Finding It Hard To Be Positive If Life Has been Disappointing?

The hard fact is that no one promised us only the good life when we were born, and if we keep being negative, unfortunately, negativity is all we will get because your life would have nothing positive to help to build it up.

If your life isn’t as you thought, and your expectations have been dashed, it could be because you have been doing one, or more, of the following:

• Trying to control your life in every way to get the ideal life you seek, without any flexibility, and are coming unstuck every time because life is not only as we make it. Life will always please itself, no matter what plans we already have, hence the natural disasters that can strike at any time! We have no control over those, or over death, so planning the ideal life is pretty, futile because it is unlikely to go exactly as we believe it will. Something unexpected is likely to happen along the way, and it won’t always be good!

• Not accepting life as it is but trying to impose the limited world of your imagination and your fear onto it. But if you LET GO off the fears and just live, you could be amazed at the surprises you could get, way beyond your wildest dreams. For example, the author of Harry Potter, J K Rowling, had the most amazing self-belief about her ideas. She thought her books were going to be very successful, regardless of the rejections she got, and the hard times she was experiencing. She just continued doggedly to write her books, telling herself positive thoughts about her future, despite not having any evidence of the good life she was dreaming of. The rest is history, thanks to her confidence, positivity and faith. If someone had told her that she would make half a billion pounds in seven years, she would not have believed it. But that’s what happens when you are positive, with the belief and faith to carry that positivity. The Universe often works wonders.

• You are plagued by fear. You hope for things to happen to you but deep within you there is no belief that it will, no faith that it will eventually happen, and you tend to fear the worst. Not surprisingly, you get little to smile about because you cannot build positive things from negative thoughts! It is not possible. That would be like getting up in the morning telling yourself over and over how hard things are, and you can’t do anything about it, then expecting your life to change for the better! But you would have willed yourself into a negative state that would demotivate you and prevent you from actually doing anything to help yourself. All you will have is more fear to vindicate your anxiety.

• You are seeking perfection, either in yourself or what you do. But as nothing in life is perfect, it’s just a futile effort and nothing is likely to happen the way you expect. You are probably comparing yourself to others, thinking that you are worthless or inadequate compared to them; or are even afraid of experimenting, taking risks or making mistakes. But all those are necessary for success.

Life goes up and down in a natural cycle so that everything is only ever temporary, no matter what it is. We have to learn to accept the cycle of life because when we fight against it, all we are likely to have are disappointment, frustration and trauma. Hence we all have a choice regarding our lives. We can either live it each day with an open mind and positive thoughts, expecting miracles while doing our best, or we can be as negative as we like, complain a lot, live in fear, do nothing, and get nothing different, too. The choice is entirely ours.

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