Dare to be DIFFERENT!

Unapologetic authenticity blurs lines, pushes boundaries, overlooks rules, and dares to be different! Beginning in infancy; Society and culture (among many other influences) inundate our psyches to breed conformity, fear, judgment, drive obedience and suppress individuality. Masterly conditioned to fit inside and within a box. In turn, we evolve to understand that we are bound to that box by insecurities, guilt, fear, and low self-esteem. We then enter adulthood believing that our overall value is measured and determined by another's version of right-and-wrong. Thinking, choices, actions, and communications are both publicly (and even more concerning) personally altered to "suit" someone else's narrative. Internally branded souls that live in anguish chastised by needing approval/acceptance and misaligned from inner truth.

"Not normal." "Hard to love." "Rebellious." "Disloyal." "Rule-breaker." "Disobedient." Haunted by these descriptions, I (and so many others), unequipped with the emotional strength and mental health tools needed, slowly drifted away into an escape. Mine was a secret high-functioning world of addiction(s). Until I hit a brick wall, I reached the proverbial fork. Examining myself, I painfully realized that I had been searching for happiness, affirmation, and success outside of myself for most of, if not all, of my life. It is not that I didn't know who I was - I did, wholeheartedly. I had allowed life to break my spirit enough that I became conditioned to hide my true self in fear of disapproval and rejection. My thoughts were authentic while I tried to control my actions and reactions to be loved and accepted. The longer a person suppresses their truth - the more torment and anguish spreads throughout. In my case, I was spiritually, emotionally, and physically broken (with a couple of added addictions). So, I created my - FIND YOUR TRUTH - X3!

An at-home mother of three ranging from fifteen to five during a pandemic, circumstances did not allow much outside the home. Also, accustomed to chaos and noise, I do not do well when left with silence and thoughts. So, I listened. Each day, as I tended to the repetitive tasks that each of-us wives and moms despise, I scrolled through podcasts and absorbed. I analyzed, self-interviewed, and researched each personality that resonated with me. I learned, grew, and have slowly not only embraced my truths but also own who I am. Now, today, I have my 3, who get me through each day. In these three personalities: I have found my church, my therapist, higher education, and multiple life coaches (with many laughs and smiles throughout).

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Zach Rushing: "Zach Rushing is a motivational comic from South Mississippi." - https://improv.com/comic/zach+rushing/

Zach is a blue-collar country-loving redneck. Zach's Facebook rants (which I have watched each one continually - when he is not in Facebook jail) have helped me find and own my voice. His humor brings a smile, but most importantly, his platform partners for philanthropy. He is a disciplined, hard worker and reminds me of old-school values and respect that each generation now is losing and that our kids today need! Zach is unapologetically authentic but fair, kind, and open-minded. Numerous listeners dislike his approach, comments, and language (hence the constant Facebook jail). I find that he says 90% of what I think. Or, have thought, but not dare say, especially on a public platform!

When I need to toughen up, need a kick in the ass, or know my opinion is the minority - I log into Zach. After listening, I am back to my sassy (going to speak my truth) self! Furthermore, Zach is a cancer survivor! He has rebuilt himself to success multiple times! I also love his take on his relationship - all in fun!

Joe Rogan: Joe does not need an introduction (for consistency purposes): "Joe is a stand up comic, mixed martial arts fanatic, psychedelic adventurer, host of the Joe Rogan experience podcast" - https://www.joerogan.com

Joe is the perfect example of realness, meets success with continuous growth. Specifically, Joe's podcast: The Joe Rogan Experience ignites thought-provoking creativity within me at an impressive level. Following each podcast, regardless of his guest, I find myself in an intellectual tug-of-war. I wrestle with his beliefs and concepts, specific not to any single subject, but all of them that he has tackled. If I am unable to grasp a topic or a concept, I will relisten and then research until I understand completely!

His podcast also creates a philosophical connection between my husband and I. We often find ourselves discussing the trending topics, debating our stances on each subject. We both love to learn and challenge ourselves, so this podcast has been a great way for our minds to unite.

Jason Lee: "Jason Lee is a gossip blogger, media personality, and brand ambassador. He is openly gay and biracial and endured a rough childhood growing up in the foster care system in Stockton, California, as his mother battled drug addiction. In 2015, he became the founder, editor-in-chief, and CEO of the gossip blog Hollywood Unlocked" - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/hollywood-unlocked-with-jason-lee-uncensored/id1319481363

Jason Lee at first listen comes off as a raunchy, money-chasing gossiper. I am not attracted to his gossip website or his hilarious Gagging podcast, but more to his story. Jason Lee is an openly gay man that unapologetically lives his truth, chases his dreams, built himself up from nothing through adversity, and continues to live his best life and grow spiritually.

When listening to Jason Lee, whether it be on his numerous podcasts or an interview, I can always hear between the lines and feel his true self shine through. I admire his bravery and lack of filter regarding sexuality. His openness to show the world his skeletons, admit his mistakes and promote mental health and growth. He is raw and hilarious while diving into real issues between celebrity "tea". Sipping his cup, while eating his popcorn, in sweats or his bathrobe showcases remote work, in comfortable attire is possible and does not define professionalism! You can come from nothing, with no "real talents" as he says, and execute a dream! He inspires me, a 38-year-old caucasian housewife, as far from Hollywood or his culture, to chase all of my dreams!

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"To 'be true to oneself is to consciously refer to one's stable values, motives, and beliefs as one makes decisions, which can be difficult when momentary social influences are insensitive or contradictory to these values and beliefs." - Kennon M. Sheldon

Each of these personalities has dared to be different by unapologetically living their authentic truth! Each distinct from the other in every way possible, but united in transparency. Each uses humor as a buffer to sensitive topics. Each exemplifies fulfilling success through hard work, determination, courage, and most importantly their truth! Each, using their platform to give back! Each, sparking a different piece of me that was dimmed and thought to be lost.

Taking each day as it comes, and envisioning the success of my short term and long term goals both personally and professionally (with my 3 in my ear when needed) I:

With that, authenticity comes with a slight disclaimer. Everything doesn't need to be said, every time. Being cognizant and sensitive to others' patterns and communication styles while being true to yourself is respectful consideration. Mitigate each interaction with kindness, understanding, and loyalty. Then, find your truth, own your voice and Dare to be Different!