Why People Criticize

Just because we don't like to be criticized doesn't mean we can't learn to deal with it.

Would you like to find a magic wand to help you eliminate criticism from your life? Would you like to keep only those criticisms that are constructive and not to be affected by the others? Did you know that some people criticize just to make them feel better?

Because that's how they feel better. Highlighting the "bad" things or "mistakes" that those around you make gives you the feeling that you are better and so your EGO feels good!

Some may not like what you are doing. Why? Because you progress and, by comparison, their flaws stand out more. Others will even show aggression.

That is why the people who develop, who stand out with certain qualities are the most hunted. They are taken into consideration by those around them and when they make a mistake they are judged! Or worse, they are pushed by those around them in an unpleasant situation, to distract them from the road.

Did you know that there are vagrants that their "colleagues" removed because they were not or did not want to become, like them, alcoholics or, worse because they wanted to regain self-esteem and reintegrate? into society? INTERESTING, RIGHT?

Nobody likes to be criticized and that's normal. Criticism means that you are missing something, that you have flaws, that someone finds you unpleasant. Even constructive criticism, while aimed at helping you rather than hurting you, still leaves you with many questions in mind: What if I can't correct myself? What if I'm just not good enough?

Unfortunately, if you do not receive criticism, you will never progress. It doesn't matter if you are already an expert in everything you do, but most of us work hard to become better every day. It would be great if we could criticize ourselves, but in general, we need an objective person to give us advice.

Just because we don't like to be criticized doesn't mean we can't learn to deal with it. Here are some useful tricks:

1. The source is important.

Not all criticisms have the same value. The advice from an expert in the field is more important than a friend who just tells you to "try again". Find people who are already where you want to go and consider their suggestions more than those of people who can't put themselves in your situation. What's more, find a mentor to talk to whenever you have questions.

Look for tips on which you can start acting immediately. Has anyone ever told you (a teacher, a boss, a friend) that something you did "just isn't good enough"? This is the worst way to criticize.

You can't progress if no one gives you advice on how to do it. You have to look inside yourself for the reasons why you are not doing well enough in a certain field. Find out exactly what you need to do to become better, for example, you may need to improve your editorial skills or take a public speaking course.

2. Pay attention to repeated advice.

If you receive criticism from several trusted people, you may receive the same advice several times. Exactly on those aspects, you will have to focus first, otherwise, you risk being criticized endlessly for one shortcoming until, in the end, you will somehow try to rectify the situation.

3. Do not try to improve all aspects of your life equally.

You may have heard the opinion of someone who seems to you to be a trusted person, but your instinct to tell you is stupid.

Follow your instincts in this case! You don't have time to fix all your shortcomings, so you have to choose your battles. Focus on the issues that seem important to you. Keep unimportant advice for later, and for now, create a battle plan that will please you in the first place.

4. Try again.

It doesn't matter if you failed first when someone criticized you. You have received advice on how to improve your performance in the future, you have made your action plan, you just have to try again. It is best learned by trial and error, so if possible, ask for the same person's opinion as the first time. If you receive new advice to progress, then you know you are on the right track.

The most important thing is not to let criticism get you down

It is easy to get entangled in the complicated tasks of personal development. There will be times when you feel that you will never get where you want to go, or that there is too much to learn. Everyone was a beginner at one point. Do not be discouraged in this journey, enjoy it and what you do, with the certainty that you are getting better and better!

Choose well the people around whom you spend your day. Avoid the grumpy ones who always complain about something, like the gossipers. We need people to evolve, to live, to feel, to be SUCCESSFUL! Whatever your goals!

Some people interact with others out of interest, some out of need, others out of sheer addiction, out of a desire to no longer feel alone, some out of love, and many other reasons. We can understand others for whatever reason and we can make each other's lives easier if we take into account a few small things, but with a huge impact on us all.

There will always be differences between people. Whether it's about race, gender, religious preferences, belonging to one community or another, tastes, or conceptions of life, we are all different.

How do you deal with criticism?