Admit To Fault

One of the most frustrating things in life has to be when someone is clearly in the wrong, or worse, when they have been proven guilty of being in the wrong, but yet they still don't admit to fault. Despite being at fault, there's always some sort of excuse they will refer to in order to try and justify their innocence, some sort of scapegoat to pass the blame on, just to protect their pride and reputation. I could list several names of people I know personally, even many of whom are extremely close to me, who will never admit when they are in the wrong, or have done something wrong. Now I can't sit here and pretend to be an angel though either, because there have been several instances in the past where my pride has got the better of me also, and I have denied being in the wrong, knowing full well that I was. Over these past couple of years however, thanks to investing time into personal development, mind training, and bettering myself as a person, every single day, I have found myself always taking ownership for my mistakes nowadays. Admitting when I have made a mistake, admitting when I have been in the wrong, and most of all, apologizing to those who I have transgressed against, has now become habit. It's not only the taking ownership of my mistakes piece, but also acknowledging that I am human, that I make mistakes from time to time, that I no longer have any control over the past and what I have done, and that I need to forgive myself and move on. It's been about swallowing my pride, having the courage and the courtesy to apologize to those who I have wronged, and then learning from such mistakes, in order to avoid doing them again in the future. What I've found, is that admitting to mistakes and errors, I have began feeling a overwhelming feeling of satisfaction and release.

As humans, we often find it hard enough to forgive others for their transgressions against us, but many people find it's just as hard to forgive themselves when they are they transgressor, hence why many will deny being at fault. It's like people trick their minds into believing they aren't at fault just so they don't have to carry that weight of regret or shame for making a mistake. They know, that in doing so, it will make them feel upset and angry with themselves, therefore they refuse to accept they make mistakes, simple as that! It's like admitting to fault or error will damage their stature, expose themselves as being inferior to others, when they want to continue maintaining this belief that they are superior to everyone else. It could be an age thing, where just because someone is older than the other person, where they automatically think they are more mature, they are more knowledgeable, and they are more wiser, than that younger person, but maturity, knowledge, and wisdom don't come from age, they come from experience. A lot of people will proclaim something to be the truth or fact, purely from what they have heard from someone else, or what they have read, when the truth is, they don't really know it to be truth or fact at all, because they have never actually experienced it for themselves. They will defend that belief in a debate or disagreement with others, and even when it is exposed to be nothing more than a myth, they still deny being in the wrong, maybe even for the fact they just don't want to accept such information to be the truth.

Of course it's never a nice feeling making a mistake, being in the wrong, or being responsible for a failure. We want to feel happy, satisfied, knowledgeable, and confident, after all. The question is, why do we act like our whole life will completely fall apart, whenever we make a mistake, or get something wrong, and worse, having to admit to it? Why is it so important that we have to be right all the time? For as long as humankind has existed, not one person has been innocent from having not made a mistake. No one is free from fault or error! We all sin, we all make mistakes, we all fail at some point in time, so what? It's a part of being human, and yet we are too proud to ever admit when we are in the wrong, when we have failed, or when we have made a mistake. We just cannot handle someone else being right, someone else winning an argument, or seeing the reaction on that other person's face when they have proven us wrong. We don't want to let that other person feel the satisfaction of being right, and winning the debate, as it were. It's nothing more than pride. The fact is, even though we like to fool our mind into believing we are in the right, deep down, we know full well that we are not. Internally, we punish ourselves, and yet we take that anger and frustration out on other people though, destroying our character in the process. We may think that trying to prove that we are never at fault or to blame is actually protecting our stature and reputation, but in reality, we are losing the respect and admiration of others. Does it really matter about handing the glory to someone else when they are right, and we are wrong? Who cares? Is it really that hard to apologize? In the scheme of things, it means nothing! Even if they make us look foolish, laugh at us, criticize us, or even deny our apology and request for forgiveness, it doesn't make us inferior, weak, or stupid, it only highlights the other person's lack of maturity. You've done the right thing, and that's all that matters!

Admitting to fault and error provides us with release and forgiveness, which then allows us to return to a positive mindset, and refocus on our goals and other priorities in life. We are no longer a prisoner to that mistake or error, we have taken ownership, admitted fault, apologized, and moved on. We are not chained by regret any longer, because we know we can't change the past, but we can instead learn from the past to better shape our future. Prior until when I started to take ownership for my mistakes, errors, and failures, it was frustrating enough when others refused to accept fault when they were in the wrong, and I can tell you first hand, now that I do take ownership for my mistakes, errors, and failures, it's become even more frustrating when others don't. The thing is, it's not a frustration for me personally, as such, it's a frustration in knowing what destruction they are actually doing to themselves and their mindset, by protecting their pride and refusing to admit fault. I can see that they are keeping themselves a prisoner to regret and anger towards themselves, all because they don't have the courage to take ownership and admit to being a typical human who makes mistakes and errors. You are not superior to anyone else on this planet, we are all equal. We are all human, we all fail, we all make mistakes, we all make errors, and we all make wrong decisions from time to time. Let's have the maturity to admit when we are in the wrong, have the courage and courtesy to apologize to anyone whom we transgressed against, and have the understanding to forgive ourselves. Our mistakes, faults, and failures, are all supposed to help us learn in life, so we can grow, develop, and mature. The learning from these mistakes, faults, and failures, can actually help us to go on and create success, happiness, and fulfillment. Isn't it time you started admitting to fault?

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