How strong does a person have to be to not care about others?

There is such a boy around me.

From childhood to adulthood, he seems to have always been an ordinary person. He is mediocre in study, can't sing in tune, and has no outstanding talents in piano, painting, and dancing.

In most cases, he always loses more than he wins in basketball, badminton, and games.

Although he has ambitions, his qualifications are mediocre. He always works hard, but has not achieved much.

He has hardly been praised positively by others. When he feels frustrated and hopeless, he always likes to look up at the moon in the sky.

Although his steps are small, he has never thought of giving up.

Many times, he wants to go back to the past. For example, he knew the importance of reading from the beginning, studied hard, and then went to a good university; learned guitar or a talent, and had something he was good at; tried to stand on a stage with many people, and didn't get nervous when speaking; insisted on his own hobbies, didn't always be introverted and avoid interpersonal communication; mustered up the courage to confess to his beloved girl...

Later, he realized that life is always about gains and losses, and there are never any perfect people and things. Disadvantages are characteristics. He began to accept his mediocrity and the shortcomings of his life. He stopped harping on his own faults and began to accept his own flaws.

His heart was quiet enough to hear echoes and stare into the distance for a whole day. For example, a cloud outside the window, a line of poetry in an article, the moon flowing in the river beside the street at night...

These subtleties were enough to attract his attention, but he had not been active for a long time.

I don't know when he started to lose his desire to share. He hasn't changed his social profile picture for several years, and rarely or almost never posts on Moments.

For example, when he sees a scene he likes, he will now just take a picture silently and save it in the album; when he buys something he likes, he will only appreciate it alone.

Even if he achieves a little success, he will not show it off. Because he knows that there is no empathy in this world, jealousy is always more than joy, and every time he doesn't get feedback, he wants to escape.

He would rather listen more than say more.

Even if he was misunderstood, he might have thought about defending himself before. Now he only thinks that if they get along well, they can go together for a while, and if they don't, they can just separate, which is also good.

He has his own values ​​and principles, and respects everyone's three views and choices.

He will not change himself because of someone else's ridicule or a suspicious look.

He will not easily deny others just because he doesn't like them. For people he hates, he will just keep a distance silently, avoid them, and never pull others behind their backs.

In many formal occasions, he will not shrink back, but he will stand up straight and face the problem, because he thinks this is the greatest respect for others.

He understands the boundaries of interpersonal relationships, and he is moderate and impartial in his interactions with others.

Although his emotions are not very exclusive, he also has an insurmountable bottom line. For example, he pays attention to the degree of the opposite sex and refuses ambiguity for the girl he likes. He will selflessly help his friends when they are in trouble, but the other party always gossips behind his back, and he will fight back without mercy when he pokes the pain point.

When he is with girls, he is very open and will not pretend to be a gentleman. He faces love and sex directly and will not deliberately hide his lsp attributes. When he meets those beautiful girls with good figures, he will also praise them generously.

More affectionate than you think, and more heartless than you think.

I know he is not a proactive person. He doesn't want to cause trouble to others, nor does he want others to trouble him.

Although he is always polite, he can always take care of everyone's emotions, and his temper seems to be surprisingly good. But I know that he hates showing off in his bones and doesn't want to deliberately compare with others.

He is a unique person. He has never had a sociable style. He has his own identification.

For example, when he was in college, he rarely participated in student club activities. He hated a lot of formalistic work. He doesn't like being meaninglessly ordered by others, and doesn't want to lose himself in the group. He advocates the independence and freedom of the soul.

In fact, he knows very well what he wants. For example, on weekends when everyone is sleeping, playing games, going to the library, or dating, he may ride a bicycle alone to the beach to ride the waves and watch the orange sunset on the asphalt road by the river.

Some sea breeze, with water vapor passing through his cheeks. Stepping on the shallows, the sea water covers his ankles and then retreats. He likes to listen to the sound of the waves quietly.

He often tells me that it is lucky to meet someone who understands him, and it doesn’t matter if he doesn’t meet someone.

Because he has his own independent world and some romantic persistence.

For example, curiosity, curiosity and exploration of the world, and thirst for endless knowledge. Understand through reading, express through writing, especially the indignation against dark things.

He likes something not to show it to others or get recognition, but simply thinks it is fun and is interested in it.

He also has a childlike innocence and kindness in his bones.

For example, if he meets a fat cat on the road, he will always meow at her; he doesn’t chat with people much on WeChat, but the most common thing is hahahahahahaha; he always says thank you to the takeaway boy, the courier, and the security guard.

He never feels that he is so powerful, but his heart is vast and he is contented when he is alone.

Slow to warm up, stubborn, silent, strong in the eyes of outsiders.

Forbearing, hesitant, accepting, and calm on his face.

It’s not that he doesn’t care about others, but he has a self-consistent emotional system and has very low needs and expectations for others.

He understands and accepts the complexity of human nature, faces life with a normal heart, and is unwilling to rely on any kind of emotion.

Talking to the stars, talking to the old man, shaking hands with every tree, whispering with every blade of grass, he loves all the beauty in the world.