How i met vee (Victoria)

A 2015/16 school party that almost cost me my sanity.

In this photo is myself, behind a lady named Vee (not her real name), and a few friends and lodge-mates partying hard during a matriculation ceremony held in our lodge for new intakes sometime in 2015/16.

Vee was a loner, she was an Ajebo (a rich kid), she was pompous and barely talk to anyone in the lodge, she stays all by herself always indoors and no one in the lodge of 16 self-contain rooms knew much about her.

In the lodge, I happen to have some of the basic appliances that might make other lodge mates come around. Friends and lodge mates would charge their phones and devices in my room and some would stay behind to see movies when I wasn’t busy.

So on that party day, Vee came out to party with us but wouldn’t dance with anyone, lodge-mates must have been left in awe seeing Vee in a Denim bum short and skimpy dress obviously ready to party.

I took courage as one of the most friendly amongst the ladies and approached Vee for a dance, we synced almost immediately and the flow was mutual, we started dancing, a few friends and lodge mates used that as an avenue to also share a picture with her, it was dance and booze all through, while at that everyone got tipsy, I sensed she must have had enough, I then took Vee to her room—- the very first time I entered Vee’s room.

That night she professed love to me, that she had always wanted to reach out, it escalated really fast because it has always been mutual, it was very intense and I ended up piercing her, afterwards , I zipped up then retired to my quarters bidding her good night.

I felt it was just fun and that’s it, but Vee wanted more.

It was like I woke the beast in her.

She wouldn’t let me focus on school anymore, while in class she would call that she had become asthmatic and urgently needed my attention, when I arrive, it would turn out to be piercing that she needs, i would pierce and pierce till I won’t be able to return back to class.

The piercing was more than the food I was eating, she barely cooked, barely ate except for junks, I was loosing weight, sometimes 7 times a day— a student for that matter.

Mind you, prior to mingling with Vee, she was asthmatic yet a smoker, she barely ate and could smoke all day. When I met her, I talked her out of some of her bad habits she inherited from Spain while with her parent, she reduced meeting some of her wayward friends, at a point she even forgot she had Asthma because she barely had need for an inhaler. I bought her food, helped her do some of her arts assignments that has to do with drawing and pretty much anything, she enjoyed my company but all through, my time with her was taking a toll on my education and my work, she wouldn’t let me have space at all.

In all I did for Vee, I did for care not because I thought I was in a relationship with her, but she felt we were dating (no we weren’t), we were just piercing and most of it was done because she needed it.

It was excess and obvious in the lodge. She comes to my room to charge her device we pierce, she wants to help me cook noodles we pierce, I escort her back to her room we pierce, she opts I sponge her back in the bathroom we pierce — I nearly pierced myself away.

As if that was not enough, she became toxic, wants to order me around, wants me to inherit her lodge enemies, if she wasn’t friends with Miss A she also wants me not to be friends with Miss A, she wants me to spend all my time with her, I barely got time for myself, my studies, I barely played football with the boys again, I literally stayed with her or she stayed at my place, other female lodge mates wouldn’t come to my room again or even talk to me, at a point she started fighting other girls or warning them to steer clear from me. The complaints was much.

One day, while I was in Vee’s room, I summoned the courage and told Vee that I want us to terminate the relationship— that I was fed up already, her response was simple “no wahala and she smiled”, next thing she went to the kitchen brought out a knife that she was going to kill me, I thought it was a joke, till I managed to dodge a few swipes from her, I quickly ran outside, she chased me, we started running round the lodge lobby across lodge mates rooms, she kept chasing me, till I managed to get into my room and lock myself inside— it was both dramatic and shameful to my person.

I started imagining within myself, how I would have been killed by a lady because of a false relationship. Somebody I had told that I have a serious relationship prior, why would she attack me like that? — I thought within myself while breathing heavily inside my room.

The next approach was to call Vee on the phone and tell her I was joking pending till I device a strong alternative and a strategy to break away from such a toxic affair. She disagreed that it was a lie, in her words “I will kill you and kill myself”, shortly my lodge friends came to my room, some in quest of what must have warranted her to chase me so seriously like that, they inquired if we had fought, I said “No” that I had only told her the relationship is over but she chose to kill me instead, they adviced me to leave the lodge till she calms down.

I applied various precautionary methods, I even remember sowing seeds in the church for the relationship to be broken. It was obvious that I was in danger because mom and girlfriend would call telling me all sorts of bad dream with a lady they had. I knew I needed fo act fast. Some of the precautions, was that from class, I retire to a friends place, stay there till it’s dusk and sneak into the lodge, most times I go from there back to campus to read, this continued for a while, till she accepted her fate, moved on and stopped talking to me.

Later on, Vee was barely seen in the lodge, she would come around sparingly from her friends’ and when she sees me, she just ignores me, sometimes just says a Hi with a smirk and that’s it. If I try to talk to her she either bangs the door at me, or just listens and walks away, I wouldn’t be that stupid forcing myself to let her hear me out or worse enter her room. I just let her be.

Shortly, I graduated and left, feeling the greatest relief ever, I wondered what I had gotten myself into, how I almost lost my sanity. My peace and freedom was on the line. Never will i or any man trade those for mere piercing, never!.

I was happy and relieved of such an ungodly and daunting duties.

The last time I saw Vee, was when I visited the school for a function many years later, I saw her in the campus, obi amapum (my heart skipped), I wondered why she would still be around even as a party-time student after so many years. I don’t know if she recognized I was the one, but I went my own way.

Since then, anytime I reconnect with my lodge mates, the first question the guys asks me is always “You don ever see Vee since then?”

~ Fidelis