Adjust Your Thoughts

Fake it til you make it. Who came up with that idea? This concept makes no sense to me. It’s a sensitive subject but I will talk about it. There are certain things you just don’t do.

Education. Either you know the material or you don’t. You can’t fake intelligence. You are 1. dumber than a door nail or 2. Smart as a whip. Your test scores reflect that. Your education is also reflected in the way you act, the way you talk and carry yourself. Some people truly need to learn proper grammar because it hurts your character. Some people out in the streets have better knowledge than those who aren't. Quite sad.

Sex. I hate to do it but I’m going there. There is no reason to keep acting like you are satisfied knowing that you are out cheating. Stop stringing people along for your own personal benefit because that's just selfish.

Women/men need to hear this. If you don’t do one specific thing in the bedroom, too bad so sad. The man/woman is going to look for it elsewhere. Sorry, not sorry. A man should not have to beg a woman for a “certain” thing and a woman shouldn’t have to beg a man for a “certain” thing. Ya’ll know what I’m referring to. I understand that some things are off limits, which is fine but that one specific thing is very important.

Relationships. If we have to cheat on each other, there is a problem. Why be together and not be together? Explanation: We are supposed to be with one another but we are out being with other people. I don’t know about you but if I’m not happy, I’m making it known and moving on. Nobody has to stay miserable. It's a choice, not a decision.

A boyfriend and girlfriend can break up. Its hard to sever the attachment after you have made that bond but think about this way: why do you want to stay in a miserable situation? He/she is getting their money's worth in sex or spending your money, sometimes both.

Its hard to end things because of the multiple I love you's that have been said, the things you have done together and the promises of marriage (if your relationship made it that far). But at the end of the day, you have to make yourself happy. If there are no children between you two, this is a cut and paste situation.

You can be with someone for years and bond like glue. But once that bond starts to dwindle, things dont make sense, let it go. Dont keep trying to fix it. You are hurting yourself. Dont continue to linger on because you dont have to. If he hasnt put a ring on it, there is a reason.

Children. A precious gift from the man above. Children are little angels that don’t choose their parents and they don’t ask to be here. If people were such good parents, then why are there so many children in the foster care system? Some people adopt with the right intentions while others adopt with a hidden agenda.

Some people actually want children because they can't have children but others do it because they get income for the child. But one thing that they dont know is this: The same way that you think, children are on the same level.

The acting out is not just a temper tantrum. Its their mental way of showing you that they know you dont care for them. Let that sink in for a minute. Nobody ever thought of it that way. We always the say the child needs discipline. Take a moment to assess the situation.

Common sense. They say that common sense isn’t common. Wrong. You should know that after so long, the false image of who you pretend to be is going to fall apart. Somebody somewhere knows how you really are. They know the real you, not this fake person that you are trying to be.

You only get one chance to make a first impression so why not make it count? You can change your outer appearance but don't start trying to change who you really are as a person.

To conclude I say this: Fake it until you make does not exist. We try to make an outline, but we don’t make our list.