10 Rules Confident People Live By

Time to shut down negativity. These are 10 rules confident people live by and theres a couple tips as well as a challenge at the end to build self confidence !

1.) They Know & Accept Who They Are

This can be hard for many but knowing who you are and accepting it , is one of the most powerful thing's you can do for yourself. This isn't to say that confident people don't have room to grow or work on themselves as a person but that accepting who you are is a great rule and step in the right direction for being a confident person. In the end the most important thing to remember is that you are the only person who needs to be ok with how you live your life. You can be hated by everyone if you are happy with your actions and behaviors as a person that is all that matter's and you can be content. In the same you could be loved and adored by everyone but if your not ok with your life you'll end your days with emptiness. There will never be a shortage of people ready to see you fail or judge you . That's why it's incredibly important to just be you, do what makes you happy in life.

2.) They Believe in Themselves

Equally as hard as number 1 but it doesn't have to be. You can easily start to believe in yourself little by little each day. Start with affirmations . Tell youself things you normally wouldn't . Shift your mindset to think differently and change your inner narrative. Shut down and out negative thoughts. This also goes in hand with not waiting to be unafraid. If you want to do something new , hone in on Nike's catch phrase. Just do it. You'll never know if you don't try and if you mess up make a mistake or fail. Try again. Mistakes can be beautiful and also provide a valuable lesson.

3.) They don't let negative self talk enter their mind

Remember that you can feel a certain way about yourself but that doesn't mean it's accurate. It's always important to look at the facts and not take your feelings as facts.

You can absolutely feel a certain way about yourself, you can feel like your not good enough, you can feel like you made a huge mistake or feel like you're failing but this is where you need to work on really separating those feeling's from facts.

When you have those feelings and negative self-talk, it is incredibly important to say but what do the facts say?

It's also important to actively work on giving your inner dialougue a makeover. Find affirmations you love and say them daily , or change it up and do a new one everyday but find something that you love that you can easily remember and use to replace that negative self talk when it creeps in.

4.) They Challenge Themselves

Confident people are always looking for their next challenge, rather it's a new job, a new hobby or just a new thing to them they love to challenge themselves. This also applies to personal development. It can be scary and strange to step outside of your comfort zone and do something new or unfamilar but sometimes doing those new and unfamilar things leads to amazing adventures , expereinces and breakthroughs.

5.) They Have A Positive Outlook On Life

Having a positive outlook helps in daily life. If you consistently think and say negative thoughts or feed negative feelings that becomes your reality. The same when you surround yourself with negative people.

The opposite however, is just as true. Picking your tribe so to say is a deliciate and important task in life. You need to surround yourself with like-minded, driven, and unique individuals who also have a positive outlook on life.

When you change how you think you can change your life.

6.) They're Comfortable In Their Own Skin

This is something that I personally struggled with for a very long time. Social anxiety and body image issues I developed as a teen didn't help any either. However learning to love myself has helped me love life and others in a way I never thought I could.

7.) They're grateful for life's blessings

Life is full of blessings big and small. I'm huge on gratitude so much so that I often joke that I am fueled by positivity and gratitude or caffeine and gratitude though I did kick a majority of my caffiene habit earlier this year.

Romanticizing the normal everyday life , boring bits too can help you learn to love apperciate and be grateful for the smallest of things.

My favorite that come to mind are as follows

Dishes to wash : Family meals

Laundry to wash : Clothes to wear

Crumbs under the table : Food to Eat

Early Wakeups : I'm alive

Tiny handprints on the walls and a loud home : Kids to love as they make memories

There is something to be grateful for everyday.

8.) They Don't Fear Life's Challenges

Life can be hard. Theres no lie in that statement. I think after the last year we have all had with COVID this is even more true. However when you gain confidence life's challenges like trying to figure out how to query a book agent or a job interview that youre against 3 other well qualified candidates confident people don't let it cause fear and see it as a healthy challenge that might just lead to their next chapter in this crazy thing we call life.

9.) They don't seek outside validation

Seeking outside validation I think is a normal desire. We all want people to like us in some way at least most people do however seeking outside validation is risky and can be damaging to someones self esteem and confidence. The problem with external validation is that it can be incredibly fleeting because one or two likes on social media feel good, 10 more feels better, however soon that feeling wears off. It is the same with sexual validation, where the experience is good, but the person can be left feeling insecure. In the same though Self worth comes from helping or doing something for someone else other than your self. This leads back to rule #1 . know and accept who you are. If youre happy with your life and actions why do you need someone elses opinion. Of course not everyone will like you just as not everyone will dislike you.

You can quite literally be the ripest juicest peach in the world and there will still be someone somewhere that doesn't like peaches. This is a excellent reminder why it's so important to be your own cheerleader, believe in yourself and carry yourself with confidence showing up daily as the best you ,you can be.

10.) They surround themselves people who believe in them

Ah rule 10 , it leads back to rule #5 about being selective with you surround yourself with and picking your "Tribe" .

When you were a kid did your mom or dad ever tell you that you become who your friends are?

That never made much sense to me until I entered my mid twenties and then it finally clicked.

If your friends party alot you will probably be partying alot . Not that there is anything wrong with a good party or night out, but like with food everything should be participated in with a healthy moderation.

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If your friends are negative mind set people, discouraging and don't enjoy challenging themselves or trying new things you will likely find yourself thinking more negatively, and not growing or challenging yourself as a person.

The opposite applies here as well.

If you find spontaneous loving, positive filled , creative people who enjoy a challenge and new experiences you will likely not only be encouraged to do and think similarly but you will also find yourself diving into challenges and thinking more positively about yourself and life.

Confidence isn't grown overnight sometimes people are born naturally confident, a lot of confidence is developed as a child at home and not everyone has the family or support necesscary to grow up as a confident individual and in reality most people will struggle with confidence at some point in their life.

That doesn't mean that you can't consistenly work on yourself as a person and take steps necesscary to become a more confident person.

Here are some quick tips on how to build confidence :

• Visualize yourself as you want to be.
• Affirm yourself.
• Do one thing that scares you every day.
• Question your inner critic.
• Take the 100 days of rejection challenge.
• Set yourself up to win.
• Help someone else.
• Care for yourself

For more information on the 100 days of rejection challenge view this TedTalk

I hope this helps some people as much as it did myself. These are tips & rules I live by however I am always willing, anxious and excited to grow more as a person. While consistently working on being the best writer, mom , sister, and friend I can be.

Personal growth is the best gift you can give yourself.

Author Note - Thank you for reading, If you liked this article please hit that heart button, shares and tips are always so apperciated but I equally apperciate you taking the time from your day to read this to the end. Thank you & I hope you have a good day !