A Child is Not a Doll

A Child is Not a Doll by Katherine Aguilar

The moments that have not been important to your past. Have now become the cherished moments you had. The generations of the past look to the generations of the future and have seen so much change. It is as if someone hits the forward button and is not looking back or even looking to the future. With the convenience of technology, society is becoming increasingly intelligent. Take a moment and step back, and look at what you are seeing. Society is deteriorating before our eyes, and nobody seems to care. What we are seeing is the seed that was planted years ago. From parents who didn’t give their children direction or time. The older generation is dying off. What knowledge they have is going with them. It is not coming back. Parents will go back over what they did wrong. For they feel they have given their children everything, if not even more than their parents gave them. The major thing they didn’t teach them was to have common sense. To think out solutions or to problem solve. They give up too easily and blame someone else for their failures.

What a parent allows children to see or do. It will set their children up for the future. To give a child everything they want is not the answer. To say to others, “ I am giving them what I didn’t have”. It's a Band-Aid. When their child grows up, they will think someone is going to give them everything they want. They haven’t figured it out; they have to work for it to make it happen. Parents have made themselves an ATM or a CREDIT CARD. The day their child finally becomes an adult, their parents tell them it is time to find their way. They will look around and say, “ What DO I DO?!” Mom! Dad, aren’t you going to give it to me? The mom and Dad said NO!

That young adult will probably have a breakdown. They will figure it out or find someone to teach them what the parents should've taught them years ago, as they were growing up. The child will resent the parent for never teaching them what a stranger had to step in and teach them. God willing, they find someone with sense to help them. If not, this will lead the young adult down a dark path that could spiral out of control.

Parents are not afraid of correction. In correction, there is LOVE. Yes, when you guide and correct your child, you are giving them the tools to succeed and be a successful adult. When you let a child run astray or let them do as they wish. As your answer is “ they are just kids”. You are showing a lack of love. You are passing on the responsibility to someone else. Many parents are excited about the process of getting pregnant and being a father and mother. They are lost in the fantasy of it. Once the fantasy is over, they don't want to put in the work to be a parent. They pass on the responsibility to school teachers, friends, strangers, etc. Then they blame them all for when their child goes astray. In truth, they should look in the mirror and BLAME THEMSELVES!

Having a child is not like having a pretty doll. You make the consensus decision to bring life into this world. God gave him or her as a gift. They want someone else to take responsibility for that gift after they realize it is too much work. You are responsible for that child until you take your last breath. Yes, until you die. If you live a long life, and your child has grown into an adult, and your child has no direction or growth. It is your responsibility to pray that God sends them someone who will influence them enough to help them change their lives, or a grandchild you may never even meet. The seed you leave is the direction for what will happen to your family branch.

Where do you want your branch to end? There is one Major book a parent should do their research into to fix their branch, it is the bible. If you do not care about your branch. Then do nothing. You will not have to ask what will happen to your branch. You will know. You can see your branch; it will die slowly. Or you can step in and repeat corrections over and over in their head so it is tattooed in their brain, so there is a small chance at saving your branch.

So what are you going to do?