Do You Make the Same Mistakes in Your Life?

Do You Make the Same Mistakes in Your Life?

It's OK. Move On

You have done, or you think you have made many mistakes. In your studies, in the choice of your profession, in the house or the city, you live in, in your significant other.

Sometimes you think that you make mistakes when you decide on a cloth. Or even when you are ordering in a restaurant. Everything seems wrong.

You confuse the slightest with the important. You are tensed, worried, frightened. You are terrified by the simple and horror-struck by the harder tasks of life.

When things get rough, when everything is going the wrong way, you feel depressed.

You sense you are limited to a small space, in a tiny room. The walls are moving toward you, restricting you to a small corner. You cannot breathe freely, your heart palpitates fast, and your eyes are blinking nervously. You are sweating heavily, throbs are falling, wetting your shirt.

You are alone and lonely.

Everything is against you? Or is it the other way around?

A common misconception.

To place yourself in the center of the world is not a movement of well-being but of distress. Nor it does affirm your success. It confirms your despair.

Your attitude towards right and wrong, what you consider your mistakes, is the crucial standpoint that determines your prosperity.

We always sway between two opposites: the domination of egocentricity and the suppression of self misery.

To prosper is not to obtain many and aim for more.

It's to be balanced.

To prosper is to find the proper equilibrium.

To gain a strong basis and roots.

More importantly, to acquire the ability to see yourself in depth.

To be fair to yourself.

Evolution or inner pollution?

Habits and social mannerisms are what guide us. It's our upbringing and the prevailing trends of society.

We are creatures of habit.

It is imprinted in our biological and cultural DNA.

It is impossible to distinguish between the two.

Science searches for the distinction. Struggles, through molecules and genes, customs and political sciences, anthropology, psychoanalysis, or history. Looks at the tiniest ingredient of an organism and investigates mass phenomena.

Have we found the definitive answers?

I am afraid not.

We all have gained a lot. Progress in an infinite number of aspects is undoubtful.

But is it enough?

Progress vs improvement.

Is a man or a woman today so much different from a man or a woman 2000 years ago or 2000 miles away from our big city?

Do we confuse technical developments with inner evolution?

Do we mix our longing for love and tranquility with success and accomplishments?

Are we ready for the cheap exchange?

Are we willing to sell our birthright for a mere plate of stew?

Have our basic fears and needs changed that much?

We move so faster now compared with fifty or a hundred years ago.

Everyone is running. Things change around us at the speed of light. Every couple of months, we find ourselves outdated in the middle of this electronic cauldron. Updates remind us we must proceed to the next gadget, to the newest device, to the latest edition of a program.

Quantity in the virtual and the real world dominates.

We believe that not having the "new necessary" is close to unhappiness. Missing something or having an older model is a curse, a reason to feel inferior to the "bright and shiny" rich.

But is the worst thing that can happen to you the shortage of various objects?

A dream.

I had a dream one night. I saw myself having all my belongings attached to my body within small and big drawers. Everything was there. From my childhood collection of stamps to my car, from my suits to my keyboard. I kept the human body but with enormous deformities. My corpse was distorted. I could walk but the great burden made every step torturous labor.

I felt I was going to collapse... I woke up. The nightmare ended. And...

I learned. Being light, having less, depending on the really useful, and discarding the unnecessary, are crucial steps toward happiness.

Happiness is not an abstract distant situation.

Happiness is the hardest and yet the easiest choice a human can make in his life.

A choice instead of a given situation.

To decide and to change is not an issue of conditions.

You don't need something extra, a better work, a better house, more of anything.

It's the opposite.

It is not addition that accumulates wealth and joy but subtraction.

To have the essential is to let go of the insignificant.

Every day the sun rises. There comes a day that you will rise too.

If humans are creatures of infinite mistakes, numerous errors, and countless faults, humans are also capable of learning from misinterpretations.

Mistakes are not a kind of punishment that we, or someone else, impose upon our lives.

Misreadings they are.

Not between you and me. But between myself and me.

They are more of a lesson.

They are our share of life.

Whether we are "good" and quick students or "bad" and slow, it's totally up to us.

Things don't come from outside randomly in an unequal proportion of misery and fortune. Things just come. We cannot predict them. We cannot, in most cases, alter them.

What we can do is act and react in a different way.

We must accept everything.

That doesn't mean we compromise with mediocrity, injustice, or despair.

By understanding what is beyond our power, we don't quit.

Because even in your worst hour, even in the darkest moment, it's absolutely up to you to decide your destiny.

The word destiny comes from the word destination. We chose where and when and with whom we will make our way.

Then a new transformation will happen.

There is no mistake big enough to separate us from our true selves. It's a choice. And there isn't just a way out.

There is always a road...