People who are always emotionally unstable are advised to do these 3 things more often! 【02】

People who are always emotionally unstable are advised to do these 3 things more often!

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Ongoing injuries can cause ongoing emotional outbursts

When faced with the same thing, everyone tends to react differently, if not completely differently.

Some people act out in a very intense way, while others wind up calm.

What is the reason for this difference?

① Different traumas experienced.

(ii) The difference in the foundation of personality.

Let's talk about “trauma” first.

In psychology, trauma is categorized as Type I trauma and Type II trauma.

A major difference between the two is that Type I trauma is a one-time trauma, while Type II trauma is a continuous and frequent feeling of being hurt.

Neglectful and repressive parents bring us exactly type II trauma.

Neglectful parents tend to have very little positive response to their children's emotions and feelings.

For example, every time the child cries, through “I'll buy you a toy” “I'll buy you a good meal” to divert attention.

In essence, the child's emotions are denied.

Repressive parents, on the other hand, will suppress the expression of their child's emotions and feelings.

For example, the same child crying, they will be “you are not allowed to cry” “crying is useless” to let the child “find” crying is not useful, and then form a cognitive:

“You can't express your emotions”.

With this kind of trauma, we are not able to deal with a lot of emotions at a young age.

The lack of emotional awareness and experience makes it easier to become emotionally unstable.

Next, let's talk about the difference that personality bases make.

In your dealings with others, you may find that

Obviously have experienced similar traumas.

Why is it that some people recover well and others are stuck and have a hard time recovering?

This is because the personality bases are different:

Secure personalities are able to express their true needs positively, and can recover very quickly when faced with a trauma;

The non-secure personality, on the other hand, is often in a state of inner turmoil, and therefore finds it difficult to recover from a traumatic experience.

For example, the same war trauma.

The non-secure personality is more likely to develop post-war PTSD, while the secure personality is relatively better able to get through the crisis.

So, to better manage your emotions, you need to try to tamp down your inner security as much as possible.

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Learning to “see yourself outside the box

Based on years of experience in counseling, I have summarized three practical methods.

I believe they can help you manage your emotions.

a. Detach yourself from the environment that brings your emotions.

When we need to solve the emotional problems of the moment as soon as possible, we can try to shift the emotional situation and avoid the environment that may cause our emotions.

For example, knowing that you get extra anxious when there are a lot of people, try to create more possibilities to be alone.

Of course, most of the time we may not be able to do situation avoidance completely from the inside.

So this is a method that we can use occasionally when necessary.

b. Keep practicing positive thinking/meditation

There is a study in brain science that when we are in the state of focusing on our breathing and slowing down our breathing, the

The amygdala becomes less active, the emotional state decreases as a result, and the inner cycle slows down, shifting our attention back to the present moment.

In that state, you will slowly acquire a state that allows you to relax.