How To Forgive Someone

In society, forgiveness is often a complex topic. Some say we need to forgive wrongdoers to heal, whereas others are more ambivalent towards doing so or even actively discourage it. Regardless, it frequently stirs up rather strong emotions in people.

No matter what you believe on the subject, there’s no denying that forgiveness is strongly encouraged by a lot of people. From dealing with officials and followers in organized religions of varying stripes to mundane co-workers, deadbeat partners and abusive parents, you might find yourself in a situation where you are being pressured to forgive someone you do not want to.

Could you fake your sympathies when other people are bugging you about forgiving someone and let the mask go down once they’re not around? Sure. But why try living a lie when you could just as easily actually try to forgive whoever wronged you?

This article will cover ways to forgive a person you really don’t want to forgive when they’ve done you wrong. Be it serious or mild, life is so much better when you can just peacefully offer forgiveness to everyone that’s hurt you. Screw having your own thoughts and desires!

Forget

A common saying is to “forgive and forget.” It’s for good reason. When you don’t remember exactly what someone did to you, there’s no way their actions can have any sort of impact on you. Repressed trauma? What’s that?

The bottom line is that forgetting is an easy step to forgive a person in the first place. It doesn’t require much thought or introspection regarding what truly happened. Why would you hate someone if you can’t even recall what they’ve done to you, anyways?

So the next time you can’t forgive someone, close your eyes and go “la la la” at your memories of them. If you still manage to remember their wrongdoings after that, distract yourself. Do some banal stuff like gaming or scrolling through cat memes or reading picture books. And if that still doesn’t help…well, good luck. You’re on your own; I’d rather not get my profiles banned.

Be A Doormat

Let’s say forgetting isn’t working for you. No matter how much you try to suppress your memories of how much a person hurt you, they always aggressively push themselves to the top of your mind. Have no fear: being a doormat is the perfect option!

No, I’m not talking about becoming a literal doormat that people can physically walk over on a regular basis. That would be scientifically impossible. However, the concept is similar. Instead of having people step on your physical body, why not just let them drain your emotions freely?

Don’t ever fight back or even assert your boundaries in any way. Doing so only makes you as bad as your aggressors, right? There’s no such thing as nuance! If you feel miserable at the end of it, too bad. Suck it up, buttercup.

Find Religion

Remember how I said religion often encourages people to forgive others earlier? Well, this section will go over that.

Everything that Religion™ says is automatically a good thing. It’s the holy word of God, after all. So if Religion™ tells you to just blindly forgive you, then just do so. You don’t want to be condemned to Hell for all eternity, right?

Forget the fact that many mainstream religious people do have lines to draw when it comes to tolerating people. No. Why does that matter when you’re desperately looking for a way to forgive your No. 1 enemy?

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If you follow all of this advice, you are well on your way to completing your forgiveness journey!

Any other thoughts on this? Let me know in the comments!

*To be serious for a moment: this article is satire. Please do not take any advice provided here seriously.

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