- To Be Loved -
~ Love & Marriage ~
- The Wrong-Right ~ Multiple Marriages -
To Be Loved~Oh what a feeling~Someone to Care Someone to Share Lonely hours during Moments of Despair ~
— Am I Choosing UP? —
The fact that the chairs are empty may be a perfect image of daydreaming ~ Who's Next ~
Fascinating to me; a curiosity if you will. From merely an 'observational' layman's point of view, it has always piqued my interest the thinking behind this issue.
Could it be to some that they only feel 'fulfilled' when snuggled within a marriage, and all the adventure therein; or just the fear-factor of being single once again? There is a Jewish Passover message: The Four Questions "Why this night?" ~ With a similar twist ~ WHY this Wife and not the others - even after 4 or 5 tries -
— Romance ~ Wearing Off ~ Stepping Up —
Some may search for 'The Next' way before the current Love interest ends – Pure 'Boredom' perhaps? – oftentimes all of us just need to slow down our enthusiasm long enough to feel and just hear another’s words.
Who me cynical? Hit me once it's your fault - hit me (3) times it's my fault! Could the 'Next' really be the IT ?
My dear friend tells me that she seems to thrive better when nestled inside a long term love relationship. For her, it is the day to day exchanges of affection, communication and knowing that her Love~Marriage partner truly has her back. Yep, even better than a Loving Corgi ~ Nah!
She adds that partners in this situation not only care for each other, on a continuous basis, but take care of each other’s needs as well; even as those needs may evolve: Kind of a Pollyanna approach. So perhaps one must honestly ask before reaching a conclusion (and after posting a Pro/Con sheet on the Fridge door) what they expect and need from another person. Even after sharing our precious time ticking away with another human intertwining every aspect of our lives, with someone we love, indeed should not be taken lightly.
Her Dad Quiped: I keep giving you away and they keep giving you back.
Accepting what most men and women believe themselves to be these days, she maintains that real acceptance includes vulnerability. Yes, that can be scary. Another person could leave you, steal your heart from you, or worse your self respect. But, I've agreed with her that getting your heart broken is far worse than the aforementioned check-list maladies that trusting another in your life may bring.
Ah, therein lies the rub of committing to your choice of walking one’s life path as a couple – Sitting and Gazing at the Sun-Set as One – After taking that plunge previously with several others, how much are we willing (or emotionally able) to risk for all of the joys of long-term love again? One huge drawback for me has been to be so aware of the mistakes that I've made before puts an unrealistic emphasis - 'Walking on Eggshells' - with my Mrs. "Next!"
— Out to Pasture —
Never to seem defeatist: "Why do we try, why do we settle, and is it worth it?" Reasons to keep trying might be ego, duty, or adventure. Why we settle may be due to comfort levels, pessimistic attitudes, or ennui (a feeling of weariness and dissatisfaction). Whether or not our efforts are worth it varies with both the situation and the people or 'Un-Things' involved.
Do you think A.i. will ever become 'smart enough' to pick the 'perfect’ life partner for any and all of us? Somehow, I think such issues are way too gnarly or complex, but I thought I’d ask anyway. Ultimately our one on one exposure to ask 'Daddy A.i.'s' advice would certainly put dating sites out of Biz~Quick if they offered smell-o-vision pheromone scents to their offerings.
This 'Multiple-Choice' observation covers so many of life-levels; not exclusive only to 'Partners.' Our simple stories seem to be 'Obsolete-Dinosaurs' with the onslaught of A.i. scribblers among us. We may now be referred to as obsolete 'Hacks' within this Original Scribblers-Society! Relegate us to the passed-over pastures!
– Whew Didn't see this Coming - Away with us Thinkers –
* Dr. Andrew Yellen, Ph.D Psychologist, and Therapist Appraisal Comment: "Jay poses many philosophical and real-life dilemmas in this piece, all worth considering. Is he posing the questions to himself, to the reader, or both? This is like Life's Mr. Toad’s Wild Ride through the minefields of when/if to move on after a relationship has ended, for whatever the reason. These are certainly many thought-provoking and relatable ideas. Most people, especially after losing someone, need some form of guidance, a 'how to-fix' for healing the emotional wounds."
Jay Kantor, Chatsworth, California
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Or is he by now posing them to AI? Just askin'?
AI is getting real good at the human schtick, pretty sure they can hook you up. Me, I leave that topic alone...just enjoying the wonders that I missed in the hustle and bustle, too busy to smell the roses. Too much work, Jay...emotionally draining. But who knows,,,hope abounds. Kudos.
Your text touches my heart. We all need to reflect on what true love means to us with courage and honesty.
An amusing and involving rampage through relationships and love. Top work J! 😊
JB - Actually which character in your drawing - the purchaser or the purchased - is the focus of your story really about? - Mart
Loved your piece and the topic herein, Jay. Congratulations, too, on the Top Story recognition - it's certainly well-deserved.
Brilliant. Whenever I wonder why I can't be a Top Creator in the Humor Community, I remember it's because of you. ⚡ ♥️ ⚡
This was wonderful. And thought-proving. It got me thinking about my own choices, how they've evolved, how they're still evolving. Married 10 years now. I can admit that a decade ago, the drive to get married had a quality of validation, both social and personal. I did deeply love my partner and still do, but how that love has changed over the years is interesting. It's gotten calm, peaceful, where in the beginning is was fun and exciting. I've enjoyed all the stages so far. Eager to see how it changes with the years to come. Thank you, for such a lovely post!
Ooh. AI choosing our partners. Never thought about that! Just want to say how much I love your artwork Jay. It’s so clever. Happy New Year to you.
Do I have to start calling you -- Dr J-bud? You covered quite a lot of ground here, my friend. Witty, humorous and thought provoking even if it was satire. Bride of the Month 😅
Lol. Your satire is fantastic!
Love your satire to be loved!!! This line was hilarious, "Her Dad Quiped: I keep giving you away and they keep giving you back." Congratulations, Jay, on Top Story!!!
Jay - Do you think anyone goes for the 2-for-1 offer as shown in the store window? One's quite enough for me - Lon
Love this! Can very much relate to the feelings and assessments of modern day relationships and marriage.
Jay -Terrific story and great drawings while funny and thought provoking at the same time. Good way to end the story with Dr. Yellen’s comments. Nice reading all the different places your mind takes you. Good for you! - Faye
I spent xmas alone. I've spent most my life alone if I think about it actually. the few times i got bamboozled into thinking that someone loved me, whoever hated me ruined it somehow. I don't blame myself. I am no worse or better than anyone who is actually in a relationship being "loved' and I don't believe any of it anymore. If love was real, we wouldn't need 9-1-1 nor would a granny be lying on a cold floor crying "Help, I've fallen and I can't get up"... Love is a marketing campaign for vulnerable people to be nice to each other while they pay the rent. The pain I've been in for over a week is getting no love. I know that no one cares and I can't even care anymore. My only comfort is the thought that nothing lasts forever, not even pain and soon I won't be here anymore to contemplate these ridiculous notions.
Well-wrought, Jay! As usual, many smiles and laughs here, mostly due to your impeccable delivery! Some of us fare best in solitude... though this does not mean we forego love. That we equate love with only carnal or familial knowledge of one another shows that we lost something in the shuffle of civilization, or so I've discovered. On that note: many blessings and much love!
When your young, love and marriage is driven as much by sex as it is by feelings. Marriage later in life is about true feelings for the other person because, lets face it, the whole sex thing fizzles out, not as much for men as women.
Great!! Loving love. I've been in love since I was 16 minus a year here and 9 months there.💕 I still love the 2 exes, one is deceased ❤️. It is possible. I never thought that was possible at breakup time.
Excellent article, one again. As for AI choosing a mate, nah. I'll pass on that. Too cold, no feeling. Happy new year!
Intersting article!
JB - Yet another thought-provoking and humorous article along with enlightening drawings. Life is a rollercoaster of emotions, whether you are in a long-term committed marriage like I am, or in a series of short-term relationships searching for the right balance of give and take in a partner - Kathy
Some serious schtick here. I am afraid I have no experience about any of it to comment much. I met my husband in a nightclub. I was quite drunk. We have been together 32 years. I reckon AI is cleverer than drunk 18year old Caroline was, but I doubt it is ever going to feel the way she did! 🥰
Love ever after has its appeal, that’s for sure! But somehow or other my wife and I have stayed together through thick and thin for 45 years. But could lightening strike a second time? Seems unlikely. Thanks for a thought provoking story, Jay!
Dear Jay, As always, I'm glad to see your thought-provoking articles being posted. Watching some folks get married is like watching a round of musical chairs, someone's always left out. As for AI picking a match, it doesn't seem like it could do much worse than some of the choices some have made. The dating game has me completely confused. I'm so glad I don't have to be a part of it. Sincerely, Mother