4 signs your life is about to change

Change is an integral part of life, but many are very afraid of it. And even those that will lead to the resolution of problems and psychological comfort. How to stop being afraid of change? And how do you know that your life is about to change?

Why are we afraid of change and how to fix it

Our brains love stability. Hence - many of our habits, daily rituals, unwillingness to leave boring (but familiar) work. On the one hand, this approach helps to save energy and reduce anxiety, on the other hand, it limits our capabilities.

“Change for many is the fear that the unfamiliar and unknown awaits you,” comments Maria Korovkevich, coach-trainer of theta healing. “Therefore, for the sake of positive changes in life, you will have to learn to see your fears, make friends with them and work through them.”

One of the effective methods for this, says Maria Korovkevich, is the written "living" of fear.

Decide what scares you. Take a piece of paper and write in detail what terrible can happen to you in this situation. “For example, you are scared to go to an interview,” says Maria Korovkevich. - What, for example, can happen to you at a terrible interview - you will be asked a question to which you do not know the answer, they will talk to you sharply, they will ask about your experience, but your experience is small. In general, think about what exactly scares you, and live it, imagine as if the situation is real. Let the fearful emotions come out. "

At the end of the practice, you will most likely feel relieved. “When you lived it, designed all the uncomfortable and frightening situations, you got rid of them. Now you know what to do. Our brain does not care whether it lived this situation in reality or only on paper. That's it, he got this experience, and it's not scary anymore, ”adds Maria Korovkevich.

In the long term, this practice will help you deal with basic fears and will allow you to change the habitual pattern of behavior - it will be easier for you to choose something new and gradually adjust your life. Which ultimately can lead you to global changes. How do you know that they are already close?

You gave up the victim mindset

The main symptom of victim thinking is the habit of blaming others or circumstances for their problems. “Parents are to blame for choosing an unclaimed profession,” “because of my husband, I cannot fulfill myself,” “I have to keep the marriage for the sake of the child” - if you often have such thoughts, do not expect significant changes in your life.

But if you are ready to take responsibility for your decisions, are not afraid to make mistakes, do not blame anyone for your own difficulties - positive changes in life will not keep you waiting. Why? Because you recognize yourself as the "blacksmith of your own happiness" and when making decisions, first of all, you think about your own comfort.

You have learned to part with old attitudes

All decisions we make are influenced by our attitudes. These are some postulates and principles learned in childhood or from later personal experience. The main problem is that they become obsolete, and we continue to be guided by them. “Each of us collects and puts memories and past experiences into our own 'trailer'. And many are dragging this heavy trailer to the future - to a new job or to a new relationship, ”comments Maria Korovkevich.

Why is it so difficult for us to part with the past? “Because in past situations we are already like a fish in water - everything is familiar, we know what to do, only one nuance - the past result does not suit, I want another. How can you get a different result without changing your actions? No way, ”says Maria Korovkevich.

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But if you have learned to rethink your experience, abandon outdated attitudes and let go of the past, your life will begin to change for the better very quickly.

You've learned to defend your boundaries

The ability to say no is one of the most valuable skills of a mature person. By giving up unnecessary responsibilities and unsuitable options, you are moving closer to the life of your dreams.

But, alas, most of us find it difficult to say “no” to others: we are afraid to seem impolite and selfish, to lose the disposition of others. As a result, we agree to work, duties or relationships that do not suit us, and we feel unhappy.

If you have learned to refuse (even to close people) and agree only to what suits you, then you have taken a big and important step towards positive changes in life.

Your social circle has changed

The environment strongly influences our thinking: we easily adopt the ideas of the people with whom we communicate. Therefore, by the way, wealthy people often belong to various business clubs and other "hobby groups".

Two conclusions follow from this. First, you can use it to your advantage and join the various communities of people you admire. Secondly, if for some reason your social circle has already changed, be prepared for changes.

Moreover, by and large, it does not matter why it happened - as a result of a move, a job change, or even habits. The main thing is that now you are surrounded by new people, which means that new ideas will come into your life with them. And that always means change.