Why do older adults often sleep in separate beds?

"Separate beds for ten years, feelings faded, marriage is also boring, or divorce before it is too late, at least to do something like it," Liu said with a sigh.

Over the age of old age, Master Liu in the eyes of others, has family harmony, happy life, but recently suddenly brought up divorce with his partner, so family members and neighbors are very confused.

And in the face of their children and outsiders, the elderly people can not speak, and finally, the children asked the mediator to solve the matter. After some persuasion by a professional mediator, Liu and his partner both confessed their feelings.

It turns out that the Moncler and his partner 10 years ago slept in separate beds, usually in addition to meals do not interfere with each other, equivalent to separation, which makes the two drift apart. In recent times, Master Liu feels that the end is near, and does not want to pretend to be a model couple, so wants to divorce, free to live for a period.

This is also the case with the wife of Master Liu, but she is also afraid of being gossiped about about divorce in her later years, which may also affect the families of her children, so she does not dare to speak out. Why do older people sleep in separate beds in their later years? Is it good or bad to sleep in separate beds?

First, why do couples over 50 years old like to sleep in separate beds?

For people over middle age, bed-sharing, and sleeping in separate rooms the couple seems to be more and more, will continue to grow with age, in foreign countries this way of life is called "LAT partner".

LAT partners, the full name of the living apart together (living apart together), refers to maintaining intimate relationships with couples or couples living in the form of separation mode.

According to a survey, 31% of American couples sleep in separate beds, 70% of Japanese couples sleep in separate rooms after having children, and among Canadian adults aged 25-64, nearly 1.5 million couples choose "LAT living".

This pattern of life between couples since ancient times, in the Victorian era in England, sleeping in separate rooms was once used as a symbol of a gentleman, while in the eyes of contemporary people, the reasons for sleeping in separate beds, separate rooms are often more complex and diverse.

1、Sleeping habits are different

Everyone's sleeping habits are different, a hot period of love can accommodate each other, but as time wears off, many shortcomings will gradually be exposed. In addition, the growth of age will make people more sensitive during sleep, environmental changes are easy to wake up, so many elderly people will take the initiative to sleep separately to ensure the quality of sleep after 50.

2、Sleep snoring

Snoring will create a lot of manic sounds, if at night and may also cause fright, resulting in difficulty falling asleep, waking up in the middle of the night, difficulty entering deep sleep and other situations, so many people will sleep snoring people are more repulsive. Even couples or couples, can not avoid taking refuge in separate rooms.

3, physical factors

People in middle age, physical quality continues to decline, especially after the age of 50, the outbreak of various chronic diseases, but also may have an elderly taste, will have more requirements for the sleep environment, but also affect the sleep of those around them. There are also some diseases or surgery, and fear of being squeezed and bumped during sleep, so they will ask to sleep in separate beds.

4、Thought can not be synchronized

The human body is changing all the time, and the mind is also changing with what they see and hear, many people hot love regardless, over time will find that the views and ideas on how to treat things can not fit, but because the feelings also do not want to break up, so they will share a room, give each other a little space.

5、Sleep Quality

Some people can not sleep when there are people around, perhaps personal habits, or internal sensitivity, may also be psychological trauma, at this time will have to accept the separation of rooms, and bed, slowly into his life.

6、Emotional fading

With the growth of age, family over love, the couple respect each other like "ice" is not a few, some people to family silently endure, but the heart is very resistant to sleep in a separate room has become the second best choice.

It can be seen that couples or couples, or the elderly, bed-sharing, and room-sharing reasons are many, but also more complex, some are internal, some are external, and perhaps some couples face multiple reasons for separation at the same time, but in the final analysis, bed-sharing and bed-sharing are only their own decision.

Second, the elderly sleep in separate beds and sleeping in the same bed, which is more conducive to health?

Bed-sharing and bed-sharing are things that only two couples can decide, and the reasons behind this cannot be understood by outsiders, but if the reasons for bed-sharing are excluded, which is better for health, bed-sharing or bed-sharing? The answer may be beyond your imagination.

From an objective point of view, bed-sharing can ensure an individual sleep environment and improve the quality of sleep. 2012, a study by the University of Queensland pointed out that

Among the couple's sleep disturbance factors, the partner's snoring accounted for 58.5, the partner's nighttime food search accounted for 48%, the partner's wake-up accounted for 35.9%, and the partner's bedtime movement accounted for 34.5%. So simply sharing a bed or room can completely avoid the negative effects of these situations on sleep.

Data from a 2015 study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine showed that women's sexual desire is directly proportional to the amount of sleep they get, with each additional hour of sleep increases the chances of sexual contact the next day by 14%.

In addition, Tamara Green, a New York marriage therapist, and Jennifer Adams, a well-known Australian author, both agree that separation is the secret weapon that keeps their relationships together. But some studies have also found that sleeping in the same bed is friendlier to health.

A study led by Michael Grandner, director of the Sleep and Health Research Program at the University of Arizona, published in the medical journal Sleep, found that after a comprehensive assessment of 1007 participants' environment, diet, sleep (sleeping alone, insomnia, co-sleeping, snoring, etc.), health activities, social status, etc., it was found that compared to people who never slept in the same bed with their partners, those who slept with The results showed that people who slept with their partners were more likely to fall asleep, sleep well, and have less fatigue and insomnia than those who never slept with their partners.

In general, sleeping in the same bed and sleeping in separate beds have certain benefits for the human body, and the results vary from person to person, so it is difficult to distinguish between high and low.

In any case, if you want to achieve the LAT partner, living apart from the family life model, the most critical thing is to agree with your partner and communicate well with each other, bed-sharing is to improve family harmony, and do not let it affect each other's feelings.

Third, the elderly often sleep in separate beds, there may be 4 hidden dangers

Bed-sharing can indeed solve the elderly to each other's emotional weaknesses and want to improve the quality of sleep and other demands, but is not a panacea, separate sleep will also bring certain hidden dangers.

First of all, as in the story of Mr. Liu, sleeping separately will cause a blow to each other's feelings, and it is easy to emotional weakness, affecting family harmony, or even divorce end.

Second, in people in later life, the body will appear many chronic diseases, but also easier to have sudden acute symptoms, if they sleep separately, after the accident, each other can not be found in time, prone to accidents, such as heart attack, brain infarction, etc.

Third, couples live apart for a long time, communication is not much, especially for the elderly entertainment life is not much, if the lack of communication, it is easier to cause emotional deficiency, which may cause depression, anxiety, and other psychological problems.

The last is the sex life, the elderly also have a sex life, but separation will lead to a reduction in sex life, not good for the elderly body, and some older people are too shy to talk about it, in case they go out and make mistakes, but also may cause serious consequences, such as illegal, disease, etc.

Whether bed-sharing or bed-sharing, the main thing to solve family problems is to go back to the source and find out the root of the problem, rather than blindly choosing to separate.

LAT partners may indeed be a way to safeguard the couple's private space with each other, but it may not be suitable for everyone, and it is best for everyone to communicate with their significant other, and both sides can accept the best.