Whether it's a husband and wife or lovers, if you have these three feelings, it means your relationship will last a long time.

Some people say it's appearance, some say it's character, and others say it's material things.

In fact, no matter which one it is, it will eventually come back to feelings.

In relationships, many things can be disguised, only feelings cannot deceive.

Only when the feelings are right for each other can a long-term intimate relationship be established. Otherwise, they will eventually part ways sooner or later.

You should know that there are many people in love in the world, but very few can make it to the end.

If you have these three feelings when getting along, it means you have found the right person and your relationship can last a long time.

Sense of tacit understanding

There is an ancient poem that reads: "Though I have no wings like those of the glorious phoenix, yet our hearts are linked as one by a bond of understanding."

In life, those couples who have a tacit understanding are always enviable.

But little do they know that for many couples, being able to be highly tacit in getting along is not an innate ability but is formed later.

In the daily getting along, two people constantly understand each other's temperaments and living habits, and accept each other's deeper thoughts and worldviews, gradually forming a tacit understanding.

For example, one of my friends. Although the couple sometimes quarrel, they will tacitly seek common ground while reserving differences in the end and never hurt their harmony.

Every time his wife gives him a look, my friend knows what she wants. And as soon as my friend frowns, his wife can always guess what he is thinking.

My friend likes strong flavors. Although his wife nags, she will still put more soy sauce when cooking. And my friend knows that his wife's hands and feet are easily cold in winter, so he will always buy warm baby pads and put them at home in advance.

They have been together for more than twenty years and have long understood each other's tempers and dispositions thoroughly. And they both subconsciously tolerate and cooperate with each other, further nourishing their love.

We often hear some people complain that their partners are too straightforward and always don't understand romance and don't understand themselves. In fact, it's just not loving enough and not being attentive enough.

Two people who truly love each other will go towards each other in their feelings, not be in a state of seeming harmony but actually being estranged. In life, they will accompany each other, constantly run in, and not be full of contradictions everywhere.

Only in this way will two hearts not be estranged and love will be longer.

Sense of ease

In real life, many couples always feel very tired when getting along. They feel that being together is not as comfortable as being single. In such a state, even if two people love each other deeply, they will eventually lose the strength to go on.

In the movie "Lost in Russia", Zhang Lu and Xu Yivan came together because of love but ended up divorcing. The reason is that Xu Yivan's desire for control is too strong and he doesn't know how to respect his partner.

Just like what Zhang Lu said in the film:

"You have an imaginary wife in your heart. You have set everything about what she should like and dislike and how she should speak. Why are you so persistent in transforming me?"

Xu Yivan has always demanded his wife by his own standards, making his wife feel more and more suffocated until she can't bear it anymore.

At the end, what Xu Yivan said to his wife is thought-provoking:

"Everyone is an independent individual. Each individual should be complete. Love is not control and taking. Love is acceptance and respect. Unfortunately, I understand it too late."

A good relationship should be easy and comfortable when getting along. Each can see the most real appearance of the other. There is no restraint, no estrangement, but understanding and achievement are given.

When the two sides get along for a longer time, they feel warmer and more comfortable. Then, emotions will also heat up and life will naturally become more and more beautiful.

As the saying goes, the joy of a first encounter is not as good as never getting tired of being together for a long time. This is especially true in relationships.

Two people can laugh and cry together, play and joke together. They can speak freely and be at ease at ordinary times. Only in this way can there be more longing and expectation for the future.

Sense of security

Last month, I received a wedding invitation from a high school classmate. After expressing my blessings, I asked her why she chose the other person as her life partner?

Her answer was: When she is with the other person, she always feels at ease. She also mentioned her previous partner who was always hot and cold towards her, making her feel as if walking on thin ice. But her current partner is different.

Although the other person is very independent in work and life, many things will be discussed with her and her opinion will be asked. Of course, there will be differences. But as long as a step is given to the other person, the other person will also take the opportunity to give in.

For feelings, different people have different attitudes, but the same original intention is to seek a sense of security and a long-term belonging.

I remember Eileen Chang once said such a sentence:

"I have been looking for a feeling, the feeling of holding a warm hand on a cold day and walking steadily forward."

It can be said that the best love is to give each other a sense of security, not letting the other half have a feeling of being anxious about gain and loss or living carefully every day.

When you are with a person, a sense of steadiness will arise in your heart. You don't have to suppress your emotions every day and don't have to worry about when you will be separated. This means that what the other person gives you is a firm choice and preference.

Whether it's husband and wife or lovers, only when they can give each other company and stability can they withstand the test of time and storms.

In life, true feelings are the most precious. Many people may not be able to meet them in their entire lives.

If you meet someone who can give you the above feelings, then you are lucky. Remember to cherish it well and don't leave regrets.