The Control Play Between Energy Fields - Four Energy Stealers (Part 1)

Both scientific and metaphysical studies have shown that the human body is essentially an energy field. But Eastern philosophers believe that our daily energy is very fragile and dull, so human beings must open their hearts to absorb the pure, absolute energy that exists in the universe. Once the mind is opened, the "chi" in our body—in the West, we call it "quantum energy" —will be greatly enhanced, thereby eliminating the insecurity deep inside us . But if we can't open our hearts, we can only search around and try to steal energy from others.

First, let's see what happens between two people when they interact. There is an old saying in Western metaphysics: wherever attention turns, energy flows there. So, as soon as two people turn their attention to each other at the same time, their energy fields merge and the energies pool with each other . So, the two men immediately had to face a question: who controls this pile of energy? If one of them can stand above the other and force the other to accept his point of view and see the world around him through his eyes, then that person can take this pile of energy for himself. At this time, he will feel extremely excited, safe, satisfied, and even very happy and happy.

The problem is that this satisfaction is gained at the expense of the other person. The person you're riding on will feel overwhelmed, anxious, and weak, as if all the energy in the body was lost in an instant. Each of us has felt this way at one point in our lives. When we're forced to obey the guy who purposely confuses us, embarrasses us, and leaves us at a loss, we're bound to feel very frustrated, like a suddenly deflated ball. In this case, our response is of course: to take back the lost energy from the other party, and to resort to any means if necessary. . . .

We must keep all of this in mind when we interact with others. Every human being is an energy field, made up of a set of beliefs and assumptions that project from us and spread out to affect how the world works. These beliefs include how you view others and how you want to win the interaction.

Everyone has their own unique set of perspectives and modes of interaction in this regard, which I call "control dramas " . According to my observation, this kind of "drama" that is constantly being staged in the human world can be classified and examined on the spectrum from "most negative" to "most positive".

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The most negative kind of control play is the victim strategy - which I call "Poor Me." A person who performs this type of play will not directly compete with others for the energy circulating in the human world; on the contrary, he uses and manipulates the sympathy of others to win their attention and pity. As soon as we enter the "beggar" energy field, we feel that something is wrong, and we feel that we are suddenly pulled into an inexplicable conversation, and the whole person loses focus. For no apparent reason, we suddenly felt a sense of guilt, like being forced to play roles we didn't want to play. This person will say, "Well, I thought you called me yesterday, but you didn't." Or: "I've been through a lot of bad things lately, and I can't find you anywhere." Or even add One sentence: "There are more tragic things that will happen to me, and then I will definitely not be able to find you again!"

The lines used in this control play are varied and varied, depending on our relationship with the beggar. If this person were our co-worker, he or she might complain to us that the work is too heavy, rushing through the clock every day, and we sit on the sidelines. If the person is a casual acquaintance, he or she may try to get you into a conversation, babbling on, complaining that society is getting messier, the economy is getting worse, and life is getting harder and harder these days. There are many tricks to the beggars, but the basic tune and strategy are essentially the same. They will always try to impress you with empathy, and every line they say and every action they do is designed to make you feel guilty and responsible for what happened to him or her.

The pity play strategy, obviously, is to keep us from being calm, to create a sense of guilt or self-doubt in our hearts and to steal energy from us . In this sense of guilt, we are forced to see each other's world through their eyes. Once we're drawn into the play and play the role that the beggar wants us to play, the other person will feel your energy being transferred to them and thus feel a lot more secure and more confident.

Remember: this drama is almost entirely unconscious. It stems from a personal worldview and strategies for manipulating others formed in childhood. The world is too unreliable in the minds of the beggars, so we cannot rely on others to meet our needs for physical and mental well-being; the world is too sinister to risk direct or active means to meet our needs . In the drama world of the beggars, the only sensible way to perform is to take a low profile and put on a pitiful appearance, in order to impress others and force others to feel guilty.

Unfortunately, because of the effect these unconscious beliefs and intentions have on the world around them, often the kind of "bad guys" that "beggars" fear most are the ones they actively introduce into their lives. The resulting scourge often results in psychological trauma. What kind of world you expect in your heart, the universe will respond to you with that kind of world; in this case, the "control drama" performed by the human world will often become a kind of cycle, endless. Confused, the beggars fell into a vicious circle, unable to extricate themselves.

♦How to deal with "beggars"

Faced with beggars, we must remind ourselves that the purpose of the "control drama" is to gain energy. Therefore, once we start talking with the beggar, we should actively and consciously provide energy to the other party. This is the most convenient way to break the "begging drama" . Then, we have to ask ourselves: Is there any justification for the guilt that the beggar stirs up in us? It is true that in daily life, we often feel guilty for letting someone down, and we often feel that we should sympathize with those who are in trouble, but this kind of self-blame or sympathy should come from our hearts and not be dominated by others. Only we can decide when and to what extent we should take responsibility for helping those in need.

Once we provide energy to the beggar and realize that we are facing an ongoing "control drama", the next step is to debunk the game played by the other party, treat the drama as a topic, and openly discuss it. Once brought into consciousness or spread out on the table, the unconscious game is interrupted and can no longer be played. We might as well go ahead and say to the beggar, "You know what, I feel like you think I should feel guilty right now."

It takes courage to do so, because when we decide to be honest with a beggar, the other person may mistake us for disliking him. In this case, the other person's response is usually, "Oh, I knew you didn't really like me." Sometimes, the other person feels insulted and gets very angry.

Remember, when faced with this situation, the most important thing is to try to calm the other person down and listen to you patiently. For this trick to work, we must continuously transmit the energy the other party needs to him or her during the conversation. More importantly, we must follow through, persevere, improve our relationship with each other, and improve the quality of that relationship. Maybe, the other party will listen to us patiently and accept our analysis and views on the "control drama", thereby opening their hearts to a higher level of self-awareness.