The Art of Receiving: Cultivating Healthy Relationships & Embracing Your Worth

For a long time, I struggled with receiving. Not just gifts or compliments—but the soul-deep stuff. Love. Care. Nourishment. Emotional safety. For a while, I thought I had to earn it all, like I was constantly auditioning for a role in someone else’s story.

But as I rise into my sovereignty—fully claiming my role as the CEO of SchellingtonGrin, embracing my work as a creator, coach, and tarot reader—I’ve learned something radical: I don’t have to earn what I’m already worthy of receiving.

And neither do you.

Why Is It So Hard to Receive?

Let’s be honest—we’ve been trained to hustle, over give, and apologize for our needs. Somewhere along the way, we were taught that love must be balanced like a checkbook.

If someone pays for dinner, you rush to Venmo them next time. If someone gives you a compliment, you deflect it or toss one right back like a conversational volleyball. Sound familiar?

I used to live there. Chronically “making it fair.” But receivership isn’t about being passive or keeping score. It’s about allowing. It’s about letting love land without flinching, fawning, or flailing.

Sometimes, what we call “balance” is just a mask for fear. Fear of being a burden. Fear of needing too much. Fear that if we let love in, it’ll come with a price tag.

But love isn’t a transaction. It's a flow. And when we allow ourselves to receive, we’re not weak—we’re embodied. We’re saying, “Yes, I am open to being nourished.” That’s powerful. That’s sovereign.

Lessons in Love: You Are Not Responsible for Anyone’s Healing

This one slapped me in the face gently—like a glittery, spiritual wake-up call.

You are not responsible for someone else’s healing.

You can hold space. You can care. But you don’t have to shapeshift into their personal therapist or emotional ambulance.

For years, I believed that if I just loved harder or showed up more, I could fix everything. But that belief kept me tangled in other people’s timelines and detached from my own.

True love doesn’t demand self-abandonment. It invites presence. And healthy connection honors that both people are sovereign souls, walking their own path.

Here’s what love looks like now:

• Witnessing without rescuing.
• Loving without losing yourself.
• Trusting that alignment doesn’t need to be forced—it flows.
• Letting go of the fixer in me created space for mutuality—and that changed everything.

Masculine & Feminine Energy: Releasing Control, Embracing Flow

Let’s talk energy—not gender, not roles, but the vibe.

For a long time, I was locked in “go mode.” Hyper-competent. Always making the plan, sending the follow-up text, holding the structure. I was embodying masculine energy—because I didn’t trust anyone else to hold it.

But I was tired. Not just physically—soul tired.

So I started playing with letting go. Just a little. Letting someone else initiate. Letting myself receive presence, consistency, and care. Not because I was incapable—but because I was craving rest.

And that’s the key thing to remember: The balance of masculine and feminine energy isn’t about doing less—it’s about doing what feels aligned. Masculine energy offers grounding. Feminine energy offers openness. And when both are honored in a relationship? That’s when it flows.

I don’t want control. I want co-creation. I don’t want to lead every time. I want to trust who I’m walking with.

This is the new standard.

Desire, Pleasure & Trusting What You Want

Let’s go there: pleasure. Desire. The juicy, taboo, emotionally rich stuff.

I used to feel guilt around my desires—especially the ones that weren’t “nice.” The ones that asked me to surrender, to be vulnerable, to be seen. But here’s what I’ve learned:

Desire is divine intelligence.

It tells you what your soul is ready for.

If you long to surrender in intimacy, maybe your body is saying, “I want to trust.” If you crave intensity, maybe your spirit is saying, “I want to feel alive again.”

We are taught to distrust our pleasure, but when you begin honoring it, you unlock a deeper receivership. Because pleasure asks you to let in what you’ve been keeping out: joy, connection, truth, touch, freedom.

You don’t need to explain your desires.

You get to honor them.

And that, too, is a form of sovereignty.

Final Thoughts: Your Softness Is Not a Liability

If there’s one thing I want you to remember, it’s this: You are not too much. And you are not “not enough.” Double negative, I know, but, hear me out:

You don’t have to earn tenderness. You don’t have to trade performance for presence.

Receivership is your birthright.

Let it be easy. Let it be delicious. Let it arrive.

Here are a few journaling prompts to support you:

1. Where in your life are you still apologizing for your needs?
2. What part of you is scared to be soft?
3. Who are you when you believe you’re worthy of being deeply cared for?

And if this post resonated with you, I’d love to keep this conversation going. Come say hi and connect with me on Instagram at @schellingtongrin112.

If you're feeling called, I’m offering tarot readings for those ready to dive into the next layer of their healing, alignment, and embodiment. Let’s move together.

You are worthy of love, ease, and overflow.

Now—let yourself receive it.