Youtuber's Experiment Proves Incels Wrong

This video by a Youtuber named Jack Gordon suddenly popped up in my Youtube feed:

The experiment he ran may not have adhered to strict scientific standards considering the relatively small sample size, but it was still insightful nonetheless.

The results will not surprise anyone experienced with dating a lot of women.

Incels will argue against them because they lack the lived experience to know what's really true.

They selectively only see evidence that confirms their existing biases. They would rather be right than to actually find happiness in the arms of a wonderful woman.

Pathetic. And entirely unscientific, too.

Let's discuss the results of this little experiment.

The second man in the lineup was originally rated to be the most attractive man there.

However, the results started to dramatically change after some variables were manipulated.

When controlling for the variable of humor by making the man who was originally judged as the most attractive the least humorous, he received one of the lowest scores.

Also, when controlling for height, the man who was able to "rizz" the best (that's Gen Z's slang for "having game" or being charismatic) received the highest score, even though he was made to look like the shortest man there.

These results fly in the face of the "incel" or "blackpill" narrative that it's all just about looks. They don't understand that men and women have fundamental differences in how they experience attraction.

Another important thing to note is what happened to the first man in the end.

Even though he was not rated as the most attractive man in the lineup overall, there was one woman from the experiment who was really into him.

As discussed in Never Lonely: The Uncensored Guide on How to Attract and Be Loved by Women, women's physical attraction to men is highly varied.

Straight men might all agree that one certain woman is absolutely stunning.

You will be hard pressed to find as much consensus among women about whether or not any certain man is physically attractive.

So, it's absolutely true that some women can find you very physically attractive even if some other women don't.

Just don't do something stupid like trying to make conclusions about your attractiveness based on online dating experiences. That's a totally different world from meeting people in real life.

If you're a man, what can you do to maximize your attractiveness to women?

A bunch of dudes these days are way too focused on "looksmaxxing," or trying to optimize your appearance.

Your looks count, but they aren't nearly as important as you think they are. What will count far more is your overall skill in interacting with women.

I'm talking about social skills. I'm talking about being able to make people feel good. I'm talking about what the kids call "rizz" these days.

Those learnable skills count for a hell of a lot more than anything else:

This article was originally published on Medium.

Update for Vocal Media:

Ever since this article was first published on Medium, it sparked a lot of lively discussion in the comments. It naturally attracted attention from bitter, miserable manosphere men and trolls who turn their nose up at any potentially empowering suggestion that things can change for the better. Other comments, however, highlighted some great points.

I especially appreciated all the women in the comments taking their time to confirm my assertion that they experience attraction in a different way compared to most men. The misguided assumption that these attraction mechanisms aren't as gendered as they actually are is at the root of so much bitterness that manosphere men develop toward women. It's important for us to recognize and celebrate our differences if we want to reach a point of mutual understanding.

I understand that there are outlier cases where some men in the manosphere have certain neurodivergences that make it nearly impossible to even consider evidence that goes against their preconceived notions that cause bitter feelings toward women. However, I hope that, one day, the majority of men can wake up to realize the reality of how human psychology actually works, and for that realization to turn them away from such bitterness, and toward more compassion.

And, as a men's dating coach, I will tell you with absolute certainty that dating becomes much, much easier once you let go of that bitterness and embrace compassion.