When it comes to childbirth, men never go far

In the field of fertility, women have the right to speak, and men have become a disadvantaged group. But it is undeniable: childbirth has always been a matter of both parties, in addition to women, there are men.

Pregnancy, men feel the same

There is news in the UK: A prospective dad developed morning sickness after his fiancé became pregnant and became the first man in the UK to take leave because of his wife's pregnancy. It is reported that since his fiancée became pregnant, the man's weight has been increasing, his belly has also become bigger, and he often has back pain and has a strong appetite, which is very similar to pregnancy symptoms. Morning sickness made him feel very uncomfortable, so he had to take a vacation.

At first, the hospital thought he had an infectious disease. Later, the doctor confirmed that he had a childbirth syndrome. The study found that when the mother-to-be is caring for the new life in the abdomen, there are not a few fathers-to-be with this disease. Researchers at St. George's University in London conducted a survey of 282 prospective fathers of different ages and found that most of them had morning sickness, abdominal cramps, insomnia, fatigue, weight gain, mood swings, depression and other symptoms. Some men even have a bulging abdomen like pregnancy.

In another study, a study by the Stanford University School of Medicine found that oxytocin was elevated in expectant parents, and there was not much difference. Oxytocin is a neuropeptide that exists in both men and women. Because it is also the driving force of hugs between people, it is also called "hugging chemicals". The experimenter conducted a follow-up survey on 47 fathers and their 4 to 6-month-old babies, and the results also confirmed that the level of the hormone would increase when the father played with the child. The higher the level of oxytocin in the body, the more willing the father is to spend time with his children and show more love.

The growth of oxytocin is not the only hormone that changes after a man becomes a father. Scientific research has found that when the baby grows in the mother’s belly, the level of testosterone in the “pregnancy response” fathers will also decrease, reducing the number of men. The chance of being irresponsible when going out during pregnancy is irresponsible.

It can be seen that loving children is not only the nature of the mother, but also the nature of the father!

Abortion, the death of a man's life

In the secular prejudice about abortion, it seems that women are always the victims. Clinical studies have shown that there are 17 serious physiological consequences that women may cause after an abortion, including: death, uterine puncture, infertility, etc. At the same time, the traumatic consequences of abortion for women are equally unpredictable.

Just as everyone without exception focused their attention on the recovery of women’s physical and mental health after abortion, foreign scientists have quietly shifted part of their attention to the field of post-abortion male physical and mental health, and men are often left alone after their partners have an abortion. :

For men who are the other party responsible for abortion, the abortion incident will become a concentrated incident in which they accept the contradiction between morality and reality in their hearts. In the current public opinion, men are attributed to the responsible person and the perpetrator, and the psychological pressure they bear is even greater. However, society’s requirements for gender roles require them to be stronger and more responsible. When a man faces a powerless abortion, many people first feel that he is not worthy of being a man. This feeling directly affects his life. Therefore, he dare not communicate his inner feelings with friends frankly, for fear of being condemned by public opinion. . Even if you admit your incompetence, there will be new psychological conflicts. This forms a vicious circle, and the vicious emotions that have not been vented for a long time will lead to physical and psychological problems.

An anthropologist in the United States conducted a survey of 30 clinics all over the United States. After selecting 1,000 couples as samples, they found that more than 10% of men have suffered from sexual dysfunction after an abortion, and are becoming addicted to it. In small movies, more than 20% of men believe that abortion is "like a serious illness" for them.

The American Psychology Clinic also found that visiting men who had just undergone an abortion were highly anxious, irritable and sad. In a survey conducted by him on the "sequelae of male abortion", men showed common phenomena to varying degrees: often thinking of children who were not born, having difficulty concentrating, guilt, helplessness, life full of confusion, interpersonal Relationship tension, depression...

Fertility, men never go far

As a sad event, abortion is an insurmountable mountain that lies in front of lovers. The physical and mental harm comes from external criticism, but it is more of the estrangement and division between partners. The Swedish health department conducted a follow-up study of 100 couples who participated in abortions and found that for a long period of time after abortion, more than half of men and women would feel alienated from each other.

After an abortion, women alienate men because they feel that they cannot empathize with pregnancy, pregnancy, and abortion. Faced with the meticulous care and love from their partners because of their guilt and concern, women often stand in a hostile situation and regard it as the price a man should pay. This makes men feel that they are useless, want to help but have nowhere to proceed. Like a headless fly, they suffer from self-denial. As a result, both sides remained estranged and silent, staying in a mixed mood for a long time, gradually drifting away and finally separated.

This is because women have the legal right to abortion, and men, because of their own sense of responsibility and social role, are fortunate to be able to participate in the discussion when faced with women's abortion, but they have no right to decide in the end. In this process, men actually suffer a double "negative" injury: they can't make the decision for their own flesh and blood, and they will suffer psychological harm after an abortion.

Even if the lovers cross the mountain of abortion hand in hand, the shadows still hang over from time to time. A public health survey on the "impact of male abortion" in the United States found that 56.9% of women and 39.6% of men with a history of abortion had significantly higher psychological stress than the control group. One month after abortion, 41.7% of women and 30.9 had an abortion. % Of men are still very distressed, and more than 1 in 10 men suffer from distress for more than 12 months.

Now, it's time to say goodbye to the prejudice that "a man can't realize the pain of childbirth" if he is not childbearing. Whether the child is still a small fertilized egg, or is born in childbirth, or is not in the world, the joys and sorrows during this period, faced with the hard work of women, men are blended in it and never go far. In the world of fertility, men also have an unbearable weight of life.