is a Testament to Wisdom and Courage!
People tend to stick to the things they should give up. And they cling to them so much that they can ruin their lives and destinies. This is because in each person there is a struggle between what they feel and what they know.
This eternal Shakespearean plot: heart versus reason.
Even though deep down we know for sure that certain things should be let go of our lives, we continue to cling to them for certain reasons. It seems to us that this is impossible, that the world will collapse in their absence…
Or it could be another way: by giving up our love, we immediately begin to blame ourselves for not putting enough effort into keeping it. The very thought of parting is so frightening that we prefer to stay with that person and suffer. At the same time, we "ignore" the fact that love has long since died out, and we simply deceive ourselves.
For some reason, most people accept sadness and pain, continuing to care for and offer love to someone who had time to let go.
We are incredibly stubborn and optimistic, trying to make dead relationships work.
We continue to believe that if you want something very much and put in maximum effort, then everything will work in the end. That our love is so omnipotent and strong that it will make our partners change and change their attitudes toward us. After all, can't I just notice how we try? The hard truth of life is that I can. We just prefer not to believe. Let's lie.
We want to believe that if you think and believe in the good, then all evil will somehow miraculously evaporate. And the problems will be solved by themselves. But the truth is that the only thing that will "evaporate" is our hopes and dreams. And also faith in people. Do you want this?
When there is no way out, you should cut the thread that connects you to the past. Even if it will be very painful. It is as if you reopen a wound without which recovery is impossible.
Yes, we give up. We give up because we no longer see the point in holding on to what no longer exists. And that doesn't mean we surrendered. Not! That means I've tried too hard, cared too much for what died long ago.
When we are free, we are aware that we have spent our time, patience, and energy, but we have gained nothing in return. This means that I was with someone who did not appreciate our efforts and did not want to take at least a few steps towards welcome. This means that we are tired of fighting alone and alone.
But this, we repeat, does not mean that we have surrendered. That means I let go of the person who didn't want to stay. This means that these people should not have stayed in our lives. This means that we are letting go of someone who has never really been ours. We have not given up, because it is impossible to force those around us who do not belong to us.
And that doesn't mean we weren't strong and brave enough. That I had no strength or patience. This means, on the contrary, that we have become stronger than before. Much stronger. Because for the first time we dared to do what seemed previously incredible: to give up those we loved so much.
But this is very difficult. Whoever went through this confirms. Because, at the same time, it breaks your heart into small fragments, which have not yet been assembled into a whole, and the soul bleeds - it hurts, it hurts…
This means that when we leave these people, we return to ourselves. We were back on the road we always had to take. And those people were just random comrades and obstacles in our way. Now we have overcome these obstacles and no one else is bothering to move forward. Now we know for sure that in the past we have chosen the wrong path, but we realized in time.
When you are "too close", you focus on the problem, not the solution. And this gives us hope for something that will never happen. When you are ready to look at everything from afar, to give up, you see immediately and clearly that you are in the captivity of illusions.
After all, we never know what lies ahead. What if there is something truly beautiful and magical about it, why do we deprive ourselves of what we have to let go of?
Just by giving up on other people, you know you didn't give up on yourself. You will learn how it is: when you choose your path and determine your destiny. When you decide to be happy.
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