Feminine Energy

We all have deep desires. Whether it’s a relationship, a dream job, a lifestyle, etc. As women, the way we present ourselves has an enormous impact on whether we receive the things we want or repel them. The way we present ourselves is directly related to the energy we give off. This is referred to as our feminine energy.

Why you aren't attracting your desires

There are many opportunities we might miss simply because we are in the wrong energy or vibration. Do you present yourself with more of your dark or light feminine energy? If you are too much of one or the other will make it much more difficult to attract certain things. Have you ever heard anyone say you attract what you are? Indeed, you will only receive the things that are vibrating at the same frequency as you. Many times, you can attract and achieve whatever you want by just shifting and balancing your energy.

Dark Feminine.   Light feminine

Being female is like having multiple personalities; let's be honest. We have been pushed into a position where we, as females, have to use this to stay out of uncomfortable situations. I love being in my light feminine energy. I'm a nurturer. I take care of everyone. I love being soft and kind. There are times when I have to turn this off and seem unapproachable.

Using the dark feminine energy

We, as women, can switch. If we were at a gas station or grocery store and we didn’t want to be approached by a creepy man, we don’t look all smiley and sweet. We kind of have an unspoken attitude, but it can be felt. Some of us don’t even realize we do this. For others, it’s the only energy they ever give off.

The light feminine energy

Being in your light energy can be so sweet and make you feel calm and peaceful. This is your cuter approachable side.  We tend to see this more in relationships or when we are trying to attract something or someone. It's our gentle, nurturing side. Anyone like me who is a traditional homemaker is mostly in this energy. Taking care of everyone and the home. Maybe even looked at as motherly. This energy is so inviting, warm, and approachable.

Balance

Both of these are important because when you learn to have balance, that’s when you attract. That’s when you have reached this divine feminine energy where you have both the dark mysterious side of you that makes people wonder, but you also have a high vibration that is so inviting, so attractive, and just brings so many good things. This is when you are the most desirable. So, can you balance it? How can we all do this?

Shift your energy

We've talked about the energies and when we might use them, but some of us have trouble balancing them. What does it even mean to balance your energy? So, as I've mentioned before some people are stuck in just one energy. We have all met someone that might be too nice. Maybe a little bit of a pushover and they get taken advantage of or walked on. That is being stuck in her light feminine. If you are stuck here, I'm going to guess you are a people pleaser. You don’t like to hurt people's feelings or disappoint them. It's okay to want to be kind and care about the feelings of others, but not when it is at the expense of your comfort. This is when you must know how to shift into that dark feminine energy and SET THOSE BOUNDARIES!

Learning the hard part

Dark feminine energy. That sounds bad, but it's not. It just means you can unapologetically have your own opinion and boundaries. You don’t need the validation of anyone else. You have this ability to hold onto your energy. You do not waste it on anything or anyone that does not align with your highest good. You don’t give too much of yourself. Some might even describe it as being a little mysterious.

Okay, that’s wonderful but how?

To start, don’t question yourself, and don’t let other people make you question yourself. You need to have enough confidence to be able to say what you mean and mean what you say. Some of us need to do a lot of deep healing to get here. Many times, this is not an easy change to make. Let's start with learning how to say no. For people pleasers, this is a difficult one. I suggest starting with people that you don’t come across every day. If someone asks you for a favor and you don’t want to do it that’s the time to practice saying no. Ladies, when I say “no” I mean “no”. Without explanation. You do not owe anyone an explanation and that’s not being mean or disrespectful. If you don’t feel comfortable with the straight answer “no” right away, then you can rephrase. Try “No thank you” or “I don’t have time”. Do not apologize for giving your answer and we don’t need to sugarcoat it either.

Confidence.

This is a terrifying word for most women. A majority of us struggle in this area. The truth is building confidence doesn’t have to be hard, you just need to do the inner work and heal. There are secrets to this. When you have confidence, your words mean so much more because you don’t seem unsure. When you seem unsure it's easier for people to decide not to take you seriously and they will feel as though you may have said no but with a little push and pressure, you will probably give in. Confidence is going to come up consistently in these topics because it is the key to everything.

Privacy

One more thing is to not reveal too much about yourself. There are many reasons for this, and it differs depending on the situation. In a broader aspect, when people know everything about you, they have leverage. So now when you begin to grow and set boundaries there's going to be people that don’t like that because they can't take advantage of you anymore but there's a problem. You’ve let them in on everything and now they know what bothers you. They know how to get under your skin. They know what makes you angry and what stresses you and how to tear you down. Now we can cut these people off and we can ignore them, but they become another obstacle to deal with while we are trying to heal and be better. So, move silently and be vague about some things.

Don’t give it all away

Don’t waste all of your energy, there will be times when you have to pull all of your energy back and just stay neutral and recharge. When we give too much of our energy we burn out. Our dark feminine protects us from this. We need her so let her out sometimes. You won't believe how differently people will treat you. Wait. So... What about that light feminine energy?