Meditation Is a Process Not a Quick Fix

Meditation came into my life about six months ago after my girlfriend and I broke up. I needed something to get my mind off of my swirling emotions, and overwhelming pain everyone goes through after a tough spilt.

While I was watching a Joe Rogan Podcast about meditation, I decided to give it a chance and start my own process of trying to meditate. One thing I heard on the podcast that stuck with me and is my biggest piece of advice to anyone who tries to meditate is that it does not happen immediately!

It took over a month of day in and day out of sitting in the grass, in my bed. on my floor, and even laying on my couch. It was not until I stopped trying to make it feel like I was meditating and just do it, only then it finally worked for me.

My biggest mistake was that I focused too hard on being in a mind state that was not real, that classic, "I slipped into an alternate universe and saw all my problems unwind in front of me and I have the answers."

Far from it by the way.

Meditating is all about working through your problems one by one, calmly, and thoughtfully, and being 100 percent honest with yourself while doing so. I began to see each one of my issues I had in my life go away after I finally made this thing click for me.

I had to sit there for hours on end and just let my mind take me to where my pain sat the deepest and the darkest inside my soul. what you find down deep inside you will never be as bad and as scary as you think it is because once you confront that fear and demon inside of you it can no longer stay inside and have control over your thoughts and emotions.

That reason is probably why it took me so long to find my inner peace and tranquility because I was not being honest with myself to confront any real emotion I was going through. The doors that have opened in my life because of the I live my life now I have totally different outlook on life and the way I interact with people.

Meditating has become how I thread the needle of being mentally awesome everyday by taking however much time I need every day and spending it completely with myself and my thoughts. I encourage anyone who goes through tough mental illness or tough mental challenges and pain to try and find themselves through meditating.

But remember it does not happen overnight and do not get discouraged if you cannot figure it out right away it is most likely that deep down you are not being honest with yourself and your emotions.

And that is okay.

I look back to where I started and where I am now, and I could not imagine being this happy 7 months ago but even just taking my time and being disciplined enough to do it every day and stay true to myself and be honest with my mistakes and my emotions every day.

I love that I can feel myself moving forward mentally, emotionally and in being successful in everything I do because my mind is free from the fears that held me back for so long.

The best thing about meditating for me is that I have a way to now deal with the new fears and emotions that come across me in life and I can deal with in a healthy and honest way.

I can see the world in front of me instead of constantly looking back worrying about the past and what might have been or what I should have done. It is all irrelevant because I am okay, and I am still breathing and moving forward in life.

It is hard to give anyone the key to meditating because it is so self-relying on the fact that you yourself have to put in every ounce of work and bit of energy to make it happen while also being completely relaxed in the same sense.

I hope this helps anyone who is going through a hard time as I was and needs something to get them over the hump of depression.