Are You Looking for External Validation?

Are You Enough?

Maybe you feel like no matter how much you achieve, it’s never enough? Like your worth is tied to your job title, your relationships, or how others perceive you?

Many of us seek validation from the outside world, believing that we must prove ourselves to be worthy of love, success, and happiness. But what if I told you that this pattern is written in your Human Design chart?

Human Design is a revolutionary system that helps you understand your unique energy blueprint—how you think, feel, and move through the world. And when it comes to self-worth, one energy center holds the answer: The Will Center.

In this article, you’ll learn how to check your Will Center, what it means for your self-worth, and how you can start shifting from seeking validation to embracing your innate value.

Step 1: Generate Your Personal Map to Self-Discovery (Your Human Design Chart)

Before we dive into your Will Center, you first need to generate your Human Design chart. Think of this chart as a map to your true self—one that reveals how your energy works, where you might be influenced by the world around you, and where you can personally grow.

• Go to a free Human Design chart calculator (Jovian Archive, BodyGraph).
• Enter your birth details: Birth Date, Exact Birth Time (this is important! Even a few minutes can make a difference.), and Birth Place.

• Generate your chart.

Once your chart appears, you’ll see nine energy centers. These are like chakras, each representing different aspects of your life.

Now, let’s focus on one center in particular—the Will Center. This is where we uncover your relationship with self-worth and validation.

Step 2: The Will Center – Your Inner Compass for Self-Worth

Imagine that your Human Design chart is projected onto your body. The Will Center is located near your heart. It governs themes like self-worth, willpower, and motivation.

Now, look at your chart. Is your Will Center colored in (defined) or white (undefined)?

If Your Will Center Is White (Undefined), this means that you do not generate consistent energy in this area. You might feel uncertain about your worth and look outside yourself for validation.

Common Signs of an Undefined Will Center:

• You ride waves of self-esteem. One day, you feel confident; the next, you question your worth.
• You try to prove yourself through achievements. Whether it’s work success, social media validation, or approval from loved ones, you believe you need to "earn" your value.
• You overcommit to things you don’t actually want to do. You say "yes" just to feel worthy.
• You feel pressure to keep up with others who seem naturally confident and self-assured.
• You struggle with resting and relaxing because you think your worth is tied to productivity.

Sound familiar? If so, you’re not broken. You’re just operating from a place of conditioning.

The good news? Awareness is the first step to transformation. Now that you know what’s happening, let’s shift the way you see yourself.

Step 3: Reclaiming Your Self-Worth (Breaking Free From External Validation)

Now that you understand your Undefined Will Center, it’s time to break free from the cycle of seeking validation and embrace your true worth.

Your thoughts shape your reality. If you’ve been conditioned to believe you are not enough, it’s time to rewire your inner dialogue.

Start your day by saying:

"I am worthy simply because I exist."

"I don’t need to prove myself to be loved."

"My achievements do not define my worth."

"I honor my own pace and trust my journey."

At first, these affirmations might feel uncomfortable. But with repetition, they will rewire your subconscious to see yourself in a new light.

Journaling is a powerful way to uncover where you’ve been seeking validation and rewrite your story.

Ask yourself:

When do I feel the need for external validation?

Where in my life do I try to prove my worth?

What would change if I believed I was enough as I am?

How do I want to redefine my self-worth moving forward?

Write freely—without judgment. You may be surprised at what comes up.

If you have an undefined Will Center, the world has likely conditioned you to push harder, do more, and constantly prove yourself.

What if you didn’t have to?

What if your value was never about what you do, but about who you are?

What if you could finally relax and trust that you are already enough?

When you release the pressure to prove, hustle, or seek approval, you step into your authentic power.

If you’ve spent years seeking validation, this is your invitation to stop searching outside yourself.

Your worth is not up for debate.

Your value is not measured by achievements.

You are enough—right now, exactly as you are.

Understanding your Undefined Will Center is just the beginning of your journey. But now, you have the awareness to shift the way you see yourself.