All Things Self-Worth

Self-Love and Self-Esteem is something that people tend to brush to the side when its something that should be worked on and focused on on a daily basis. People spend their time valuing themself based on the value given to them by everyone else, but your quality of life and your happiness is based on how feel about yourself. I've learned that how you treat yourself and how you allow others to treat you is based on your Self-Esteem. When you love yourself, it shows in your actions and in your thoughts, but it takes time to get to that point and its a battle that you will be fighting for the rest of your life. As time passes by it will get easier to fight, but it is something that you have to work to maintain or else life (bad days, bad friends, bad experiences) will try to drag it down. Keeping up your self esteem up is based on different things, like mindeset (thoughts and beliefs about yourself), influence (friends and relationships) and actions (how you treat yourself).

One example is mantras. Some people stand in the mirror and tell themself things and although that works for some it doesn't work for me because my mantras aren't based on what I see in the mirror. I tell myself i'm beautiful, brilliant, different and enough at random points in the day because despite how i look to others, I genuinely believe all these things about myself. The key is finding your inner beauty and loving who you are as a person without the physical feautures temporarily boosting your ego.

Next is influence, in other words peer pressure. The influences you have around you are important because negativity breathes negativity. Get around other people who are working on loving themself or who already love themself and who love you despite your flaws. People who love you not for what you have to give them or for how you look, but because they genuinely love being around you. These types of people will influence you in a positive direction when it comes to you loving yourself because they will show you why you are worth it and why you're beautiful on the inside.

Lastly is how you treat yourself and yes, this also falls under the categories of self-love and self-care. Self-Care is deeper than just doing things like your hair or your nails. Although these things an help you destress and feel beautiful it is more about how you treat yourself. You need to give yourself boundaries and standards when it comes to the type of friends and relationships you get yourself into. Ask yourself these questions and it includes This includes your job, your household, your family, your friends, and your significant other. What kind of environments am I always in? Is it 'toxic'? Am I valued the way i desire to be valued? How do I allow others to treat me? Am I ok with me if none of these relationships work out? How do I view myself, is it positive? If not what am I doing about it and how am I tryong to fix it? Just try to remember that raising your self-esteem and learning to love self doesn't happen over night it takes time and you have to continuously work on it.