Why is it said that going on a trip with your boyfriend is the moment to truly see his character?

It's not about evaluating the character of your boyfriend. Traveling is meant to witness the compatibility of your values with each other.

This experience involves both individuals and requires mutual understanding, you know?

Why is it recommended to go on a trip before getting married?

Because traveling can expose you to various challenging situations that may arise in life.

Decisions on what to eat, where to stay, what activities to do, itinerary planning, and budget allocation all need to be arranged.

It tests your ability to coordinate, handle unexpected circumstances, and even handle conflicts if you encounter a troublesome tour group.

Traveling can be exhausting for ordinary people, and when people are tired, it becomes the most challenging time to control emotions.

Before, both individuals would carry masks and pretenses when they were together, and those would gradually come off along the journey due to exhaustion. If you have enough money, it's not a big deal, but the tighter the budget, the higher the likelihood of conflicts arising.

At this point, you can see someone's abilities and the dynamics of the relationship. Up until this point, everything seems fine.

However, if you only consider the first half, you're in big trouble. During this journey, the couple should have a complementary and cooperative relationship. As a woman, if you don't provide positive input throughout the trip and even slow things down:

When asked about what to eat, you say it doesn't matter, but then after he decides on a meal, you complain it's too spicy/salty/sour/sweet, showing displeasure on your face.

When asked about where to stay, you say it doesn't matter, but then after she makes the arrangements, you complain the window is too small/the view is bad/the noise is too loud, showing displeasure on your face.

When asked about what activities to do, you say it doesn't matter, but then after he plans everything, you complain that something isn't fun/you missed out on something/your photos don't look good, showing displeasure on your face.

You don't even help him when he argues with the tour group, and afterward, you complain that your boyfriend is useless, saying he can't even handle such simple things. You basically delegate all responsibilities throughout the trip and then try to dictate everything.

At this point, you believe your boyfriend is inadequate and unsatisfactory. Little do you know, the breakup progress bar in his mind keeps increasing. If things are already like this during a trip, it indicates that in your future marriage, he will also be dragging you forward. Instead of that, why doesn't he find someone who can progress together with him? At the very least, he would be better off moving forward alone than dragging along a deadweight.

Being together means supporting each other, even if you can't help much, at least you can be on the sidelines as a cheerleader, right? It's often said that women are emotionally sensitive, capable of empathizing even with dogs. So it shouldn't be difficult for you to provide some emotional support to your boyfriend.

Many men don't actually ask for much. Having a partner who doesn't despise them and knows how to take care of their feelings is enough. If you only focus on the first half and use the trip as a one-sided test for your boyfriend, considering it solely as your own enjoyment, then if he has other options, he will dump you immediately after the trip. Moreover, even if he doesn't have other options, he will still feel that being alone is better than being with you and enduring the frustrations.