Would you be with an abuser who you loved once?

Domestic abuse over the years have only been perpetuated if not ideally put an end to. Women who are victims choose either to speak up and face backlash from the society or digest every humiliation and seconds of hurt they are inflicted. As deplorable as it sounds, the toxic masculinity of men and them being raised and conditioned to believing that women are merely inferior to them in all sectors of life is what creates a community of people whose mindsets are sternly reduced to objectifying women.

Falling in love can lead you to devote your everyday, invest your every hour on your man. But how does all the love, trust, and emotion still stay compact and sturdy when your self respect and dignity is demeaned. Can you allow yourself to be living in peace with a person who already disrupted all the peace and comfort that lived within your relationship with him. Would the sound of your love’s laughter still echo in your ears when all they hear is the sound of that slap resonating.

How many times have you pondered what goes on in the mind of a woman who’s been physically and emotionally abused by her loved one. Those who decide to remain quiet about it and move on with their lives, what about them? That “it’s perhaps a onetime thing and won’t happen again.” Or that “I’m too head over heels in love with him to call that an issue”. Every abused person hurts the same and no person can be emotionally, mentally or even physically stable after that happens to them. “Leaving your husband or boyfriend for just a little hit/smack/slap just because he was drunk or pissed for some other reason and needed to vent out is not a great decision for your life”. Can someone for real justify mutilating someone’s soul and body with the above statement? Utterly disturbing but it is indeed true that it reaches to many women who decide to get rid of their abusive partners.

My question to every women is how would they decide to carry on with their lives if something like this happened to them. Punish them for their crimes, leave them on their own and never get back with them or simply accept it as your fate.

Your love can go beyond boundaries but your love cannot justify what crosses limits. If you are or know someone who is in an abusive relationship, reach out to them because the bigger pandemic needs to stop.